Consolidated Discussion - A man's/woman's height in the search for relationships

[KaliLove]

Oh, and PS, there are plenty of women out there who WOULD date a shorter guy. So the odds are actually in your favor. Which means that you may have to finally admit that being a teeny weenie is only a small part of your dating issues...

 

But you won't. Of course.

[Imported]

 

I think the main issue for the short guys who are complaining here are the 5'0-5'4" inchers(which make up the bulk of the female population) demanding to be with sky high beanpoles..While I know that attraction someties goes against logic, I can somewhat see their point,as it makes little "sense", really-when you think about it.....

 

TFY

 

Maybe the short women are instinctively going for as tall a guy as possible to make up for themselves being so short so that their child will be taller.

 

I mean, if a 5'0" girl has a kid with a 5'5" guy, what are the chances their son is going to be taller than 5'5"?

[sweetjasmine]

Simply put, short guys don't look any different than average height guys.

 

Nobody could look at a picture of me by myself and guess that I'm 5'6.

 

Okay, then there'd be no difference between 5'6" you and 5'10" you if a woman could have a relationship with a photograph.

 

Back in reality, a person who is 5'6" looks different from a person who is 5'10".

[KaliLove]

Simply put, short guys don't look any different than average height guys.

 

Nobody could look at a picture of me by myself and guess that I'm 5'6.

 

So to me, rejecting a guy based on his height is as stupid as rejecting a girl based on her bra size.

 

Nobody ever said you can't reject a girl based on her bra size. That's your prerogative. Sure, it'll narrow down the playing field, just like me not being attracted to shorter guys narrows mine down..but that doesn't make it wrong.

 

If you like tig ol' biddies, then go for 'em. My bf likes them too.

[somedude81]

If I was 5'3, I'd want to date a guy who was shorter than 5'8. Otherwise I'd look like his daughter..I find super tall guys with super short girls creepy.

 

Removing all the anger and sarcasm.

 

This is the only part of your post that actually matters.

 

The only thing that affects your height preference in men is your own height. I have absolutely no issue with that. I do not expect women to date men shorter than they are. It's cool when it happens but it's not the standard.

 

My only issue is when girls 5'4 or under, only want to date guys who are above 5'8. To me that is asinine.

[somedude81]

Maybe the short women are instinctively going for as tall a guy as possible to make up for themselves being so short so that their child will be taller.

 

I mean, if a 5'0" girl has a kid with a 5'5" guy, what are the chances their son is going to be taller than 5'5"?

 

Depends on how tall her parents are and his parents.

 

I'm 5'6.

 

My mother is 5'2. My dad is 5'10.

 

My mom's dad is 6'2. My dad's dad is 5'7.

 

I basically lost the genetic lottery.

[KaliLove]

You're completely refusing to acknowledge your hypocrisy.

 

And that is SO not your only issue...in many ways...

 

I'm not angry in the slightest. In fact, this conversation is making me giggle. Which is good because I'm about to go spend the afternoon with my 2 year old godson and he likes it when I'm giggly.

 

Btw, he's about 2 or 3 feet tall and he has no problem attracting the ladies. Maybe he can give you some pointers.

[thefooloftheyear]

Maybe the short women are instinctively going for as tall a guy as possible to make up for themselves being so short so that their child will be taller.

 

I mean, if a 5'0" girl has a kid with a 5'5" guy, what are the chances their son is going to be taller than 5'5"?

 

 

Why would they care if their kid was tall...Do (potential) parents really worry about this?

 

My mom is 5'5...My dad(RIP) was 6'0"...Im 5'6" and my brother is 5'5"...My nephew(same brothers son) is skinny 6'0" beanpole and is only 16 years old..His wife is all of 5'2"...there is no way to plan this, unless the gene pool is so pure with nothing but tall people with several generations back..

 

But its easily possible they think that can work...

 

TFY

[somedude81]

Okay, then there'd be no difference between 5'6" you and 5'10" you if a woman could have a relationship with a photograph.

