Cheating!

[prettylittlethings]

I'm sure there's been plenty of polls on loveshack and off the shack that answer these questions but I'd like to know in more detail the ins and outs of cheating.

 

I absolutely adore the company of men, but my line of work has really jaded me in that I think nearly ALL all men cheat, and if they don't, they think about cheating and they desire other women. I have no idea about women because I don't deal with women on a day to day basis.

 

So for the sake of being a curious cat, please don't kill me with your answers!

 

1. Have you ever cheated on the one that you love?

 

2. If you haven't cheated, have you thought about cheating on the what that you love? What has motivated these thoughts?

 

3. Do you trust your partner not to cheat?

 

I think nearly all men have cheated, and (nearly all) the rest think about cheating or desire other women at some point. In my head, if you WANT to cheat, then f*ck! You might as well cheat. It's not going to hurt me any less if my partner says "wow... she is so gorgeous, I'd really like to sleep with her" than if he actually went out and banged her. And no need to tell me otherwise, I've been in both these positions.

 

And just for the record, I'm not trying to demonize men. For all I know women are exactly the same but I don't have any close female friends to exchange thoughts with...

[nessaaa]

Amen!

I thought I was the only one on here who thinks all men cheat.

And I agree, if u think about cheating that basically is cheating.

 

My parents have been married for about 20 years, my old geezer dad who's 50 confessed to cheating recently which further convinced and proved to me that all men are pigs.

They will cheat sooner or later, feel sorry for married couples. Have fun with that.

I don't know any couple who haven't cheated or are completely happy. Men are animals they need to be single, they just want u for cleaning and breeding their kids.

 

I laugh at all u married suckers who are living in fantasy world thinking your man loves u, little do u know their checking out younger women and would **** them if they could.

[Woggle]

I have never cheated on a woman and I have no desire to.

 

I do think men get a bad rap on this when it is much more even between the genders.

[Untouchable_Fire]

Amen!

I thought I was the only one on here who thinks all men cheat.

And I agree, if u think about cheating that basically is cheating.

My parents have been married for about 20 years, my old geezer dad who's 50 confessed to cheating recently which further convinced and proved to me that all men are pigs.

 

Self fulfilling prophecy.

 

Your bad attitude will keep any quality guy miles away.

[mortensorchid]

Do all men cheat? Well, hard to say. I believe there is a percentage out there who do not cheat on their spouse/signifigant other. And there is another percent who do. What constitutes cheating? Actually having sex with someone else or even exchanging a glance with someone across the room, that person walks away, and you never see that person again? Some do consider the second example to be as such.

 

However, don't blast men on this, because I think women cheat just as much as men do. AT least, recently they do. Women are not as burdened down with children now as they were before, and now they have just as many opportunities. With the same frequency? Not sure.

 

I think we have all considered it at some point. The question is when it's presented with you do you say yes or no? If the answer is no, that's it. But if the answer is yes, then you have to face the consequences once the act is done. Are you going to throw away what you have with your spouse/signifigant other over a piece of ass? Because that's what you've just done. Once again, the answer is either yes or no. Do not take these questions lightly.

[prettylittlethings]

Do all men cheat? Well, hard to say. I believe there is a percentage out there who do not cheat on their spouse/signifigant other. And there is another percent who do. What constitutes cheating? Actually having sex with someone else or even exchanging a glance with someone across the room, that person walks away, and you never see that person again? Some do consider the second example to be as such.

 

However, don't blast men on this, because I think women cheat just as much as men do. AT least, recently they do. Women are not as burdened down with children now as they were before, and now they have just as many opportunities. With the same frequency? Not sure.

 

I think we have all considered it at some point. The question is when it's presented with you do you say yes or no? If the answer is no, that's it. But if the answer is yes, then you have to face the consequences once the act is done. Are you going to throw away what you have with your spouse/signifigant other over a piece of ass? Because that's what you've just done. Once again, the answer is either yes or no. Do not take these questions lightly.

 

I'm not blasting men on this... I wasn't exclusively asking men, I'm actually just as interested in how women feel about cheating.

 

Well that's what I really want to know and you've basically just answered it. So you're saying everybody considers it? If my partner considers it than he may aswell have done it.

[prettylittlethings]

Do all men cheat? Well, hard to say. I believe there is a percentage out there who do not cheat on their spouse/signifigant other. And there is another percent who do.

