How long do I wait for him to propose?

[Gracie22]

A divorce is very different from an LTR break up because you lose a little bit of you in the process. What you grieve for is a loss of innocence - especially when you married young. It's very different where the ultimate commitment wasn't made in a relationship. It's irrelevant who made the decision to divorce it still takes years to get over it.

 

As a result, it's hard to argue that hte OP knows what she wants since she isn't over the trauma that recently happened to her. I mean she probably does want to settle down for good with kids and marriage but her putting that desire over finding the right person is a strong possibility. It is suspicious that she has found the next husband so quickly, how does she know that she is willing to make all the necessary compromises with this man when clearly she failed with someone else recently and hasn't taken her time to get to know the current partner?

 

People do get lucky and meet someone quickly, it does happen but wanting to jump into such a huge commitment so soon after her previous one ending from what I read calls the OP's judgement into question.

 

After I separated from my husband I met someone quite soon too and we talked about marriage (though luckily I knew it was too soon) looking back it was almost the habit of being with someone long term speaking. We weren't suitable but my idea was to make it work because it's what I knew then.

 

There are exceptions but I would say not being single for a while during your adulthood is probably not a good way to progress from one committed relationship to the next. You don't have the confidence to think in different terms.

 

 

Umm...I mentioned earlier, no kids. Did you read the whole post?

 

Furthermore, everyone gets over loss (the process of grieving) at a different rate. Any person who has been through loss/greiving process know this. There is no standard "time" to get over a loss of a LTR. Where did you get your PhD from?

 

This isn't an issue of me being ready - I'm in counseling, I've discussed this w/ my therapist. This was a question to see if others had common experience dealing w/ men who talked a big talk w/o putting it on the line.

[alysamartin001]

Great sound!!!!!