jw32802 Posted July 18, 2004 Share Posted July 18, 2004 Do you women out there believe in "giving a guy sex when he wants it" (I mean if you guys have been long term and have sex or if you are married and if hes a good guy, i dont mean this for the jerk guys). Do you believe in the notion that if he wants it in the middle of the night and you are tired , you should "give it to him anyway". i was just reading about that. Link to post Share on other sites
Gemini02 Posted July 18, 2004 Share Posted July 18, 2004 Maybe once in awhile- not every time tho. I mean you never know, you may think you're tired but once you get going you may start having a good time yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Ariesgirl Posted July 18, 2004 Share Posted July 18, 2004 I only think you should have sex with a guy if you want to. If you just "give it to him" even when you don't want to, it is only going to come back to haunt you. It actually pushed me away because then I felt obligated. I did have sex only because he wanted to, and it then started to make me run and keep busy, or pretend I was asleep when I knew he wanted it. Pretty soon I avoided it all together! It's like lying, only in a sexual way. Link to post Share on other sites
havNfun Posted July 18, 2004 Share Posted July 18, 2004 if you don't ussually want to then maybe its not the right guy. Most girlfriends want it more than me and will have sex absolutely whenever I wish. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jw32802 Posted July 18, 2004 Author Share Posted July 18, 2004 Really, you find that most girls will do it whenever you wish?? i didnt think alot of girls were like that Link to post Share on other sites
joseph Posted July 19, 2004 Share Posted July 19, 2004 Originally posted by jw32802 Really, you find that most girls will do it whenever you wish?? i didnt think alot of girls were like that this is definately true... some of girls want it alot... Theres nothing like a spontaneous woman who jumps ya in the middle of the night Ive never really experienced a problem like that either; most women Ive been with are into it just as much as me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jw32802 Posted July 19, 2004 Author Share Posted July 19, 2004 yes but i mean even when she is asleep or tired? Link to post Share on other sites
joseph Posted July 19, 2004 Share Posted July 19, 2004 If shes asleep, it never hurts to lightly wake her up using inventive ways and if she zonks back out, well; I'd zonk too...no sense pushing it, thats just rude. as for her being tired, like say she's wiped from a long day, I'd just take it easy for that night. Relax together, etc. Oh ya, and if she had to work early the next morning I wouldnt wake her for midnight adventures... Link to post Share on other sites
mj2k4 Posted July 20, 2004 Share Posted July 20, 2004 my girl and i have different sex drives, so I dont get it as much as I would like. And she rarely initiates. She leaves it up to me. We dont live together, so she'll come over maybe once or twice a week, and we both know thats our time to have sex. I wish it was more, but we cant at her place (except for the occasional quickie in the shower or something), and she is very busy raising a child, and with school and work, so its difficult to put time aside. She also cant stay over much, if ever. That is one thing I miss about some of my past LTRs... But yeah, I know she's given it to me when she didnt necessarily want to at first. It just meant I had to work extra hard to get her in the mood, but at the same time not be too pushy about it. Thats a turn off for some women. Link to post Share on other sites
swtbonita Posted July 20, 2004 Share Posted July 20, 2004 me personally, if i'm tired and my bf starts getting excited and starts making out.. I get right into it.. I love it all the time.. So me and my bf don't have a problem but he also asks if i'm tired but I never am lol.. But if you are and you really don't want to.. don't because you have to compromise and you shouldn't do something that you really aren't into because then it won't be good for either of you.. Link to post Share on other sites
Pained Posted July 20, 2004 Share Posted July 20, 2004 It's the 21st century. A lot of women are more able now to admit that they want it a lot, with many wanting it as much as their boyfriends. However, there are two types of women: the ones who truly want it a lot, and the ones who feel insecure and give in because they just want to please their boyfriends. If I were a man, I'd want a woman who truly wants it, and who tells me no if she doesn't. It's not fun dating a pushover who lives to please you. Trust me, it gets tiring being the center of someone's universe. You want them to find themselves and have their own life. Link to post Share on other sites
FolderWife Posted July 20, 2004 Share Posted July 20, 2004 Well, *sigh* I used to, but lately, he wants it every NIGHT! Also, i've been sore down there. The other day, he kept trying to initiate it, and I kept ignoring him, and finally, he got up on his knees, and pulled my face up to his thing! I flat out told him, "I don't want to stick that in my mouth!!" He got upset He tried again the next night, and finally gave up. The next night, he wouldn't take no for an answer. It was mind blowing If your guy wants it like 2 or 3 times a week, then yeah, give it when he wants. If he wants it every night, though, then at least TRY to make the chase more interesting. Also, I don't not have sex because I'm "tired" I don't think. I don't have it because something on me is achey. Link to post Share on other sites
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