 

Back in reality, a person who is 5'6" looks different from a person who is 5'10".

 

No they don't.

 

The only thing that is different is if you do a height comparison.

 

If I was standing on a four inch platform and I was next to a 5'10 guy and somebody took a picture of us that didn't show our feet nobody would guess that I'm shorter.

[thefooloftheyear]

Depends on how tall her parents are and his parents.

 

I'm 5'6.

 

My mother is 5'2. My dad is 5'10.

 

My mom's dad is 6'2. My dad's dad is 5'7.

 

I basically lost the genetic lottery.

 

I dont know how you can possibly say this.? Maybe if you had Down's Syndrome or some other genetic malady that is really an issue, id buy it...

 

make it work for you....some of us can-and so can you !!

 

TFY

[sweetjasmine]

No they don't.

 

The only thing that is different is if you do a height comparison.

 

A difference in height IS A DIFFERENCE IN APPEARANCE. No matter how much you want this to be false, it's absolutely true.

 

If I was standing on a four inch platform and I was next to a 5'10 guy and somebody took a picture of us that didn't show our feet nobody would guess that I'm shorter.

 

People's proportions are different. There's a good chance someone could tell if they were looking closely.

[somedude81]

I dont know how you can possibly say this.? Maybe if you had Down's Syndrome or some other genetic malady that is really an issue, id buy it...

 

make it work for you....some of us can-and so can you !!

 

TFY

 

If I haven't been able to make my height work for me in 33 years of life, I doubt it will ever happen.

 

Thank God I don't have Down's or anything really bad like that. But being short is definitely a negative. There is absolutely nothing good about it.

 

What really sucks is that my brother is 5'8, and my half-brother, different mother is 6 feet. I'm the oldest, and the runt

 

Funny enough, I've actually heard my brother complain about being short. I would love to be 5'8.

[Imajerk17]

There's a great saying in life: You can either have results or you can make excuses. But you can't have both. It's pretty evident in this thread.

 

The guys whining about height are the "make excuses" types. That's all they do is make excuses they don't do work they don't get results. Even though they have intelligence, they aren't successful in other areas of life--career or school. Instead of putting in energy to better themselves, they just whine about things they can't control, like their height.

 

See where I am going with this? The irony of all this is that these guys whining the most on here are NOT the type of guys women would want to date anyway even if height were not an issue. So sad too bad.

[AnnieRose]

If I haven't been able to make my height work for me in 33 years of life, I doubt it will ever happen.

 

Thank God I don't have Down's or anything really bad like that. But being short is definitely a negative. There is absolutely nothing good about it.

 

What really sucks is that my brother is 5'8, and my half-brother, different mother is 6 feet. I'm the oldest, and the runt

 

Funny enough, I've actually heard my brother complain about being short. I would love to be 5'8.

 

You don't make height "work for you", you just live your life! There is nothing that can change who you are so you just accept it and go with the people who accept you as you are! Read my first post again! Most women don't care!

 

Take a lighthearted approach like my boyfriend does. The first time I went out with him in heels I said "you only come up to my boobs when I wear these things!" and he smiled and said "why would I need to go any higher?"

 

[hotpotato]

Removing all the anger and sarcasm.

 

This is the only part of your post that actually matters.

 

The only thing that affects your height preference in men is your own height. I have absolutely no issue with that. I do not expect women to date men shorter than they are. It's cool when it happens but it's not the standard.

 

My only issue is when girls 5'4 or under, only want to date guys who are above 5'8. To me that is asinine.

 

Asinine is reducing a woman down to her breasts (and age).

[hotpotato]

Asinine is reducing a woman down to her breasts (and age).

 

I wanted to add, im never ceased to be amazed that someone with such rigid physical standards can complain about others having rigid standards.

[somedude81]

Asinine is reducing a woman down to her breasts (and age).

 

Of course it is.

 

Now go point to my post where I said that it's what I do.

