Consolidated Discussion - A man's/woman's height in the search for relationships

[hotpotato]

Of course it is.

 

Now go point to my post where I said that it's what I do.

 

Seriously?

Of all the things youve posted about women on ls, then wonder why you have problems with them?

 

S E R I O U S L Y?

[hotpotato]

How so? He said that boob size is a small factor in attraction for him.

 

(For the record, I agree.)

 

Then why does he keep bringing it up?

 

Of course, he can have his standards, but at the same time he complains that women want tall dudes. Height is the least of sd's issues, to be honest.

Edited August 31, 2014 by hotpotato

[somedude81]

What im talking about is the real reasons women dont like you, its about a lot more than your height. One of those issues is your hypocrisy.

 

 

 

Maybe someone should make a thread detailing all of your inconsistencies...

 

1. I'm not being a hypocrite.

 

2. Do you actually think I talk about this stuff with real people? Saying women don't like you because you said X on the forum is just a load of crap.

Edited August 31, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[KaliLove]

1. I'm not being a hypocrite.

 

2. Do you actually think I talk about this stuff with real people? Saying women don't like you because you said X on the forum is just a load of crap.

 

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I pointed out an example of your hypocrisy a few pages ago and you ignored me.

 

You said women shouldn't rule out men because of their height, and then two sentences later you said you would never date a woman over 5'8. Boom. Hypocrisy. You absolutely are very inconsistent. I really doubt that anyone here has the time or the interest level to look through your 15k posts to find every example but there are a sh*t ton of them.

Edited August 31, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[somedude81]

I pointed out an example of your hypocrisy a few pages ago and you ignored me.

 

You said women shouldn't rule out men because of their height, and then two sentences later you said you would never date a woman over 5'8. Boom. Hypocrisy. You absolutely are very inconsistent. I really doubt that anyone here has the time or the interest level to look through your 15k posts to find every example but there are a sh*t ton of them.

 

 

Here's the thing, if a woman who was 5'10 was really interested in me and I thought she was cool, I would go out with her.

 

The reason I have an upper limit with the women I ask out is because I know that girls who are much taller than me are far more likely to reject me, so I don't bother with them.

 

It has absolutely nothing to do with attraction. My school has a very good women's volleyball team so it's not uncommon to see these beautiful giant girls walking around in their tiny black shorts.

 

One thing I do admit is that I feel a bit uneasy around women who are much taller than me. I have issues with being small, and having a woman being bigger than me, doesn't help that. It has nothing to do with them.

Edited August 31, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[William]

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I noted some off-topic conversations having nothing to do with height in a relationship and some discussion of like and dislike of fellow members, neither of which has play in this thread and the latter on this forum for that matter, so we'll move back to the topical discussion and leave the other stuff for another venue. Thanks!

[normal person]

I think the point of this thread is that dating has become utter bull**** for those who aren't magically endowed with some mental/physical/financial trait that attracts the opposite sex.

 

"Magically endowed" is a bit of a reach. Height is something that can't be controlled, I'll give you that. Also, some people have natural aptitude for things. But telling others that they're smart/accomplished because they were just born like that and not because they studied hard or put the work in at school, or they got their physique by sitting around and not going to the gym, or that they're undeserving of their financial success is bogus. If you want to attract other people, you can work on yourself in these areas to do so. Or you can not and just be bitter towards all the people who did. Some people are dealt better hands than others, but for the most part the people who work the hardest will reap the best rewards.

[hotpotato]

So which physical characteristics are important to him then? I've seen posts where large breasts were important and now that people have picked up on that, I guess they aren't so important. But it doesn't matter. One preference is as good as another. Or maybe they are all equally asinine.

 

Let's hear it SD. If not breasts, then what are your asinine preferences? How are your preferences more valid than a woman's asinine preferences for a tall guy?

 

I still stand by my original point. Tall, short, big nose, small nose, hair, no hair, too much hair, pudgy, skinny,... we all have something to be insecure about. The challenge in life is not to get society to see the injustices you face and take pity on you. That won't happen, and even if it did it won't change anything. Not any more than a pat on the head and a hug from mom will. It's to rise above the injustices, go around them. Ultimately, probably too late, you'll find out that all along it was you who was holding you back in life.

 

That's usually the reason for the resistance people who complain like this face. All the rest of us don't want to be made to feel responsible for what you fail to do for yourself.

 

Bingo. SD changes his answers according to the tone of the thread. Ask SD the same questions in two different threads, you will get two different answers. SD has been all over LS talking about how important big boobies are, but suddenly it's not important. People have noticed this before.

 

 

 

1. I'm not being a hypocrite.

 

2. Do you actually think I talk about this stuff with real people? Saying women don't like you because you said X on the forum is just a load of crap.

 

Yes, you are being hypocritical right now. Just because you say you're not being hypocritical, that doesn't change that fact that indeed you are being that way.

I'm not saying women don't like you because of what you say on here. I'm saying women can see RIGHT THROUGH YOU. Even if they don't know exactly what's wrong, they can smell that something is off about you and how you view women.

 

I certainly don't mean to be mean. Like I said before, I care about you, but sometimes what you say just doesn't jive.

 

Ok, so you're 5'6. That's not something you can change. There are plenty of other things you should be working on.

[No Limit]

Sure, just about every girl would like a tall, rich, charismatic, and attractive guy

 

No. They're surrounded by so many most eager opportunities to cheat, I wouldn't feel safe in a relationship with him.

[somedude81]

I can see your point. My girlfriend said something similar. I used to date a ridiculously hot girl years ago, and I have to admit, my jealousy started to kick in lol. I couldn't leave her for a moment without somedude hanging around her like a vulture.

