jw32802 Posted July 18, 2004 Share Posted July 18, 2004 Alot of guys tell me that they like looking at gorgeous, beautiful girls but having a relationship with one is always a disaster. Why is that? At least the majority of the time that is what i hear. Is it true what they say, "god giveth and god taketh away". He gives one girl great looks but takes away something else like personality, etc. This fascinates me. Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted July 18, 2004 Share Posted July 18, 2004 A lot of these "gorgeous women" are nothing but absolute trouble. Most of them know they look good, and use it to their total advantage. It is practically impossible to have a relationship with the majority of these women. I notice that most men will not even try to approach these types, as weeding out the nice ones is quite a daunting task. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jw32802 Posted July 18, 2004 Author Share Posted July 18, 2004 Wow I think you are so right! I just can't figure out why that is! It's like in that movie "Shallow hal" the best girls are the ones who aren't all that hot, but have a killer personality and then get hot later on, and keep teh same personality lol. you are right though, these girls really dont know "themselves" and all they know is that they are pretty so you can't hold a conversation i guess. And most of them are so insecure, amazingly! Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted July 18, 2004 Share Posted July 18, 2004 Faux is dead on. Link to post Share on other sites
InmannRoshi Posted July 18, 2004 Share Posted July 18, 2004 Yeah, I would date a gorgeous woman if we were compatible, but I really don't think I have much of anything in common with most absolutely gorgeous women. Gorgeous women are used to being catered to and pampered. They're used to a life completely different from mine. To get people to laugh at my jokes, I have to actually say something funny. To get someone to pay attention to my stories, it actually has to be interesting or insightful. Link to post Share on other sites
sami Posted July 18, 2004 Share Posted July 18, 2004 For many of them, the saying: " Don't judge a book by it's cover" is really true and correct. There are exceptions though. Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted July 18, 2004 Share Posted July 18, 2004 I think I'd have trust issues with a completely gorgeous woman. What if Matt Damon walks by and says, "Hey, let's go back to my place!" Link to post Share on other sites
havNfun Posted July 18, 2004 Share Posted July 18, 2004 actually, I think the super hot girls that are very smart (hard to find) are the ones to go after. Most guys are too chicken to approach them... a little guts goes a long way with them. but, the kind of women I want has changed over the years. As life gets more serious, and as marriage is a possibility - they have to have much more inside. Link to post Share on other sites
JohnnyBravo Posted July 19, 2004 Share Posted July 19, 2004 This is the honest to God truth. I'm in a business, and a city, where I meet a lot of models and actresses. I've dated probably 10 or more drop dead gorgeous models, actresses, and, 2 strippers, and I can say that more often than not, they've almost always got some real issues that hinder the relationship. As some have said, women who know they're beautiful use their looks to their advantage. They know the power they have over guys. I admit to being a victim of this more than once, but I do love beautiful women anyway. I've known women, one model in particular, who is really stunning and the perfect age for the more settled relationship I'm looking for, and I admit to being rather taken by her when I first met her. When we started to date, the more I got to know her, the less I liked her as a person. The constant drama with her agency and jobs and complaining that all guys want to sleep with her (probably true, I did, and did), got tiresome. In the end, she wasn't worth the drama, no matter that all heads would turn when she walked into a room. On the other hand, I almost married one of these girls, before I realized she was nuts, but she was also an amazing girl, as were many of the women I've been involved with. I don't think you guys should generalize that all or most extremely attractive women are either a handful or self-absorbed or that you have nothing in common with them. I've also had some terrific relationships with these girls. So don't sell yourself short and don't de daunted - if you see a girl you want to approach, do it. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, and although i hate to say it, there IS something supremely satisfying about converting that girl you have a crush on or find amazingly attractive into a girlfriend. Lastly, when a guy is with a beautiful woman, he becomes more attractive to other women. Figure that. Regarding strippers, the jury is still out. I've only dated 2. One for about 4 years and another for a ridiculous, bull**** filled, month. Oh, and I'm not shallow. I'm just stating certain instances here. I date normal women too, because I do believe that models and actresses are NOT normal women. Link to post Share on other sites
sami Posted July 19, 2004 Share Posted July 19, 2004 You are right in saying:" models and actresses are not normal women". Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted July 19, 2004 Share Posted July 19, 2004 I'm gorgeous, darn it, and it's not impossible to have a relationship with ME. Just hard. Remember that song? "If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife, take it from my personal point of view, get an ugly girl to marry you" People that are in the public eye aren't exactly "normal" anyways. Are we talking normal gorgeous women or celebs here? Link to post Share on other sites
JohnnyBravo Posted July 19, 2004 Share Posted July 19, 2004 In my own dating experiences, we're talking normal gorgeous women, working models and actresses, but no-one I'd classify as a celeb. Of the celebs I do know, most if not all are definitely not normal. What IS normal anyway? Is normal ordinary? Is normal boring? Is normal someone without any issues? That's an impossibility, so what's normal? Link to post Share on other sites
dudesomewhere Posted July 19, 2004 Share Posted July 19, 2004 eh I don't know. But back to the basics of the post question: "Can guys have a relationship with a gorgeous woman?" Yes, a relationship...a friendly one whether platonic or with ulterior motives, sure. Relationships as in romantic, sure...if the guy is equally attractive, has a big schlong, big wallet, or good weed. I've known plenty of beautiful women who have great personalities...problem is I know a ton more who don't. So it's all about the numbers game. Too many bimbos is all . I'd say number of beautiful women with great personalities to those that are bimbos is about 1 to 5000. Link to post Share on other sites
