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Samilia

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I dated that guy who thought he had a small penis. That's all he ever talked about when he talked about sex. After a while all I could see was a small penis.

 

Drop it, stop talking about it, stop bringing it up, just stop.

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neveragain34

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Every girl is different. I am 5'8 and love to wear heels on dates which makes me almost 6ft all so I prefer to date men 5'11" or taller. It just feels right. That's just me; I'm shallow and picky at times which is probably why I'm still single. Lol

 

Just be confident and don't let her smell any insecurities. Being insecure or intimidated is more of a turn-off than anything physical.

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Yeah it just seems like you're really insecure about it and attempting to sabotage the fact that she has interest. Why would she continue looking and smiling at you if she is not?

 

You should definitely get over the fact that your height is keeping your chances low and go for it, I see plenty of guys around your height doing just fine with women.

 

I understand that the inside comment has got you on edge, but like you said you are indeed taller than her so that's usually the big factor for women...they don't want you too much shorter or about the same height or preferably a bit taller. Some women demand a guy 6' even if they are as tall as a shoe, but she wouldn't have been looking at you if that's what she was after.

 

Ignore the women who are height junkies...they are usually riddled with their own insecurities and go for the women who are around your height, that's what I would do and I'd have no complaints with that personally, unless you want La Wanda who's 6'2, 450lbs and got tatas the size of your car tires...you might not be enough "man" for her.

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haha it's funny, probably an hour after this happened she gave me her phone number, told me her computer was dying and gave me it.

 

how long do you think waiting after you broke up with an ex to start trying to find a new girlfriend? It's not so much me, because im over that relationship, it was great but toward the end i being bullied and i was so done. my ex has feelings for me, i don't answer her calls or texts.. I just want to move forward. Should i go ahead and pursue this new girl?

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Casablanca

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I normally don't see having a height preference as a bad thing or that it bothers me...but I had a girl online contact me who is 4'10 and in her profile she lists that she wants guys between 5'10 and 6'3 or something like that. What in the world? That is a humongous height difference....she for one is too short for my likings...at 5'0, someone has to be really perfect for me to consider them, I'm 6'1 by the way.

 

I just don't get why someone that short would want someone that much taller than them. I get women wanting a taller guy, but a good foot taller??!!!

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hppr

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do you think this height thing will be an issue?

 

Go for it, see what happens, if she spouts off bull**** about how she doesn't usually date short guys or guys who do X for a living or whatever ignore it and keep going. More than likely you'll have to hear crap like that every now and then until you two are sleeping together on a regular basis at which time you'll find out where you really stand with her.

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hppr

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Damn dude. That sucks. Have you considered leg lengthening surgery?

 

Although if a guy with no limbs can get a hot girl, I don't see why you can't.

 

Being short you lose out a bit on the looks department so you have to try extra hard in the other ones. You have to be funnier than the other guys, you have to TRY HARDER than the other guys, work harder at your job, that kind of stuff.

 

A very very short man who is funny as hell and has a good job, or at least a job that he loves...won't really be at a disadvantage.

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Being short you lose out a bit on the looks department so you have to try extra hard in the other ones. You have to be funnier than the other guys, you have to TRY HARDER than the other guys, work harder at your job, that kind of stuff.

 

A very very short man who is funny as hell and has a good job, or at least a job that he loves...won't really be at a disadvantage.

 

 

I really don't see why I have to compensate for it though.

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amazingdrummer

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If you're a short guy, just tell women that you're not "short"; those missing inches just went somewhere else on your body...

 

let's hope that they went to the right place, not his toes or fingers.

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soccerrprp

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Oh dear Lordie! Another "short" thread....ugh. I'm 5'6. I have no problems dating. Speak for yourself. :)

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I really don't see why I have to compensate for it though.

 

It's not 'compensating' it's just recognizing that although you don't have ONE thing that they want you have OTHER things that they might want. It's about playing to your strengths.

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Oh dear Lordie! Another "short" thread....ugh. I'm 5'6. I have no problems dating. Speak for yourself. :)

 

 

world avg male height is 5'8. Only being 2 inches under avg when the range is so big doesn't really qualify you as "short". Just a bit under average. Just saying ;)

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man_in_the_box

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What does it matter if the average male is 5'8 if regionally everyone is much taller? I'm 5'11 and at least half or more of my social circle is taller. 6'3 is quite a 'normal' length and the average man is somewhere at 6'0 here. The global numbers don't affect anyone's situation at all unless you consider moving for height.