 

Not my problem dude. I like hot chicks. If she's giving me the look it's all on her.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Anela]

I can see your point. My girlfriend said something similar. I used to date a ridiculously hot girl years ago, and I have to admit, my jealousy started to kick in lol. I couldn't leave her for a moment without some dude hanging around her like a vulture.

 

I knew someone who dumped his live-in girlfriend, out of jealousy. He said if he'd trusted her, everything would have been fine. He couldn't leave her, and go to the bathroom, without at least one man trying it on.

 

He was still pining for her nine years on, the perfectly beautiful ex.

[Candy_Pants]

I knew someone who dumped his live-in girlfriend, out of jealousy. He said if he'd trusted her, everything would have been fine. He couldn't leave her, and go to the bathroom, without at least one man trying it on.

 

He was still pining for her nine years on, the perfectly beautiful ex.

I was nearly dumped by a boyfriend because his friend tried to kiss me. Jumped out of the car (at a stop light) before he could finish his verbal assault on how it was somehow my fault.

 

Some guys simply can't handle having an attractive girlfriend.

 

ETA: He was 5'6".

[somedude81]

I was nearly dumped by a boyfriend because his friend tried to kiss me. Jumped out of the car (at a stop light) before he could finish his verbal assault on how it was somehow my fault.

 

Some guys simply can't handle having an attractive girlfriend.

 

ETA: He was 5'6".

 

LOL, I'm pretty sure his height was completely irrelevant. I'm also sure that you're looks were irrelevant as well. If you were significantly less attractive, I'm sure the same thing would have happened if his friend tried to kiss you.

[AD1980]

LOL, I'm pretty sure his height was completely irrelevant. I'm also sure that you're looks were irrelevant as well. If you were significantly less attractive, I'm sure the same thing would have happened if his friend tried to kiss you.

 

 

Women use a bad experience with a short guy as to why they'll never date another one again..you can bet no matter how many bad experiences with tall men they'll never say they won't date another tall guy or that all tall guys act a certain way

[sillyanswer]

Women use a bad experience with a short guy as to why they'll never date another one again..you can bet no matter how many bad experiences with tall men they'll never say they won't date another tall guy or that all tall guys act a certain way

 

I've heard that said before (by you, amongst others). I can only assume that some short guys are ruining it for the rest of you.

[AD1980]

I've heard that said before (by you, amongst others). I can only assume that some short guys are ruining it for the rest of you.

 

If a women has a bad exeperience or two with a short man and thinks all short men are the same and refuses to date another short guy she's either dumb and ignorant or isn't attracted to short men and was looking for an excuse not to date short guys anymore..

[sillyanswer]

If a women has a bad exeperience or two with a short man and thinks all short men are the same and refuses to date another short guy she's either dumb and ignorant or isn't attracted to short men and was looking for an excuse not to date short guys anymore..

 

I see. Does this happen to you often?

[somedude81]

If a women has a bad exeperience or two with a short man and thinks all short men are the same and refuses to date another short guy she's either dumb and ignorant or isn't attracted to short men and was looking for an excuse not to date short guys anymore..

 

I hope most women are intelligent or smart enough to not do that.

 

 

It's like me saying, my girlfriend was blonde and cheated on me. Therefor I'll never date a blonde girl again.

[Salvatore85]

I think the "bad experience" that people are talking about here is that some short guys display insecurity due to their height.

And that is why some women swear "never again with a short guy".

Its unfortunate but hey, people are free to do what they want, for the most part.

 

The reason short guys display insecurity about their height is due to the fact they're almost always disqualified because of it.

[mikethemechanic]

The reason short guys display insecurity about their height is due to the fact they're almost always disqualified because of it.

 

That's why bikers and mobsters recruit short men. The average height for a hells angels is 5'7 mobster is 5'6.

[thefooloftheyear]

That's why bikers and mobsters recruit short men. The average height for a hells angels is 5'7 mobster is 5'6.

 

Where the hell did you pull this nonsense from??.....

 

TFY

[MidwestUSA]

Where the hell did you pull this nonsense from??.....

 

TFY

 

 

 

He applied to both and got turned down at 5'8".

[serial muse]

Women use a bad experience with a short guy as to why they'll never date another one again..you can bet no matter how many bad experiences with tall men they'll never say they won't date another tall guy or that all tall guys act a certain way

 

If a women has a bad exeperience or two with a short man and thinks all short men are the same and refuses to date another short guy she's either dumb and ignorant or isn't attracted to short men and was looking for an excuse not to date short guys anymore..

 

Meanwhile it's perfectly reasonable for you to tar all women with the same brush. Gotcha.

[sillyanswer]

I think the "bad experience" that people are talking about here is that some short guys display insecurity due to their height.

And that is why some women swear "never again with a short guy".

Its unfortunate but hey, people are free to do what they want, for the most part.

 

I think you might be right. Of course there are plenty of short guys who are 'successful' in dating for various reasons, but there are plenty (and some of them occasionally post here) who seem to have an issue about their own height (as opposed to observing others having an issue about them). Some women are perhaps spotting a pattern here that results in previous experiences prejudicing future encounters. (Everyone does that to some extent.) Hence my earlier comment about some guys ruining it for the rest.

[Imajerk17]

FWIW I've heard more women swear off dating really hot guys ("they're all players") than swear off dating Short Men.....

 

As I mentioned before, I do wonder how the Short Man's Union for Dating (SMUD) feels about those in other groups, who through "no fault" of their own, that have extra challenges in dating...e.g., those who have chronic illnesses or major physical handicaps. I mean the SMUD members are all such (self-proclaimed) Nice Guys surely they have empathy for others...

Edited September 8, 2014 by Imajerk17