Consolidated Discussion - A man's/woman's height in the search for relationships

[somedude81]

Yeah, they fluctuate from D to DD, but he swore up and down that they looked like B's on our first date.

 

Maybe you just really strapped them down? I think you said that you dressed conservatively for the date.

 

If he had his way they would've been G cups.

 

Ha I know what he means!

 

I had that conversation with my ex. She knew I was crazy about boobs and loved them big. I told her it would be great if she was bigger (not talking about implants at all), and she said no and started talking to me about all the pain it was just to have boobs that were 32 D.

 

Boob talk makes me happy

[Maleficent]

If he wasn't famous & was 5'3" I doubt you'd be saying he's smoking hot. You probably wouldn't even give him a second look if he was non-famous & happened to see him pass you on the street. People tend to overrate celebrities just because their famous. I see women at my gym who I find more attractive than a lot of celebrity women that guys seem to drool over.

 

Oh well, since you seem to know me and my opinions better than myself, you're probably right.

[Anela]

Maybe you just really strapped them down? I think you said that you dressed conservatively for the date.

 

 

 

Ha I know what he means!

 

I had that conversation with my ex. She knew I was crazy about boobs and loved them big. I told her it would be great if she was bigger (not talking about implants at all), and she said no and started talking to me about all the pain it was just to have boobs that were 32 D.

 

Boob talk makes me happy

 

Why is that sort of talk okay, but any remarks about how it would be great if you were taller, wouldn't be?

[somedude81]

I was tall and thin with long legs back then and had a lot of guys hanging around. I never had an hourglass figure though, short waist. Tall thin people don't usually have big boobs.

 

Kate Upton?

 

I've known plenty of girls that were thin and had big boobs. Of course I have boober vision so I tend to notice the women that are busty

 

The way guys are, is that some men really like legs, and some men really like boobs. So no matter which you are, there will always be guys interested.

[NJ123]

Oh well, since you seem to know me and my opinions better than myself, you're probably right.

 

Yeah, and like you seem to know whether I have a sense of humor or not. Seems you just wanted to start an argument with me for no reason at all.

[Anela]

Oh well, since you seem to know me and my opinions better than myself, you're probably right.

 

We're women, so we can't be trusted to make good decisions, or to be honest. Apparently.

[somedude81]

Why is that sort of talk okay, but any remarks about how it would be great if you were taller, wouldn't be?

 

I was joking with my ex.

 

She had large boobs for her frame and saying that they should be bigger was teasing her. I knew she wished her breasts were smaller.

 

BTW, she also teased me about my height, saying that we had exactly the same leg length but she was three inches shorter.

 

It was all in good fun.

[Maleficent]

Yeah, and like you seem to know whether I have a sense of humor or not. Seems you just wanted to start an argument with me for no reason at all.

 

Considering I made a joke you twisted around to prove your point, I think it's fair I doubted your sense of humour.

 

However, I flat out said that I would date a short guy and you decided that I felt otherwise.

 

Totally the same thing...

[NJ123]

We're women, so we can't be trusted to make good decisions, or to be honest. Apparently.

 

Who said you can't be trusted to make good decisions or be honest? When have I ever said that? She was joking about how she'd date some famous actor even if he was short. Of course most women are going to date a famous guy regardless of their height, and that's what I was trying to get at. All bets are off if the guy has money or famous.

[Maleficent]

Who said you can't be trusted to make good decisions or be honest? When have I ever said that? She was joking about how she'd date some famous actor even if he was short. Of course most women are going to date a famous guy regardless of their height, and that's what I was trying to get at. All bets are off if the guy has money or famous.

 

If women only dated men with money or who are famous, most of us would be forever alone.

 

Get your head out of your butt. This attitude is going to get you no where with women.

[xxoo]

. But it's never going to change, if a woman wants a tall guy than no one is going to change their mind.

 

There you go. Obviously, those women's preferences are not worth any more of your mind space.