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bob the brave

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I am 5'9" 160 lbs with a small build. But I work out a lot and am in great physical condition with muscles.

 

A 5'7" girl I liked asked my height then flat out rejected me making short jokes. Then she hooked up with another guy 5'10". She got mad at him (for a good reason) and they broke up. This guy was totally fat and would drink a 6 pack a day.

 

Then she recently got married. I met her husband and he is 6-6'2" and bigger build then me but totally out of shape.

 

I am a college educated professional, speak 5 languages and traveled. My interest was real and sincere (not like the first guy) and she actually feels because I am not 6' tall that I am less than human. A joke.

 

This has really hurt my self-esteem. Any way to get it back? It seems so unfair and ignorant.

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I am 5'9" 160 lbs with a small build. But I work out a lot and am in great physical condition with muscles.

 

A 5'7" girl I liked asked my height then flat out rejected me making short jokes. Then she hooked up with another guy 5'10". She got mad at him (for a good reason) and they broke up. This guy was totally fat and would drink a 6 pack a day.

 

Then she recently got married. I met her husband and he is 6-6'2" and bigger build then me but totally out of shape.

 

I am a college educated professional, speak 5 languages and traveled. My interest was real and sincere (not like the first guy) and she actually feels because I am not 6' tall that I am less than human. A joke.

 

This has really hurt my self-esteem. Any way to get it back? It seems so unfair and ignorant.

 

Who is she to make jokes at you for being short? She is 5'7, and 5'9 isn't even that short anyway lol.

 

On to the next one. Plenty more fish in the sea as they say.

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LittleTiger

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My Dad was 5'7" - he's shorter now he's old. Awesome guy!

 

He married my Mum (5'4") who used to look like Ingrid Bergman (very beautiful film star in the 1940s).

 

Your 5'7" girl was just one woman Bob and not a very nice one by the sounds of it - you deserve better and should be grateful she moved on!

 

Self esteem comes from the inside and you clearly take care of yourself so you're halfway there already.

 

Love your username by the way :)

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I am 5'9" 160 lbs with a small build. But I work out a lot and am in great physical condition with muscles.

 

A 5'7" girl I liked asked my height then flat out rejected me making short jokes.

 

You will read a lot of posts here from girls telling you that height doesn't matter to them but they are lying. It does. They are just unwilling to admit it.

They are long on sympathy and short on honesty.

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LittleTiger

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You will read a lot of posts here from girls telling you that height doesn't matter to them but they are lying. It does. They are just unwilling to admit it.

They are long on sympathy and short on honesty.

 

Height is a preferred option for many, possibly even most, women. Just like small waist, long legs, firm butt and high, firm, rounded breasts are the preferred options for men - not to mention perfect, flawless skin without stretch marks or cellulite!

 

Most women don't fit that description and most men aren't tall. Yet somehow that vast majority of people find long term partners who love them as they are.

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Sarabi

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Wow :(

Sorry this happened to you.

We are not all bad you know. 5'9" is fine. If you were with me I would be happy :) (you would be taller than me in heels AND I get to practice my language on you if you speak French :p)

You deserve better than that. Try not to give any more airtime in your head to this shallow, insipid woman who most likely got married for superficial reasons. One day you will look back and be grateful-Would you be happy to have a girlfriend/wife like that? :(

With your qualities, skills and experiences you can make better informed choices about what you want in a partner and have a good chance of having a great relationship in future :)

You might not have what you want right now...but sometimes because you've had to wait for it, when it eventually happens it will be sincere and genuine and even of a better quality than what other people have(including her and her husband). Trust me :o

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skydiveaddict

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Height is a preferred option for many, possibly even most, women.

 

Just as it is for you. Admit it. Or are you like most other girls who will not admit it?

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Sarabi

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Just as it for you. Admit it. Or are you like most other girls who will not admit it?

I would personally say I would prefer someone taller than me...but that is not hard because even though I don't think I am, I am classed as being on the short/petite side of women(5'3")

Oh...but I did have a couple of dates once with someone who was the same height as me...:o...so...I dunno.

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skydiveaddict

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I would personally say I would prefer someone taller than me...

 

Nice. I admire your honesty.

 

I'm 6'1" ; so I have no dog in this fight.

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