Consolidated Discussion - A man's/woman's height in the search for relationships

[Woggle]

It only matters to men because they know height matters so much to women. If a woman goes out in heels and is taller than a man it can kill a relationship on the spot so men go for shorter women.

[MrCastle]

Oh, I don't doubt that, I'm speaking strictly of OLD.

 

Ahh ok. Yeah I don't know. None of my friends use OLD, nor do I, so the only info I get about it is what I read online, more specifically here. Before joining I didn't know some women placed such a high emphais on height because that's never been my personal experience. If what the men on here say is true then online dating is a different animal.

[man_in_the_box]

Your concept of average is off. She's 4 inches above and you're 2-3.

 

Not for the Netherlands afaik. I've checked it a while ago and the average male in my age group is 6'0" (i thought it wasn't fair to include other age groups). I'm not sure about women though although she's obviously above the average pretty much anywhere.

[Red Wolverine]

That must be some awesome hair

 

It is. Naturally red (auburn), long, and thick.

[Simon Phoenix]

I'm completely average as far as height (5'10) and I really don't care about height. Last girlfriend was 5'8, so taller than me in heels. It didn't seem to bother her either, she liked to wear heels so she could be taller and I didn't mind because she had great legs. Last few girls I've dated were 5'11, 5'6, 5'3, so I guess I'm all over the place. I would say that if I had to choose, I'd choose taller rather than shorter. I'd prefer a 6-footer over a 5-footer, but I'm not rejecting either.

[tbf]

I'm completely average as far as height (5'10) and I really don't care about height. Last girlfriend was 5'8, so taller than me in heels. It didn't seem to bother her either, she liked to wear heels so she could be taller and I didn't mind because she had great legs. Last few girls I've dated were 5'11, 5'6, 5'3, so I guess I'm all over the place. I would say that if I had to choose, I'd choose taller rather than shorter. I'd prefer a 6-footer over a 5-footer, but I'm not rejecting either.

This is a more realistic view, where it appears that most men have a substantial bracket of heights that don't trigger non-attraction but they do appear to have "ideal" heights.

[HoneyBadgerDontCare]

My idealistic self thinks it will be a combination of winning factors - not just one - that will score you women.

 

For example if you're 5'5 but are well dressed and know how to be funny and share some interest with the woman you're targeting, it'll be hard for her to find that exact combination in most other men.

 

I don't know if the above is actually true, just a hypothesis.

 

Another point of evidence - there's this executive at the company where I work who's shorter than me (and not particularly handsome), but seems to have no problem with women.

 

He's married, and when we went out drinking a week ago (he invited me because I'm one of his most productive employees) he admitted that he has a mistress in another state.

 

He talked about a bunch of exciting cool things he did on some of his holiday trips, and he seems very smart and sophisticated.

 

I think the above things are more important to the women who like him than his height.

 

That's awesome that you have one anecdotal story, but the fact of the matter is that height is EXTREMELY important.

 

I'm short and many would say that I'm successful with women. So, yes, height isn't everything.

 

But after having many female friends and dating many girls, I could tell you with complete confidence that height is, by far, the most important physical trait to most women.

 

If you are short, you are at a SEVERE disadvantage that you really can't compensate for unless you are extremely rich or have the charisma of Tom Cruise.

 

That's not to say that you can't get laid. Girls will have sex with whoever they're attracted to, but they care deeply about how they look in pictures and what their friends think. So they go with a much taller guy because that's "in". Of course, occasionally, a girl will be okay with a shorter guy for more than sex. But this is the exception, not the rule.

[Weezy1973]

Height is a total non factor in my preferences when it comes to women, however weight is a major factor. I find that taller women tend to have more leeway when it comes to appearing slim than shorter women. Ten pounds on a shorty can be a lot; whereas it can be next to nothing on someone taller.

[Pookie5]

I think as a girl who is 5'6'', height matters for me a lot. Because logically speaking, i need to be able to dress up and wear my heels and not be towering over the guy. if the guy is 5'6'', that means if i even wear short 3 inch heels, i'm abnormally taller than him. he needs to be at least 5'10''. As for girls, ive noticed tall guys go for super short girls.. its sexy.. girls have it easy. they can be short and get all they want..

[Keenly]

Im 5 11. Anything 5 10 or shorter is good to go with me.

 

 

Preferences though, I love a short girl.

[soccerrprp]

I think as a girl who is 5'6'', height matters for me a lot. Because logically speaking, i need to be able to dress up and wear my heels and not be towering over the guy. if the guy is 5'6'', that means if i even wear short 3 inch heels, i'm abnormally taller than him. he needs to be at least 5'10''. As for girls, ive noticed tall guys go for super short girls.. its sexy.. girls have it easy. they can be short and get all they want..

 

Pookie,

 

I've heard the ladies talking about wearing heals as an explanation as to why they prefer taller guys (typicall 3-inches or taller). You're 5'6. But, you don't date guys shorter than 5'9 right? B/c if I use your "logic", you don't want to be tower over a guy when wearing your heals. So, I am assuming that you won't date anyone shorter than 5'9 or 5'10....or perhaps taller? So, your wearing heals is the determining factor as to whether you date a shorter or taller guy?

 

Just curious. So, you are not only looking for a taller guy, but he also has to be taller based on your shoe requirements?

 

Curious.

[white]

I'm 6' with bare feet. I have no preference in a womans height.

 

I think it would be exciting to be with a woman taller than me. I could get into the role reversal of having to look up to kiss her and putting my head on her shoulder instead.