Jai Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 I find that I always had a problem with the ladies that have self esteem issues. Seems as soon as another guy checks them out they just run. Basically I don't look for looks but they should be attractive and a PERSONALITY is definately what is going to make them look great in the end. Jai Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 There are exceptions. I personally don't think I'm gorgeous but I am very very attractive. I am also very smart and mature for my age. And of course my personality kicks a**! But I think It's all about how a girl is raised and what she has gone through in her life. Link to post Share on other sites
SweetBee82 Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 I was gonna something similar to this. I was wondering what do men see in these women? I don't consider myself model/hollywood gorgeous but I do consider myself pretty. But for some reason, men go for the skinny model type. Why? Link to post Share on other sites
thecake Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 havNfun is dead on with this "Most guys are too chicken to approach them... a little guts goes a long way with them". I don't assume that all good looking men are a'holes....and I know a lot of unattractive men who are jerks. Link to post Share on other sites
SweetBee82 Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 Originally posted by thecake I don't assume that all good looking men are a'holes....and I know a lot of unattractive men who are jerks. I do agree on that. I went out with a model and that guy is sooooo cocky! He's hot but darn, he's vain. And I briefly dated someone who isn't hot and he too was a jerk! Even my ex-hub isn't a looker and though it didn't matter with looks, he end up being an a-hole. I always want a guy who's got a great balance.... attractive (doesn't mean everything, just a simple thing such as his eyes or lips) and smart (there's nothing sexier than a man with brains). I'm glad to have someone who fits that mold. I usually end up with one or the other and never both. Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 I recently found one that has everythring. I'm still pinching myself and hoping its not an act. But its been a while and hes the same. Like I said in my other posts.. LIfe is Good. But yeah I went out with this guy that was a model. SO vain. He spent more time in front of the mirror than me, complained that MY outfits did not match, hated kids, and just thought the world revolved around him. And a not so goodlooking guy that was the same way. I was really going to give up hope lol. Link to post Share on other sites
thecake Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 is hilarious...I wonder about the people who claim they would NEVER be involved with a gorgeous woman yet they're failing to realize they probably don't stand a chance in the first place because they don't have the balls to walk up to the girl and get to know her....they just assume she's into herself. Whatever. Link to post Share on other sites
dudesomewhere Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 really though...to me, beauty is more than skin deep and I am never impressed by someone's looks. Maybe it has to do with my artistic side and if I see someone "beautiful" it's more a case of artistic study. Sure it's a start...a flint to a possible fire...but only a possibility like 1 ingredient in the gumbo of romance. Lately I've had some females most guys would call gorgeous or hot flirt with me but I didn't return any flirtations. You know that annoying type of flirting where they ask you questions and talk to you while bending forward wearing plunging neckline apparel? For example I find Pamela Anderson ugly...but many say she's beautiful. Sure she's fit, but she's got one messed up grill I had this one girl flirt with me last week. She was cute but I felt a little bad because she wasn't my type. It was a little obvious, she would wait for me and when I approached her she was just checking me out...looking me up and down and then back at her friend. I have rather oversized arms, and even when covered up the bottom part of my biceps still show...on top of that I'm all vascular. So I think that's what she was noticing. I think she was waiting for me to make a move, but I couldn't. Not my type. Personality is the thing...it's the drive that gets me going. It's like going down the laundry line and looking at sheets hung on the line...and then noticing this one that's getting all kicked about by the breeze. Sometimes that personality is just so right that it does that...makes you look up and just notice how a lady moves. I think personality carries through physical movement...especially if it's the right kind that meshes with you...you just notice it. Link to post Share on other sites
JonnyMadness Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 Our opinions on this are shaped by the total of all our own past experiences. My past experience is that attractive people, male or female, learn at an early age that beauty is the most ancient and effective manipulation tool ever. But, I don't think it's a conscious thing. We've all seen the studies that say good looking people even get better jobs! I've seen it a thousand times - people just relate to attractive people differently, right from childhood. So, it's really the fault of society, just look at the degree to which our culture worships celebrities. I mean, we have shows (i.e. Entertainment Tonight) that cost 10s of millions of dollars to produce, for the purpose of keeping track of who J Lo is dating, or what diet Jennifer Aniston is on, or Britney's favorite color! Personally, I think it's pathetic that enough people care about **** like that to actually pay people millions of dollars to stand there and tell us (looking good themselves, of course), and STILL make millions of dollars more - all of this money comes from middle and lower class, you and me. Society values looks over intelligence, and good looking people are treated differently. When you're beautiful, nobody cares about anything else, and everybody relates to you based on that first and formost. The sad thing is, beautiful people don't get to experience relationships with people who care about their other, more important, qualities. All the hot girls I know ALWAYS have a gaggle of goons swarming them at all times, calling them, buying them drinks hoping to get laid (usually succeeding, which is just legal prostitution if you ask me). Some I'm very interested in, but they'll never know because I refuse to be the kind of a##hole that usually gets their attention. Jonny Madness Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 Dude Your hair....your hair!! Please tell me it's tucked under the hat. Right? right? Link to post Share on other sites
dudesomewhere Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 CUT in May! I'll grow it out some, maybe 2 more inches...but no more 20" hair Maybe . If I get lazy it'll be 2' again Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 You don't look bad like that either but the hair was so damn sexy. Link to post Share on other sites
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