 

 

Well duh.

[Titanwolf]

It's naive to believe that most people have such control over their minds, that they can prevent themselves from fantasizing about other people (Monks spend their entire lives learning this), even for just a moment (men and women alike). Unless of course, they're defective (Asexual or another mental alteration to the average mind).

 

 

1. Have you ever cheated on the one that you love?

 

No.

 

2. If you haven't cheated, have you thought about cheating on the what that you love? What has motivated these thoughts?

No.

 

3. Do you trust your partner not to cheat?

 

No, but those are my natural instincts trying to protect my heart.

Edited August 29, 2012 by Titanwolf

[todreaminblue]

I'm sure there's been plenty of polls on loveshack and off the shack that answer these questions but I'd like to know in more detail the ins and outs of cheating.

 

I absolutely adore the company of men, but my line of work has really jaded me in that I think nearly ALL all men cheat, and if they don't, they think about cheating and they desire other women. I have no idea about women because I don't deal with women on a day to day basis.

 

So for the sake of being a curious cat, please don't kill me with your answers!

 

1. Have you ever cheated on the one that you love?

 

2. If you haven't cheated, have you thought about cheating on the what that you love? What has motivated these thoughts?

 

3. Do you trust your partner not to cheat?

 

I think nearly all men have cheated, and (nearly all) the rest think about cheating or desire other women at some point. In my head, if you WANT to cheat, then f*ck! You might as well cheat. It's not going to hurt me any less if my partner says "wow... she is so gorgeous, I'd really like to sleep with her" than if he actually went out and banged her. And no need to tell me otherwise, I've been in both these positions.

 

And just for the record, I'm not trying to demonize men. For all I know women are exactly the same but I don't have any close female friends to exchange thoughts with...

 

first school crush didnt even sleep with im only kissed never cheated

I had an open relationship with my first real boyfriend he cheated i did not cheat i was young and extremely naive full of hope that left me when i lost my wallet my leaving pay from the navy and my suitcase....horror story huh?thats life....anyway i wont get into logistics but the relationship was open for him to be happy.....i wasnt really into sex......there is more to this but i dont feel it is appropriate to talk about

second relationship......a friend who waited around for the first relationship to end was a highly sexual relationship he had my trust.....deteriorated every time he cheated even though he continued to be sexual with me my heart was gone the first time....got very disillusioned with life in general i felt he had taken me and my children on.... waited for two years to eventually cheat on me i gave up on love...threw myself into other pursuits and continued to turn a blind eye to my now ex to keep the family together i didnt want to date anymore...i thought that was love it isnt of course......

so i do have issues of trust but in saying that ....i have changed my outlook i got involved with a church i adore and the people and the men reminds me of my family values that i was bought up with strong and high standards and the teachers who took the time to befriend me who were male the church has restored my faith in relationships my heart thanks them for that i feel renewed ......hopeful again its a gorgeous thing to feel.....i class myself as jaded.....no longer......anyway i am sorry you dont have any close girlfiends to talk to if you need to talk i will try and help you with anything you want to know i fi know it.....i dont know everything lol far from it.....good luck in life and love...hugs from me to you..deb

Edited August 29, 2012 by todreaminblue

[kaylan]

1. Have you ever cheated on the one that you love?

 

No, and never thought about doing it.

 

2. If you haven't cheated, have you thought about cheating on the what that you love? What has motivated these thoughts?

 

I havent thought about cheating, but I have been attracted to and had fleeting fantasies about different women. All in passing though...no crushes or anything like that...and no desires to do anything with anyone but my girlfriends.

 

3. Do you trust your partner not to cheat?

 

If I commit to a girl, then I trust her enough not to betray me. Time will tell if I get into another relationship soon.

 

Never have and never will cheat. OP...you need to meet a greater variety of men. You cannot judge all men by the behavior of those you meet at work. What do you do btw?

[prettylittlethings]

No, and never thought about doing it.

 

2. If you haven't cheated, have you thought about cheating on the what that you love? What has motivated these thoughts?

 

I havent thought about cheating, but I have been attracted to and had fleeting fantasies about different women. All in passing though...no crushes or anything like that...and no desires to do anything with anyone but my girlfriends.

 

Can you elaborate on this? So what are the fleeting fantasies you have? Do you envision yourself having sex with them? And who is it? Is it friends, celebrities, acquaintances, people you see on the street?