 

Personally, I've just recently met a smoking hot man who is my height, 5'3". Can't take my eyes off of him, he's so gorgeous!

[NJ123]

Considering I made a joke you twisted around to prove your point, I think it's fair I doubted your sense of humour.

 

However, I flat out said that I would date a short guy and you decided that I felt otherwise.

 

Totally the same thing...

 

Most women are going to date a famous actor regardless of how tall they are. Even the ones who prefer tall guys would make an exception just because their rich & famous. But their perceptive of that same person would change drastically if they were non-famous. True, you said you would date shorter guys, but wouldn't you say it's possible that your perception of some of these famous people you like would change if they weren't famous?

[NJ123]

If women only dated men with money or who are famous, most of us would be forever alone.

 

Get your head out of your butt. This attitude is going to get you no where with women.

 

You misinterpreted what I was saying. I was stating specifically if a woman had the opportunity to date a good guy with money or a famous person than they'd take up the opportunity to do so. But obviously of course I know that's not realistic to happen. Most famous people date other famous people so they know the person their with is not with them just for their money. There's some exceptions like Matt Damon.

[thefooloftheyear]

Practically all the men in my family are all in the 5'5" to 5'9" range....NONE of us have had any problem finding and attracting women...I repeat ....NONE....And not one of the guys in my family are married to dogs....They are all attractive smart and accomplished..

 

If the theory you guys are spouting off is true, then perhaps at least one of us would be struggling, no?

 

Quite frankly, while I freely respect it, I dont get the attraction some women have to exclusively taller guys..What is the advantage? If you ask me, after a guy reaches like 5'11" or so(or 5'8" for women), they start to look gangly and disproportionate..Not all, but quite a few..If you see the classic male physique as muscular type, then most of those classic physiques exist on shorter guys...Facial attractiveness, intelligence, earning capability, and yes, even penis size has absolutely nothing to do with how tall a guy is....So why the obsession? Trying to create a daddy scenario? Protection? I dunno...Like I said, do whatever suits you..

 

Its never affected me negatively (5'6"), yet I did never really fully understood it...Just one of those things I guess..

 

TFY

[NJ123]

And I know women date good guys who happen to have low paying jobs, or guys who make a lot less than them, or guys with health issues. There's tons of good-hearted women out there.

[Maleficent]

Most women are going to date a famous actor regardless of how tall they are. Even the ones who prefer tall guys would make an exception just because their rich & famous. But their perceptive of that same person would change drastically if they were non-famous. True, you said you would date shorter guys, but wouldn't you say it's possible that your perception of some of these famous people you like would change if they weren't famous?

 

You know what amazes me about this site? There are tons of men - coming here for support and advice. I'm going to leave out women because this is something I haven't seen so much from female posters...

 

Every week there is a new post from a man complaining about how dating is so hard because women prefer tall/hunky/muscular/rich/etc. Every time, most women will comment and say, actually, no there is more to choosing a boyfriend than his bank account, his look, etc.

And every time, most of the men with similar complains refuse to believe us a tell us how they think we really feel.

 

Should all the women of LS leave so you can have your little place where you can all complain and agree with each other with each other women really are the source of your problems?

[thefooloftheyear]

You know what amazes me about this site? There are tons of men - coming here for support and advice. I'm going to leave out women because this is something I haven't seen so much from female posters...

 

Every week there is a new post from a man complaining about how dating is so hard because women prefer tall/hunky/muscular/rich/etc. Every time, most women will comment and say, actually, no there is more to choosing a boyfriend than his bank account, his look, etc.

And every time, most of the men with similar complains refuse to believe us a tell us how they think we really feel.

 

Should all the women of LS leave so you can have your little place where you can all complain and agree with each other with each other women really are the source of your problems?

 

I think its a function of society....

 

Women b!tch as well..and shift blame...I see it on here as well..But I do agree with you...

