Consolidated Discussion - A man's/woman's height in the search for relationships

[Southern Cal Dude]

I just feel bad for the 7'2 guys that are eliminated in that scenario.

 

 

Sucks for Yao Ming.

[Simon Phoenix]

I knew there had to be guys out there who liked long legs.

 

 

I've gotten more complaints about my legs being too long than anything else, haha.

 

I'm really not sure there is a such thing And my inseam is 30" at 5'10.

[Simon Phoenix]

Shorter guys will indeed date taller women, but they will wish she was shorter, which to me is worse than sticking to your preferences.

 

No they won't. At least I don't. I would date the hell out of a 6'1 chick and not a single f*ck would be given. Same with a 5'7 chick, etc.

[runningfar]

I was thinking the same thing. I have a 36 inch inseam and I'm a foot shorter than him.

 

But I also wear heels, so my pants are cut to fit. FWIW, my BF is 6'2" and has a 34 inch inseam. Ppl can vary a lot in that way.

 

One of my ex boyfriends was 6'5 with a 32 inch inseam. He looked much taller when he sat down (not that he ever didn't look tall)

 

 

I've never had my short side of average female height be an issue against. I have heard it as a plus. Guys, especially tall guys, seem to like my height.

Though I am totally jealous of tall girls with lose legs that just won't stop. I always wished I was at least a few inches taller.

[Star Gazer]

One of my ex boyfriends was 6'5 with a 32 inch inseam. He looked much taller when he sat down (not that he ever didn't look tall)

 

Sounds like Michael Phelps. He's all torso.

[MrCastle]

I think we should all try out different things, I think dating doesn't have to be so rigid. I think it's interesting for men to date taller women, or women to date taller men, experience it and take from it what they will. But in my experience walking the city streets, where you see anybody with anybody, it seems most partners are close in height.

 

I don't see these short women dating monster sized men as some claim on here. I don't see stuff like that often. I see taller than average women dating taller than average men. I see shorter dating shorter, etc.

 

I think it's probably easier that way in terms of kissing, looking at the partner, etc.

 

I don't think most people like to have to look down or look up at their partner anytime they want to make eye contact or kiss.

 

Dating within your height range just seems easier.

[PlumPrincess]

Same.

 

 

Guys 40 years my elder seem to find me acceptable though. lol.

I think online dating does not bring out the best in people.

[ThaWholigan]

I'm not too fussed about height. I have been with two relatively average height women (5 foot 3 and 5 foot 5). I dated a tall girl for a short while at the end of last year, which was kinda cool because I didn't have to bend down to kiss her , but generally I liked being with the shorter girls too.

 

I find that the height of a woman can add to her appeal, whatever her height is.

[tbf]

I'm 5'8 and guys have told me they prefer shorter girls

This, I don't understand since the average male height in the U.S. is 5'10" between the ages of 20 - 29 years old. This presumes that's your target audience and that you live in the U.S.

[PlumPrincess]

This, I don't understand since the average male height in the U.S. is 5'10" between the ages of 20 - 29 years old. This presumes that's your target audience and that you live in the U.S.

The guys want a shorty at whom they can look down.

[Simon Phoenix]

I think we should all try out different things, I think dating doesn't have to be so rigid. I think it's interesting for men to date taller women, or women to date taller men, experience it and take from it what they will. But in my experience walking the city streets, where you see anybody with anybody, it seems most partners are close in height.

 

I don't see these short women dating monster sized men as some claim on here. I don't see stuff like that often. I see taller than average women dating taller than average men. I see shorter dating shorter, etc.

 

I think it's probably easier that way in terms of kissing, looking at the partner, etc.

 

I don't think most people like to have to look down or look up at their partner anytime they want to make eye contact or kiss.

 

Dating within your height range just seems easier.

 

I concur with this. Part of what I don't like about dating the short crowd (5'3 and under) is the bending down to kiss and hug and all that. At 5'10, there aren't many women who are tall enough to where they have to bend down, or I have to stretch up. Tallest I've dated was 6'1 and I didn't find it weird at all. But in general you are right, most couples are in the same height range.

 

My buddy is a notable exception though. He's 6'3 and just married a 5'1 woman. But I have another 6'3 buddy getting married in a couple weeks to a 6'0 woman. Not sure what my point is, but I thought i'd share.

[MissBee]

It doesn't matter. Short women are cute, tall women are impressive. Being a woman is great.

 

Yep!

 

An ex of mine preferred tall women, I'm 5'4, he still was very attracted to me.

 

Another guy loved my height and preferred shorter women, although the woman he dated before me was almost his height, 6ft.

