Consolidated Discussion - A man's/woman's height in the search for relationships

[William]

Thanks in advance for keeping the thread respectful of all participants.

[Genie99]

I'm a tall girl that is 174-175 cm (about 5'9) and I feel insecure about my height, especially since I'm Chinese. There's so many Chinese guy who are shorter than me and I'm afraid they don't want to date me. In my culture, it is even more taboo for a man to be shorter or even around the same height as the woman - people think there is something wrong with the girl for choosing that guy. I don't mind a shorter guy as long as he doesn't keep pointing out my height and call me a giraffe or something.

[somedude81]

Here's what it all comes down to for me.

 

If a girl is 5'3 and there are a few guys interested in her. All guys are about equal in looks, and have fun personalities. The only thing really different about them are their heights. One 5'6, the other 5'8, the third 5'11. What are the odds she's going to choose the 5'6 guy?

[Mopparon]

Here's what it all comes down to for me.

 

If a girl is 5'3 and there are a few guys interested in her. All guys are about equal in looks, and have fun personalities. The only thing really different about them are their heights. One 5'6, the other 5'8, the third 5'11. What are the odds she's going to choose the 5'6 guy?

 

No one is equal in personality and looks, not even identical twins, they're always at least slightly different and that can make all the difference.

 

Because everyone is unique and looking for different things out of life and from their relationships.

 

I think the difference in their "fun personalities" will cause different levels of attraction in different women, in addition to their heights, which will also be more or less important to different women.

Edited September 10, 2014 by Mopparon

[somedude81]

No one is equal in personality and looks, not even identical twins, they're always at least slightly different and that can make all the difference.

 

Because everyone is unique and looking for different things out of life and from their relationships.

 

I think the difference in their "fun personalities" will cause different levels of attraction in different women, in addition to their heights, which will also be more or less important to different women.

 

I'm not saying the guys are exactly the same in looks and personality.

 

What I mean is that the guys are decent looking in their own way and nothing about their looks stand out. Same thing for their personalities, the girls has fun and enjoys talking to all of them.

 

Based on looks and personality, guy A isn't better than guy B. The only major difference is their height.

 

What I'm saying is that most girls will be drawn to the taller guys just because the guys are taller. Most things being equal, the taller guys are more physically attractive.

[Armegoggon]

Even though I'm mid-height for a man, I love tall women and I would dream of dating one. Why do most men prefer to date a shorter woman? Why wouldn't they date tall women?

 

I'm talking 5'10+ tall woman. I've heard this many times that men just won't take taller women. Why?

[Assasda]

men dont like taller women?

Thats news to me

[slizl]

My girlfriend is 6'0 and I love it! To me there is something simply stunning about a tall woman. I am 6'4 and have dated someone as short as 4'11 and I love short women also, but there is just something about a tall woman that gets me going:love:

[Fondue]

I'm 6'2'' and dating a woman who's barely 5'2'' (or so she "claims").

 

I love it.

 

I always went for shorter girls. I just feel more of a man when I have a smaller lady next to me. And it always makes the women I'm with feel secure.

 

And of course, it's dominating. Especially in the bedroom. By being larger and stronger, I am able to throw my woman around, manipulate her body, and overpower her in bed. She flippin' loves it. She keeps telling me how much she loves to be dominated by me. SO.... it works?

[Diezel]

Just using OLD as a sample... You'll see women care much more about a man's height than men do about a woman's height.

[sdrawkcaB ssA]

I have not found one tall like me, so i am forced into short women.

[xxoo]

I'm not saying the guys are exactly the same in looks and personality.

 

What I mean is that the guys are decent looking in their own way and nothing about their looks stand out. Same thing for their personalities, the girls has fun and enjoys talking to all of them.

 

Based on looks and personality, guy A isn't better than guy B. The only major difference is their height.

 

What I'm saying is that most girls will be drawn to the taller guys just because the guys are taller. Most things being equal, the taller guys are more physically attractive.

