Be there for her?

[BoyinWonder]

Ok...so I need to get this off my chest. As do I guess most people who post on here right?=) My ex has recently moved out of her house, she is 21 and very (and I mean very) bad with money. Spends on clothes a lot and has racked up a credit card limit with 6 cards that caused her to have to take out a loan on them to pay them off.

 

Moving out was something she has always wanted to do in the 3 1/2 years we dated but I wanted to finish school and settle all those money things so we could live comfortably. Nothing to do with moving out with her.

 

Well now that she has done this it for some reason bothers me. That she is putting herself in this position. The place she is staying at costs almost $850 a month in just rent. Roomate, she has said it's a friend of a friend, a girl. I know she isn't seeing anyone.

 

Anyways, like the week before she moved and now that she has she has started calling my work and couple times on my cell. This is after going months practically with no contact, very tough mind you. My question then, one of many I am sure, is this a good thing or what that she is calling? And is she putting herself in a bad spot and I should be there for her? Lastly, this mean she has her act together or does it just appear that way? Is she trying to come back in my life now after all this time?

[hurtingandconfused]

Is she trying to come back in my life now after all this time?

No, if she wanted to "come back" she would have told you already.

 

is she putting herself in a bad spot and I should be there for her?

Looks like she's making decisions on her own. No, do not be there for her because she MIGHT use you. Unless of course, you want to be her friend.(friends-not real ones- sometimes use friends.)

 

this mean she has her act together

Eh? From reading your post I do not see how she could have her "act straighted out."

 

I know she isn't seeing anyone.

It matters not.