Consolidated Discussion - A man's/woman's height in the search for relationships

[somedude81]

I don't believe that you have a genuine good attitude when you interact with women, but I will leave it at that.

You are wrong about that.

You think too much. You need to let loose.

But you are correct about this.

 

I also don't take a lot of risks with women, mainly because I'm over thinking.

 

So my interactions with women are almost always meaningless fun that never go anywhere.

 

Then when I get home I get frustrated, and rant about various subjects on LS.

[Imported]

You are right OP, women don't like short guys. You can now return to playing video games and watching cartoons. Glad I could help you out.

 

Now I gotta figure out the next scent for my cars air freshener. Trying to decide between Ocean Breeze or Fresh Linen

[guest572]

One of my first crushes was on a guy that probably a foot or two shorter than me. All of my early crushes were shorter than me as I was a tall young lady.

[Eggplant]

I don't care about a man's height. I am 5'3 myself, and my ex was 5'4.

[Lernaean_Hydra]

I think you're skipping a step there buddy.

 

How would a woman I'm a great lover until after she's slept with me?

 

Thank you, that's exactly what I was thinking.

 

Women talk. Other women listen

 

Wait that...that's really not how it works for anyone I know. If I heard a woman talking about how great a guy was in bed, the last thing I'd be interested in is trying it for myself. Way too incestuous for me. Plus, what's "great" for you really might not be so earth shattering for me.

[iiiii]

Prove me wrong.

 

Many women on this thread (including myself) have pointed out that we are happily in a relationship with a shorter than average man.

 

Thereby proving that SOME women do not dislike short men.

 

We just tend to get ignored because it's apparently much more rewarding for some posters to believe that women hate short guys.

[thefooloftheyear]

short people by randy newman - YouTube

 

 

 

 

TFY

[Bruce Leigh]

Wait that...that's really not how it works for anyone I know. If I heard a woman talking about how great a guy was in bed, the last thing I'd be interested in is trying it for myself.

 

True but when the guys "size" is mentioned, that is another story for another thread.

 

Thereby proving that SOME women do not dislike short men.

 

We just tend to get ignored because it's apparently much more rewarding for some posters to believe that women hate short guys.

 

With the statistic that 1 in 4 relationships now start online your voice is getting quieter and quieter each day. I thought about OLD but being 5'7, i did a little bit of research and my conclusion was that my efforts would be better served elsewhere. So i made a choice not to bother with OLD.

Edited June 2, 2014 by Bruce Leigh

[Haydn]

I am growing.

 

I am going to be honest, despite how superficial. I am more attracted to males between 6'1 - 6'3, no idea why. Would I have a partner that was someone short? Yes, and I have. I have been much more attracted to a partner that was 6'2 though.

 

Facial aesthetics they were equal. Personality, liked them equally.. but was more physically attracted to the taller.

[Badsingularity]

 

 

My husband is the same height as me, 5'8".

 

 

I've dated both tall men and shorter men, but chose to marry a shorter man.

 

 

I would draw the line at a man who was shorter than me, though, as I don't want to be looking down at him.

 

Sounds a lot like my wife and I.

 

We are both 5'9" and she would prefer not to date someone shorter than her and I would prefer not to date someone taller than me. So it worked out perfectly.

[KathyM]

Sounds a lot like my wife and I.

 

We are both 5'9" and she would prefer not to date someone shorter than her and I would prefer not to date someone taller than me. So it worked out perfectly.

There's a lot to be said for being able to wrap yourself around a man who is your same height, and being able to hug and kiss him and look into his eyes without having your neck or arms craning to do it. *winks*

[thefooloftheyear]

Since I stumbled on this thread, and was surprisingly awakened by the thought that somehow women actually prefer taller men....OK...so for the last week or two. I did an informal observation, just observing some of the people around me in my daily travels..

 

Of the guys that I saw that were above 6' tall, it seems as just about none of them have a classic mesomorphic male body type..Didnt see a single guy that fit that criteria...They all seem to have disproportionately small arms and wide hips for their height..Shoulder to waist either equal to or their shoulders were more narrow than their hips...

 

While I paid no attention to any shorter guys, it seems as though if the "classic" male body(relatively muscular with broad shoulders, muscled arms, and a shoulder to waist taper) is hard to find on a taller guy...then why all of the fuss(if we are talking appearance now-lets leave out the other intangibles)

 

Now dont get me wrong...Im not saying a bodybuilder type of body, just one where there is a clear V shape to the torso...Really didnt see any taller guys that fit that profile...Not in the same way a guy like Dwayne Johnson(the Rock) at 6'5" does...

 

We all know that men like women who have a "classic" hourglass type of figure with ample breasts/hips and relatively small waist- and that is the desired "ideal" -regardless of height...

 

So, with that said..

 

So, (and maybe the ladies can shed some light here), if the more classic "male" physique is more common on a shorter guy(im not necessarily saying it is, but maybe?), then why is there this strong desire for a taller guy? Wouldnt body composition and type trump just height alone- all else equal in terms of external appearance?

 

 

PS; I am not saying that my random sampling represents all....Maybe I just got a skewed group by chance...

 

 

Just curious...

 

TFY

Edited June 3, 2014 by thefooloftheyear

[Weezy1973]

So, (and maybe the ladies can shed some light here), if the more classic "male" physique is more common on a shorter guy(im not necessarily saying it is, but maybe?), then why is there this strong desire for a taller guy? Wouldnt body composition and type trump just height alone- all else equal in terms of external appearance?

 

 

PS; I am not saying that my random sampling represents all....Maybe I just got a skewed group by chance...

 

I'm a guy, but I don't know of any studies that suggest height is correlated to body type. I would guess that for some women height is a stronger desire and for others it is body type. For others a handsome face might trump both height and body type!