 

I'd go for sexual attraction, which is never going to be equal with 3 guys. Not many men make me feel that urge to get physical, and it really has no correlation to height for me. It's possible that none would be attractive to me, but highly unlikely that I'd be thinking dirty thoughts about more than one.

 

Speak personally, before I started dating my H, he traveled in a group of similar guys in overall attractiveness (objectively speaking). He wasn't the tallest of the group, but he was the only one I couldn't get out of my head! He was the one I was magnetically attracted to. And I'm not the only one. Other girls liked him the most, too.

[Phoe]

A number of men have considered me too tall. The preference is usually that shorter women are considered more feminine, simply because they are smaller.

 

In a strange turn of events, after being 5'8 all my adult life, I got measured at the doctor last week and to my surprise it appears I've shrunk. He measured 5'6 and 3/4.

 

!?

[mightycpa]

I think most men are probably only concerned that the woman is shorter than them.

 

But short vs. the world? I can't imagine that's true.

[deathandtaxes]

I wouldn't say I prefer shorter women. I just can't find any, or many, taller women than me to date. I'm 6' and women even that height are very, very rare. CDC data puts a 5'9" women in the 95th percentile. So finding women that height or taller is rare. BTW, the mean height for women in the US is about 5'4". The data shows that a 5'4" man is in the 5th percentile. So basically it's not a preference - just a biological fact - some 95% of men are taller than the shortest 50% of women.

[somedude81]

I'd go for sexual attraction, which is never going to be equal with 3 guys. Not many men make me feel that urge to get physical, and it really has no correlation to height for me. It's possible that none would be attractive to me, but highly unlikely that I'd be thinking dirty thoughts about more than one.

 

Speak personally, before I started dating my H, he traveled in a group of similar guys in overall attractiveness (objectively speaking). He wasn't the tallest of the group, but he was the only one I couldn't get out of my head! He was the one I was magnetically attracted to. And I'm not the only one. Other girls liked him the most, too.

 

Remind me again, around what height is your husband? Short, average or tall?

 

Sexual attraction has a lot to do with whether you are physically attracted to the guy right? And for the majority of women, height is connected to physical attraction. Multiple women have said so in this thread.

 

That has lead me to the conclusion that on average taller men are more attractive simply because they are tall. And obviously a woman is going to be interested in the man she is most attracted to.

 

Only a small minority of women don't care about a man's looks and are more interested in personality and humor. My ex was one of those women.

[somedude81]

I'm 6'2'' and dating a woman who's barely 5'2'' (or so she "claims").

 

I love it.

 

I always went for shorter girls. I just feel more of a man when I have a smaller lady next to me. And it always makes the women I'm with feel secure.

 

And of course, it's dominating. Especially in the bedroom. By being larger and stronger, I am able to throw my woman around, manipulate her body, and overpower her in bed. She flippin' loves it. She keeps telling me how much she loves to be dominated by me. SO.... it works?

 

So in other words, you won't be able to dominate and throw around a woman who is 5'8, 140?

[somedude81]

A number of men have considered me too tall. The preference is usually that shorter women are considered more feminine, simply because they are smaller.

 

In a strange turn of events, after being 5'8 all my adult life, I got measured at the doctor last week and to my surprise it appears I've shrunk. He measured 5'6 and 3/4.

 

!?

 

Hey cool, you're my height now and you're no longer too tall for me. I'll be waiting for your PM

 

As for women being less feminine, I've always considered a woman to be more or less feminine depending on her figure. Kate Upton is 5'10, and I'd consider her to be way more feminine than a woman who was 5'2, 200 lbs.

[CrystalCastles]

Even though I'm mid-height for a man, I love tall women and I would dream of dating one. Why do most men prefer to date a shorter woman? Why wouldn't they date tall women?