 

Most men I know seem to like a woman being shorter than them, my really tall friend, she's 6 ft something always feels insecure about her height and like men are intimidated by it. Whereas I never think about my height.

 

I feel height is more of a deal breaker for women re men, versus men re women.

 

Back when I was in my teens I dated a guy was about 5'8, shortest guy I've ever dated. Everyone else has been at least 5'11. Tallest guy I dated was 6'6!

[soccerrprp]

I'm 5'8 and guys have told me they prefer shorter girls

 

Interesting. My current gf is 5'8 and has never been told her height was a problem. Dang, go figure, huh?

[MrCastle]

I concur with this. Part of what I don't like about dating the short crowd (5'3 and under) is the bending down to kiss and hug and all that. At 5'10, there aren't many women who are tall enough to where they have to bend down, or I have to stretch up. Tallest I've dated was 6'1 and I didn't find it weird at all. But in general you are right, most couples are in the same height range.

 

My buddy is a notable exception though. He's 6'3 and just married a 5'1 woman. But I have another 6'3 buddy getting married in a couple weeks to a 6'0 woman. Not sure what my point is, but I thought i'd share.

 

I can only speak from my sample size. But I like my sample size. My sample size is one the most densely populated city in the country. I've seen everything dating wise. Different cultures, different sexual preferences, body types, age, whatever.

 

I still remember those times where I see extremely disproportionate couples because it doesn't happen very often. Whether short men/tall women or short women/tall men.

 

Most people I see together, I'm like "well, yeah."

 

It makes sense when I see them together. Just my experience.

[tbf]

The guys want a shorty at whom they can look down.

So you're suggesting that men have substantial height preferences? Could have sworn that the overwhelming response in this thread is that men have a spectrum of height preferences, where as long as the woman's shorter or equal in height, it's all good. Of course there are some guys that prefer or don't mind women who are taller, as well but they appear in the minority.

[PlumPrincess]

If I could decide, at 6 feet, it would be over. Anything above that scares me. I once met this guy who was 6'7" and I think he was somewhat interested. I always wonder what they find interesting about this midget in front of them.

[Southern Cal Dude]

My mom is 5'6" and has never had an issue. I think it comes down to looks. I don't think Maria Sharapova struggles much.

[Simon Phoenix]

Interesting. My current gf is 5'8 and has never been told her height was a problem. Dang, go figure, huh?

 

Yep, last girlfriend was 5'8 and she doesn't have problems attracting men. No such thing as legs that are too long IMO.

[Simon Phoenix]

I can only speak from my sample size. But I like my sample size. My sample size is one the most densely populated city in the country. I've seen everything dating wise. Different cultures, different sexual preferences, body types, age, whatever.

 

I still remember those times where I see extremely disproportionate couples because it doesn't happen very often. Whether short men/tall women or short women/tall men.

 

Most people I see together, I'm like "well, yeah."

 

It makes sense when I see them together. Just my experience.

 

Yeah, I live in the second-biggest city in the country and most populated region and I agree with your assessment.

[PlumPrincess]

So you're suggesting that men have substantial height preferences? Could have sworn that the overwhelming response in this thread is that men have a spectrum of height preferences, where as long as the woman's shorter or equal in height, it's all good. Of course there are some guys that prefer or don't mind women who are taller, as well but they appear in the minority.

Not everybody, but I think a lot do.

[TouchedByViolet]

have the charisma of Tom Cruise.

 

clearly you have no understanding of real charisma.

[Woggle]

Shorter guys will indeed date taller women, but they will wish she was shorter, which to me is worse than sticking to your preferences.

 

If they knew for sure that she didn't mind his height most men wouldn't care.

[PJKino]

Bottom line is women are more pickier and shallow about height

[mario_C]

I've always enjoyed tall women. I've had interesting experiences, for example: the other night I went to a club because I have no life and morals, but one of the bartenders - holy cow! Not only beautiful and amazing body, but REALLY tall, like a basketball player! I'm 6 feet exact, and she had a good 3-4 inches on me. I almost disregarded my rule of never asking out the bartender (not to mention hitting on women in bars).

It gets more interesting in the city, of course. I was at a meetup in the Village and this guy introduced me to his girl, a model who was also stunning and huge vertically, and he tried to get me to go to another club (couldn't find the place) where they were having a after hours runway show. Imagine the good times...

[mesmerized]

Bottom line is women are more pickier and shallow about height

 

So? Men are pickier about age, face, body etc. Actually I think men are much pickier about age than women are about height.

 

In any case, this thread was not about who is pickier about what. I simply asked how much height matters to men. Based on responses so far, I think my original post had a merit. Men seem to prefer slightly taller women but not too tall!