 

Lets face it...Its much easier to blame failures on something obtuse, then look at yourself and realize that in fact the problem isn't what you think it is... its easer to cry in your beer, then make positive changes and admit to one's own faults and shortcomings.....That takes actual work....

 

TFY

[NJ123]

You know what amazes me about this site? There are tons of men - coming here for support and advice. I'm going to leave out women because this is something I haven't seen so much from female posters...

 

Every week there is a new post from a man complaining about how dating is so hard because women prefer tall/hunky/muscular/rich/etc. Every time, most women will comment and say, actually, no there is more to choosing a boyfriend than his bank account, his look, etc.

And every time, most of the men with similar complains refuse to believe us a tell us how they think we really feel.

 

Should all the women of LS leave so you can have your little place where you can all complain and agree with each other with each other women really are the source of your problems?

 

Maybe you didn't see my post after this one you quoted me with. But I stated I know there's good women out there that don't give a **** about bank account or how muscular the guy is or whatever else. I'm not delusional, I know not every woman wants some rich, good looking, muscular guy. But I'm just saying why wouldn't a woman date someone like that if they had the opportunity to do so if the guy happened to be a good guy?

Edited November 7, 2014 by NJ123

[NJ123]

There you go. Obviously, those women's preferences are not worth any more of your mind space.

 

Personally, I've just recently met a smoking hot man who is my height, 5'3". Can't take my eyes off of him, he's so gorgeous!

 

True, your pretty much right. There's no point of worrying about it any longer. I wouldn't want to be with someone that shallow in the first place.

[sillyanswer]

I've never said that my height is the only reason I struggle,

 

That's okay. I wasn't thinking of you.

[sillyanswer]

Of course height isn't the only issue, but short guys automatically no matter how successful, good looking, or great of a person they are have less options overall than a taller guy.

 

If everything else is equal, I think you're right. Women like what they like, and life isn't fair.

[AD1980]

Go after Asian or Hispanic women they're much more lenient.

 

Black and white women treat height like its gold..It goes beyond just attraction they talk about how they pray their male babies aren't short it's sickening..

 

To get a white or black women who doesn't care much about height she's usually bottom of the barrel with no options and can't afford to be picky..

[Anela]

NJ123: the thing is that I have people that I can blame for things, and I do still feel sorry for myself at times, regarding the age thing. I am partly to blame, though, and I still have to get up every day, and try to find a way to enjoy myself, or appreciate what I have - because I still have a lot to lose. I have to find a way to get into a head space that will help me, should I meet someone (so that I don't push them away with my insecurities and self-doubt).

 

I'm not supposed to be her today - I have things to do. There are things that we can't change, and most men aren't going to date me, or marry me, out of pity. It wouldn't feel good to me, if they did.

[Anela]

Go after Asian or Hispanic women they're much more lenient.

 

Black and white women treat height like its gold..It goes beyond just attraction they talk about how they pray their male babies aren't short it's sickening..

 

To get a white or black women who doesn't care much about height she's usually bottom of the barrel with no options and can't afford to be picky..

 

Oh, come on. Why can't you guys *listen*? This attitude is what's hurting you more than anything - I mean it. I've been there with my own fears. You get stuck in a mindset, and it's all related to fear - mainly that you *can't* change in order to get what you want, so you can't ever see yourself being happy. I've cried myself to sleep, or cried it out in the shower, over several men who had no interest in me, for whatever reason. We aren't immune, but you don't take that in - or if you do hear us on that, then you tell us that we're to blame, that we deserve it, OR that we're lying.

[clia]

But what I was getting at mainly is why prefer something in someone that they have absolutely no control over. That's why it feels really shallow to me. You can work on your education, work on your anger issues, work out of getting out of debt, work on getting a better job, work on getting better skills in things. Every single one of those things you mentioned you can change. But you can't change your height.

 

So based on this statement, I assume you are open to dating (and have dated) women who are below average in looks or who have physical deformities that they were born with or who have severe acne? You know, things they have absolutely no control over and can't change? If not, I guess you are shallow, too.