 

I'm talking 5'10+ tall woman. I've heard this many times that men just won't take taller women. Why?

 

Huh. I've never had problems attracting guys and I'm 5'11, give or take an inch. None of them ever seemed to have a problem with me towering over them. But then again, I tower over most people...

[Gloria25]

lol...

 

I think men literally like shorter women for the "spinner" potential (someone they can pick up and spin around)...

 

And think about it, don't a lot of people just cooooo at cute, small things?

 

I'm 5'7" and yeah, when compared to the "spinner" potential of a shorter chick, I have my times where I get resentful of my height. But nah, I actually wish I was 5'11" - cuz I love that tall, majestic look of being a woman with long legs and neck (I've gotten compliments on my legs and neck - what can I say?)

[xxoo]

Remind me again, around what height is your husband? Short, average or tall?

 

Sexual attraction has a lot to do with whether you are physically attracted to the guy right? And for the majority of women, height is connected to physical attraction. Multiple women have said so in this thread.

 

That has lead me to the conclusion that on average taller men are more attractive simply because they are tall. And obviously a woman is going to be interested in the man she is most attracted to.

 

Only a small minority of women don't care about a man's looks and are more interested in personality and humor. My ex was one of those women.

 

He's about 5'7"

 

So many things can create attraction. The list is long. I'd say that it is a minority of women who require height for attraction, but the majority include height as one factor in creating attraction. V-shaped build, jawline, broad shoulders, shapely forearms (swoon!), and other physical features also are included. For most women, hitting one or two of her physical sparks may be enough, and then the intangibles factor in.

[OwMyEyeball]

6'1 here and never had a date that I saw eye-to-eye with, if you get my drift

 

I don't think I've ever consciously selected for height

 

I do prefer shorter (<5'6) in the same way I prefer brunettes. It's mild to the point of irrelevance.

[Diezel]

A number of men have considered me too tall. The preference is usually that shorter women are considered more feminine, simply because they are smaller.

 

In a strange turn of events, after being 5'8 all my adult life, I got measured at the doctor last week and to my surprise it appears I've shrunk. He measured 5'6 and 3/4.

 

!?

 

But how tall are you now?

[Diezel]

lol...

 

I think men literally like shorter women for the "spinner" potential (someone they can pick up and spin around)...

 

Don't quite remember the last time I had a conversation with some male friends and the talk involved "spinning potential"... unless it was related to the bedroom.

[Ninjainpajamas]

I'm 6'1 and have dated women of nearly all shapes and sizes, but I would say generally I do like shorter women rather than taller.

 

It's never been a conscious decision, it's only something I realized through my own awareness over time.

 

I'm also a larger bodied/muscular build at 205 pounds, I carry a lot of size in my upper body therefore I tend to feel too "big" for some of the petite women that I am attracted to at times, and because they're so tiny I wonder if they'd date or be interested in a guy of my size...because I see a lot of these women dating smallish looking guys comparatively and think to myself maybe that's more compatible looking of a match, because they're often with guys considerably shorter and with a much smaller physique than I have.

 

So although I've dated shorter/smaller women, It's still in my head for some reason whether my size cancels me out or lessons my chances from dating certain types of women.

 

As far as tall women, I'm attracted to tall women as well and I don't necessarily need a small woman either because I could throw around most grown men so that's never really been a concern of mine...I like the smallness and cuteness of a smaller girl and all that but I do like a woman with a little meat on her too as I'm a sexual guy and I need some mass to be pressed against my body, if you're essentially made out of broom sticks that's going to make me feel quite huge and not much for me to feel.

 

I kind of like that mid-range, not too tall, not too short, busty with a round rump preferably, nice healthy set of meaty thighs helps, and then it's up to hair, face and overall look...which can be any shade of color or ethnicity just about, for me. Then I'll be looking into what kind of woman you are to judge overall attractiveness, meaning someone that doesn't meet the exact physical preferences may win out over the girl who does.