[tbf]

I just asked H what his ideal height for women was, where as usual, he gave me a WTF look and then said "As long as she doesn't exceed [using hands to indicate] this while laying flat in my bed, I don't care". Smart-arse!

 

Based on pics with his exes and myself, he doesn't appear to have much preference for height.

[MrTurk]

Pookie,

 

I've heard the ladies talking about wearing heals as an explanation as to why they prefer taller guys

 

I have read that /\ on dating profiles constantly. I think many of them use the heels as an excuse....acting as if its not their fault....hiding the fact that they are actually insecure.....but throw the blame on the heels.

 

Example -Woman is 5' 6, says she loves to wear 3-4in heels all the time.....so she states she wont date a guy that is under 6ft.

 

But in reality...over half of the male population is taller than her when she doesnt wear heels. So take a moment and think of the huge chunk of the male population she is dismissing before she even leaves the house each day.

 

Does a woman like that really have room to b*tch if she cant find a good guy to date?

 

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[sweetkiwi]

I am a shorty, 5'1". It's never posed a problem AFAIK. If a guy isn't attracted to me because I am short he doesn't approach me and I am none the wiser. But I usually do the approaching and many guys have commented on how "cute" my height is.

 

Living in Italy, a land where the taller the better, hasn't even posed a problem.

[nescafe1982]

I have read that /\ on dating profiles constantly. I think many of them use the heels as an excuse....acting as if its not their fault....hiding the fact that they are actually insecure.....but throw the blame on the heels.

 

Example -Woman is 5' 6, says she loves to wear 3-4in heels all the time.....so she states she wont date a guy that is under 6ft.

 

But in reality...over half of the male population is taller than her when she doesnt wear heels. So take a moment and think of the huge chunk of the male population she is dismissing before she even leaves the house each day.

 

Does a woman like that really have room to b*tch if she cant find a good guy to date?

 

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I think women do use "but I wear heels" as a euphemistic way to say they prefer tall men. It's kind of a cop-out when used in that manner... but shoes do matter.

 

I, for instance, say "I'm 6'1" when I wear my shoes. If we're going to work, you'll have to be alright with that." And some men are... but a larger percentage than you would think are not.

 

No matter. Weeds my dating pool of insecure men, and spares me some headaches. Plus, um... stilettos are hot.

[sillyanswer]

I am a shorty, 5'1". It's never posed a problem AFAIK.

 

Last time I dated someone short I had to pick her up to kiss her. Well, didn't actually have to, but it was more fun that way.

[sweetkiwi]

Last time I dated someone short I had to pick her up to kiss her. Well, didn't actually have to, but it was more fun that way.

 

Yes it is . You're 6'2" right?

[Imported]

But in reality...over half of the male population is taller than her when she doesnt wear heels. So take a moment and think of the huge chunk of the male population she is dismissing before she even leaves the house each day.

 

 

 

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The reality is just a sliver of the male population at X age range and X height range that is single and looking is still a huge number. If she has no problems finding a guy she wants, than there is no problem.

[sillyanswer]

Yes it is . You're 6'2" right?

 

That's right.

[Southern Cal Dude]

If a woman is taller than me, there's probably a 90% chance she's in the WNBA.

[kaylan]

Been a while since I had a thread here so it's time for one. How much important is a woman's height in dating?? I know most people say it doesn't matter but I've had a few men, yes MEN mention my height (average) as a disadvantage in dating, as something that reduces my overall attractiveness mainly because it means I look less model like not being tall. One of my friends who is a tall dude always mentions a girl's height first when he wants to talk about her degree of hotness. Now it doesn't bother me too much, nothing I can do to change my height really. But I wonder how common this kind of thinking is when it comes to women.

Well, any data Ive seen on sexual preferences shows both men and women prefer around a 4 to 6 inch difference in height.

 

I dont see how an average girls height (id say 5'4 to 5'7) would be a disadvantage though. For the most part, guys arent finicky unless the women is pretty short or pretty tall. By pretty short I mean 5'1 and under, and by pretty tall I mean 5'9 and up. I could see a girl running into problems with some guys then, but she'd still have guys to choose from.

 

I think it becomes a problem for girls when they hit 5 ft and under or 6 ft and over. Ive heard women from both groups lament their dating options, but definitely the over 6 ft women seem to have the most trouble.

 

Personally, I prefer a girl whos around 5'2/5'3. Thats if I could pick a height I like best. But Im still really like women within 5'1 to 5'7. Thats not to say I wouldnt date girls outside of that range, but just that Im more attracted to women within that range. Do note that Ive dated women in the past who were 5'10 and 6ft tall. And Im 5'9 myself which is average height.

 

I think your friend is just a tall guy and because of that, likes tall women. It makes sense that he'd prefer the same height difference most guys seem to like. But considering that most guys wont be his height, I dont see how average sized women will have any problems with height screening from other men.

[Imajerk17]

Thing is mesmerized, different men have different preferences.

 

Some men like slender women. Some men like women who are thicker/curvier. When it comes to height I've gone for women 6" taller than I to 2" taller. I have no problem dating a girl who is physically a little bigger than I am, because I am strong for my size.

[Phoe]

I'm 5'8 and guys have told me they prefer shorter girls

[iris219]

Many guys will say height doesn't matter to them, but I believe it does. Some prefer shorter women, some prefer taller women, most would make exceptions for the right woman, but very few don't care at all. Most guys would rather not date a woman who's taller than they are. I don't think too many care about women being too short though.

 

Basically, being average height (5'4"-5'6") is probably best when it comes to attracting men.