 

Oh that's another question that I should've asked. MEN AND WOMEN: Have you ever fantasied about someone else whilst having sex with your partner?

 

 

I'm an escort. I would say that 70% of my clients are married or are in committed relationships. I've thought about this a lot and it may be because I avoid seeing younger clients and younger clients generally don't book me because my rates are too high. If I did see younger clientele, perhaps the ratios would be swapped.

 

Some of the men I meet are absolutely lovely and a pleasure to spend time with and because of that I find it difficult to believe they are in relationships. Some of them are my regular clients, some of them are seeing me on a one off and have had a mistress for years. Their wives/partners no nothing about their after hour activities...

[Later82012]

I didn't and I think women cheat more, but won't tell.

[prettylittlethings]

know* nothing about it.

 

I'll also add that once I get to a certain level of comfort and feel it's not intrusive, sometimes I'll ask if they feel guilty. Never have I heard that they did feel guilt.

[prettylittlethings]

I didn't and I think women cheat more, but won't tell.

 

I don't really want this to be a battle of the sexes. I'm sure a lot of women think men cheat more and vice versa.

[alysamartin001]

Trust is the base of any relation. If you maintain the the trust make sure you live happy life.

[losingmyground]

I will answer this knowing that you are in the escort business. Yes your view will be jaded. I am a female.

 

1. Have you ever cheated on the one that you love?

 

I have never cheated on my husband.

 

2. If you haven't cheated, have you thought about cheating on the what that you love?

 

I have never had thoughts of actually cheating on my husband. Have I thought another man was sexy....yes. Have there been chances....yes. But I love that I am able to hold my head high and have a big sense of honor and integrity.

 

What has motivated these thoughts?

 

Since I never thought to cheat, it doesn't apply.

 

 

3. Do you trust your partner not to cheat?

 

If you asked me two months ago....yes. But guess what...he did.

 

 

In my head, if you WANT to cheat, then f*ck! You might as well cheat. It's not going to hurt me any less if my partner says "wow... she is so gorgeous, I'd really like to sleep with her" than if he actually went out and banged her.

 

The thoughts never bothered me, nor did him looking at porn. But the actions devistated me.

[strongnrelaxed]

Not all men cheat. This is an egregious lie perpetrated by disgusting women. Yes, too many men cheat. This is why most men should NEVER get married. The weak ones get married, and cheat. The strong men do not have to get married. They live life on their own terms. Some strong men get married for political purposes, or to put on a show for social purposes. But the institution of marriage has become obsolete.

 

You can attack the messenger if you'd like, but I will ignore you. This is not something to be agreed with or not. It is information. If you are a modern man and you get married, you are already doomed. This thread proves it - women think you are a cheater already!

 

You cannot say you weren't warned.

[strongnrelaxed]

Amen!

I thought I was the only one on here who thinks all men cheat.

And I agree, if u think about cheating that basically is cheating....I laugh at all u married suckers who are living in fantasy world thinking your man loves u, little do u know their checking out younger women and would **** them if they could.

 

I have to agree with nessaaa on this one. You are all suckers for getting married. If you doubt that your man loves you then you should get out. RUN! He is not for you. Leave him and find a bad boy. Bad boys rock and will treat you better than some sucker who claims to be in love with you.

[g450]

I have never cheated on a woman and I have no desire to.

 

I do think men get a bad rap on this when it is much more even between the genders.

 

Amen to that. Im the same way. Never cheated and never will. I would never do something to another person that I would not done unto me. It's just that simple. It's how I live my life.

 

Sadly, I can understand the OP's cynicsm. My XW and even my current W cheated. I also like to go to clubs at least once a month and have seen many many cheaters. From what I can tell, its not mostly men, it actually more like 50/50. Then again I live in an Army town and lots of GIs are deployed and their wives are out there whoring it up so my town may be the exception. I think its easier for women to cheat. For one, there always a big supply of low lifes out there that would take any woman at all if sex is involved. Doesnt matter what age or shape. And a lot of married women have more time on their hands.

 

As far as the bad boy wannabes types go, yeah they are the worst at cheaging. Because they are simply immature little boys that never grew up and use women like toys. Sadly, most women seem to gravitate to low lifes like that. Go figure.

Edited September 2, 2012 by g450