 

I think generally most people take the (physical) package as a whole when determining attraction level (a subconscious process of course). And then there's the people where personality/compatibility is the major player and supersedes all physical characteristics...

[Salvatore85]

I'm not denying that short guys can get women, but it does take a bit more than a good attitude.

 

Believe it or not, I actually have a great attitude when I interact with women, but I don't get anywhere near close to my share of women.

 

BTW how would I even know when I've hit my allotted number of women?

 

Would I get an "Achievement Unlocked: You're Winner!" message?

 

Sorry Somedude, you're wrong Bud. I'm 5'6" and decided about two weeks ago to put myself back out there and basically immediately met someone. She's cool as hell and we've been having a blast. Your height is a terrible excuse mate. Time to get over it.

[Untouched]

I went on a date on Sunday with a guy who is about 5'7". I guess that is really short according to you guys here? Anyway we went to a baseball game and he told me how he loved playing baseball, he was the smallest guy on his little league team, high school too, and he was boasting about how quick he was. I remembered all the talk here about how much short guys lose in all ways (which, I swear, I had NEVER even heard of before coming to this site!) so I asked him if any of that had bothered him. He laughed! He swore that he'd not cared about being short even once. It never even occurred to him that it might be some kind of problem.

 

Also fyi he got into college on a baseball scholarship. But he dropped out of college.

 

Anyway, I hope that cheers you guys up. I am going on another date with him, too. My only second thoughts I had about that was that he seems a little full of himself. His height was not a consideration.

[silicone]

I went on a date on Sunday with a guy who is about 5'7". I guess that is really short according to you guys here? Anyway we went to a baseball game and he told me how he loved playing baseball, he was the smallest guy on his little league team, high school too, and he was boasting about how quick he was. I remembered all the talk here about how much short guys lose in all ways (which, I swear, I had NEVER even heard of before coming to this site!) so I asked him if any of that had bothered him. He laughed! He swore that he'd not cared about being short even once. It never even occurred to him that it might be some kind of problem.

 

Also fyi he got into college on a baseball scholarship. But he dropped out of college.

 

Anyway, I hope that cheers you guys up. I am going on another date with him, too. My only second thoughts I had about that was that he seems a little full of himself. His height was not a consideration.

 

I would say that 5'6" or 5'7" is the sweet spot to be short. 5'5" and under is the danger zone.

[iiiii]

We all know that men like women who have a "classic" hourglass type of figure with ample breasts/hips and relatively small waist- and that is the desired "ideal" -regardless of height...

 

I don't know, I know some guys don't who like girls that are much taller than they are, no matter how "ideal" their shape is.

 

I think height matters for women, too. A really tall girl is going to have disadvantage finding a partner, just like a really short guy does. I think both partners usually prefer the man to be at least as tall as the women.

 

Obviously there are exceptions.

[thefooloftheyear]

I don't know, I know some guys don't who like girls that are much taller than they are, no matter how "ideal" their shape is.

 

I think height matters for women, too. A really tall girl is going to have disadvantage finding a partner, just like a really short guy does. I think both partners usually prefer the man to be at least as tall as the women.

 

Obviously there are exceptions.

 

I agree...

 

But the point is that a woman(regardless of height) is considered desirable if she posesses the type of body I mentioned....Heck, even if she isnt that attractive(or dare I say ugly?), then the "textbook"body type will likely overcome that..

 

However, I seems that for guys this isnt so..(at least if you believe what some of what is posted here)...If he is short, he can have an Adonis body type, but still fall "short"..

 

I guess the thing that puzzles me is I can clearly see why a woman who is 5'9" wouldnt really find an attraction with a guy who is 5'4"..That makes sense..But when you hear some women who are 5'3 ir so(maybe shorter) saying that they only go for guys who are 6' plus? Like how is that logical?

 

 

While I do realize that attraction doenst usually follow logic, but it does makes one wonder if there arent possibly some "daddy issues" there...

 

Just a thought..

 

TFY

Edited June 3, 2014 by thefooloftheyear

[iiiii]

I don't know, maybe we need a poll, to see how many guys would consider dating a perfect but (marginally or considerably) taller girl, and how many girls would consider a dating perfect but (marginally or considerably) shorter guy. The results could be interesting.

 

Myself, I think it just comes down to individual variation. People just find different things attractive. Height is more important to some people than others, but few of us discount height entirely when deciding how attractive someone is.

Edited June 3, 2014 by iiiii

[guest572]

Height isn't as off putting as people who are bitter and extremely insecure about their looks or rejections

[somedude81]

I don't know, maybe we need a poll, to see how many guys would consider dating a perfect but (marginally or considerably) taller girl, and how many girls would consider a dating perfect but (marginally or considerably) shorter guy. The results could be interesting.

 

Myself, I think it just comes down to individual variation. People just find different things attractive. Height is more important to some people than others, but few of us discount height entirely when deciding how attractive someone is.

 

I used to have a huge crush on a girl who was 5'8, which meant that she was two inches taller than me.

 

She thought I was short

[Anela]

I used to have a huge crush on a girl who was 5'8, which meant that she was two inches taller than me.

 

She thought I was short

 

You've mentioned that overweight girls/women showed interest in you in the past. You thought they were too heavy.

[Anela]

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[somedude81]

You've mentioned that overweight girls/women showed interest in you in the past. You thought they were too heavy.

 

I wasn't aware this thread was about people's weight.

[R3d]

You've mentioned that overweight girls/women showed interest in you in the past. You thought they were too heavy.

 

Implying that being a short man is the male equivalent of being an overweight woman.

 

That hurts, especially because there is no way to gain height but it's possible to lose weight.