[Weezy1973]

What's actually asinine is thinking that people can use logic to adjust what they're attracted to. Most of the men complaining think it's "ridiculous" that some women have a preference for tall men.

 

There isn't much logic when it comes to attraction. If I could somehow will myself to be attracted to people I'd cast the net as wide as possible as that would surely increase my chances of finding a great match.

 

But I can't will myself to be attracted to everybody - nobody can. I'm only attracted to slim women. Sometimes I wish this wasn't the case. I've met many bigger women that I've clicked with and gotten along with, but never did I see them as a romantic interest. Why? No attraction.

 

Not logical. But there you have it. Same with women that don't find short guys attraction. Not much they can do about it. Why worry about it?

[R3d]

Women with small breasts probably think you're an idiot.

How so? He said that boob size is a small factor in attraction for him.

 

(For the record, I agree.)

[somedude81]

How so? He said that boob size is a small factor in attraction for him.

 

(For the record, I agree.)

 

Some people just have really poor reading comprehension skills.

[johan]

How so? He said that boob size is a small factor in attraction for him.

 

(For the record, I agree.)

 

So which physical characteristics are important to him then? I've seen posts where large breasts were important and now that people have picked up on that, I guess they aren't so important. But it doesn't matter. One preference is as good as another. Or maybe they are all equally asinine.

 

Let's hear it SD. If not breasts, then what are your asinine preferences? How are your preferences more valid than a woman's asinine preferences for a tall guy?

 

I still stand by my original point. Tall, short, big nose, small nose, hair, no hair, too much hair, pudgy, skinny,... we all have something to be insecure about. The challenge in life is not to get society to see the injustices you face and take pity on you. That won't happen, and even if it did it won't change anything. Not any more than a pat on the head and a hug from mom will. It's to rise above the injustices, go around them. Ultimately, probably too late, you'll find out that all along it was you who was holding you back in life.

 

That's usually the reason for the resistance people who complain like this face. All the rest of us don't want to be made to feel responsible for what you fail to do for yourself.

[Imajerk17]

I'm confused. Who is to say what is "shallow" and what isn't. And if someone is "shallow" what's so wrong with it.

 

What about people of either gender who are horribly disfigured but who are great people. Don't they deserve love and romance too? Does the Short Man Union even care?

 

I will say this again: The guys whining about their height on here, to a person, have far more important things about themselves that they need to address first. Things having to do with taking responsibility. They seem to be unwilling to do this though.

 

EVEN STILL THOUGH, if the guys over 21 were to put together a well-written profile and were to target the "average" women out there, they would be getting dates. This week. Plenty of people just want someone nice to love and are ok with issues. No one is perfect.

 

See, we gave somedude81 a whole bunch of suggestions on how to greatly improve his OLD profile and what did he do. Yep, he ignored them, and went right back to railing about how hard (he thinks) Short Men have it in dating. If that isn't "not taking responsibility" then I don't know what is. Its too bad too, as he seems to be quite intelligent. He'd probably do pretty well w emails and even dates if he could only revise his profile--starting w his creepy username --so it would stop working against him.

Edited August 31, 2014 by Imajerk17

[AD1980]

On my Facebook timeline my friends wife says she's very worried that her 1 year old is tiny and is praying to god that he's not gonna be short.

 

This is deeper then just attraction

[KaliLove]

On my Facebook timeline my friends wife says she's very worried that her 1 year old is tiny and is praying to god that he's not gonna be short.

 

This is deeper then just attraction

 

I'm sure it's just because she's worried that he might develop the same self-loathing attitude that some of the short guys on here have.

 

As my best friend was giving birth to my godson she was screaming 'what color is his hair? Is he a redhead?' (she is a redhead and she was teased a lot..and red-haired boys are teased even more than girls). Parents don't want their kids to struggle.

[thefooloftheyear]

On my Facebook timeline my friends wife says she's very worried that her 1 year old is tiny and is praying to god that he's not gonna be short.

 

This is deeper then just attraction

 

She's a moron....She should be thanking God that he is healthy.....

 

TFY