Mother is at it again

[capricorndreamgurl3]

My mom yesterday had a tantrum and now she says she hates her mother all because my grandma called her yesterday to take her somewhere and my mom apparently had plans yesterday. I am not really sure if my grandmother does this or not, but my mom claims that my grandmother always tries to hang the inheritance money from my grandpa's death above my mom's head and tells her that she won't be getting if she doesn't follow through with my grandma's wishes. Now, she wants me to take my grandma to the beach, which will mean that I will have to drive 6 hours back home to pick her up, 6 hours down to the beach, and afterwards, six hours to take her back home, and then drive 6 more hours back here. My mom was going, but due to her hissy fit, she refuses to go and have my grandma pay for it. I just don't think I am up to doing that? What should I do?

[january2011]

Do it for the retirement money or because she's your grandma.

 

Or don't do it because she's being unreasonable and as an indepedent adult you have the right to refuse unreasonable requests that venture into emotional blackmail territory, no matter who makes the request.

[capricorndreamgurl3]

My husband left to go overseas this past week. I am here home alone and everything is going well. My parents were freaking out and telling me that I needed to come home because they were worried about me being alone where I live. I told them no and they didn't resist at all. I hate to be this way, but I am going there for Thanksgiving in a week and it's pointless to make two trips in a month there. However, my mom made me feel bad today because she has a colonoscopy in the morning and she has to drink all that stuff. My dad left to go somewhere and she calls and tells me how lonesome she is and that she hopes she didn't need anything. Should I feel bad or keep brushing off the guilt trip?