Consolidated Discussion - A man's/woman's height in the search for relationships

[silicone]

Weeee, I'm in the 0.3 percentile.

[you_can_not_see_me]

I think everyone should be allowed to have whatever preference they want since its a personal choice.

 

that being said I do think having strict height preferences is a disservice to anyone to who maintains such a preference. I can understand not being attracted to a short guy, but being only into really tall men or men who are taller than you with heels and so on is more about social conditioning rather than actually biological advantages.

 

its also not a good idea to unnecessarily narrow down your options, when you may very well meet someone who is a better fit if you expand your options.

 

either way we all make our own choices and we all deal with the consequences of those choices as well.

[Anela]

 

I think it is incredibly shallow for a woman to choose a type of shoe (heels) and then makes dating decisions around those shoes. This doesn't enrage me, I feel pity for such women.

 

 

Does your girlfriend wear heels? I can't walk in most of them, but if I could I would wear them more often, because I like the look of them, and I feel good when I can. It's fun to dress up.

 

How many men like a woman in heels? How many transition into drooling hounds when they do? It isn't only women who like them.

[somedude81]

I'm neutral on heels. Yeah they look good on a women in the appropriate outfit but I think it's asinine that a woman would refuse to date a guy because she's taller than he is when wearing them. Heels are not part of the body and should not be treated as they were.

[Eivuwan]

I think we'll all be better off if we don't get fixated on physical attributes that are not changeable without surgery. I always feel sad when women focus on height and men focus on boob size or something. This is especially true for those who are struggling with finding a partner.

[KaliLove]

Why shouldn't everyone just be allowed to date whomever they want? Why is this thread even still going on???

 

There's no debate. You cannot persuade someone to be attracted to a person they're not attracted to. Get over it and move on to the next one!

 

Case closed.

[sillyanswer]

Somebody else said it already: A woman who wants to date men who are taller than she is in heels simply really only wants to date A TALL MAN and she is likely trying to be very clear about that.

 

She just wants to date someone who is taller than her by an amount broadly similar to the difference in height between the average woman and the average man. Perhaps she wants to find a partner who, heightwise, is in proportion to her. That just seems like a perfectly reasonable preference, to me, but then I'm tall so I get all the girls.

[somedude81]

I think we'll all be better off if we don't get fixated on physical attributes that are not changeable without surgery. I always feel sad when women focus on height and men focus on boob size or something. This is especially true for those who are struggling with finding a partner.

 

Only the most shallow of men would refuse to date a woman because of her bra size.

 

Though many women think it's perfectly fine to rule out a guy because of his height.

[Eivuwan]

Only the most shallow of men would refuse to date a woman because of her bra size.

 

Though many women think it's perfectly fine to rule out a guy because of his height.

 

At the end of the day, it doesn't matter what other people do. It's just that people cannot complain if they cannot find a partner due to their preference for certain physical attributes. Also, while there are lots of women who are rigid about the height issue, there are also plenty of women who don't care.

[somedude81]

The whole problem with the, "Can't date a guy who is the same height as me in heels" is that as a 5'6 man, the average woman is my height or taller when she's in heels.

 

There is absolutely no way that I'm going to limit myself to women who are 5'2 (barefoot) or shorter.

[sillyanswer]

Though many women think it's perfectly fine to rule out a guy because of his height.

 

It is perfectly fine for many women to rule out the short guys.

[Eivuwan]

The whole problem with the, "Can't date a guy who is the same height as me in heels" is that as a 5'6 man, the average woman is my height or taller when she's in heels.

 

There is absolutely no way that I'm going to limit myself to women who are 5'2 (barefoot) or shorter.

 

I agree with you that IT IS shallow and I personally have an issue with shallowness. But it's a lost cause to try to change people's minds. It's better to focus on what you want and prefer.

[Anela]

The whole problem with the, "Can't date a guy who is the same height as me in heels" is that as a 5'6 man, the average woman is my height or taller when she's in heels.

 

There is absolutely no way that I'm going to limit myself to women who are 5'2 (barefoot) or shorter.

 

Why not? What's wrong with short women? A short man, complaining about possibly having to limit himself to short women? Really?

[sillyanswer]

Maybe tall guys and girls with gorgeous figures have it better than the rest of us. Oh well.

 

Not exclusively. Did I tell you about the time I got turned down for a date on account of me being TOO TALL?

[somedude81]

I agree with you that IT IS shallow and I personally have an issue with shallowness. But it's a lost cause to try to change people's minds. It's better to focus on what you want and prefer.

 

That's exactly what I do. I don't let a woman's height sway me from pursuing her unless she's several inches taller than me (not in heels).

 

I refuse to rule out 70% of women simply because God decided to make me short.

[sillyanswer]

It's just that people cannot complain if they cannot find a partner due to their preference for certain physical attributes.

 

Sure they can. Complaining is fine. It might sound like whining, though.

[somedude81]

Why not? What's wrong with short women? A short man, complaining about possibly having to limit himself to short women? Really?

 

Absolutely nothing is wrong with short women, except that there are not enough of them.

[Anela]

That's exactly what I do. I don't let a woman's height sway me from pursuing her unless she's several inches taller than me (not in heels).

 

I refuse to rule out 70% of women simply because God decided to make me short.

 

So don't limit yourself. Just don't expect someone to put aside their preferences for you.

[sillyanswer]

The whole problem with the, "Can't date a guy who is the same height as me in heels" is that as a 5'6 man, the average woman is my height or taller when she's in heels.

 

There is absolutely no way that I'm going to limit myself to women who are 5'2 (barefoot) or shorter.

 

It's great that you're not limiting yourself in this way, but you could consider that there's nothing wrong with someone else doing so.

[Eivuwan]

Sure they can. Complaining is fine. It might sound like whining, though.

 

That's what I meant.

[Eivuwan]

It's great that you're not limiting yourself in this way, but you could consider that there's nothing wrong with someone else doing so.

 

There's nothing wrong. But if they're limiting themselves this way AND have trouble finding someone then it's just really stupid.

[Anela]

I can handle a bit of whining. I can relate to the mindset, as well. SD (and others): I see so many shorter men with women out there in the world. Your height might be a problem for some women, but not for all.

[somedude81]

It's great that you're not limiting yourself in this way, but you could consider that there's nothing wrong with someone else doing so.

 

Damn right there is something wrong with being excluded because of my height! I didn't choose to be short! If I could do anything to get taller, I would have done it already!

[Anela]

Damn right there is something wrong with being excluded because of my height! I didn't choose to be short! If I could do anything to get taller, I would have done it already!

 

So you want to make someone go out with you? That's the attitude people have a problem with: yet there are ways in which you refuse to make concessions for women (age, weight, etc). I'm sure you'd have more luck with women closer to your own age.

[somedude81]

So you want to make someone go out with you? That's the attitude people have a problem with: yet there are ways in which you refuse to make concessions for women (age, weight, etc). I'm sure you'd have more luck with women closer to your own age.

 

I don't want to be turned down by a very large number of women because of something I absolutely cannot control.

 

Baring some medical condition, there are not any women who simply cannot lose weight.

 

As for age, women don't suddenly go from 18 to 35. Women have a lot of good years when they are very desirable. Older women are still desired. A woman who is almost 40 years old should not care that men in their 20's and early 30's are not interested in her. Those guys should be immediately thought of as too immature for her and not worth even thinking about.