Author ShyOne82 Posted September 2, 2012 Author Share Posted September 2, 2012 Yeah.. I'd definitely recommend you come back down to Earth and live your real life, not the fantasy one. LOL people are people just like Eve stated. Its not a fantasy at all. What you dont understand is that I have a family member who works around celebs, high profile, ppl. If he's not interested, thinks im a fan, groupie etc then ill just move on. Im not gonna stress it. Link to post Share on other sites
SushiX Posted September 2, 2012 Share Posted September 2, 2012 Instead of seeking high profile men, why don't you make yourself high profile first? You'll have more in common with them and you'll be able to live your fantasy. Link to post Share on other sites
Pirouette Posted September 2, 2012 Share Posted September 2, 2012 I think so. I genuinely like this guy, no fantasy here. The fact that as a reg person I may have easier access to him is great for me. I don't know how to tell my cousin...he takes his job pretty seriously.. he's def not a match maker.. but we shall see. Someone already called me a gold digger and I am far from that. I like higher quality guys that is all. I dont care about his money.. he's not THAT famous no disrespect to him. I like what I like. Thats all I can say about it. What people have a problem with is how can you genuinely like someone you've never met or even spoken to? You like the idea of him, the image, which can be drastically different from the real man. That is the fantasy element of it. If your cousin takes his job very seriously, he is unlikely to play match-maker for you. If he feels uncomfortable with the idea, I advise you not to push him on it. And what about the rest of what I asked you, about the self-esteem thing and someone else's status lifting you up? Does that apply to you or not? Link to post Share on other sites
strongnrelaxed Posted September 2, 2012 Share Posted September 2, 2012 H'mmm.. would expectations be different if it was a man who was the single parent? Nah, I have heard of some people staying single once they have a child and their relationship ends but the case is usually that life goes on and they find someone else. Ce la vie. Single men are single for like two weeks anyway. Being a good single Dad is HOT! (ok, HOT to some women) As far as I am concerned, people are people, successful or not. Eve x Eve is kind to give you some inspiration. I don't disagree with the spirit of her post. However, single moms or dads should be perceived equally - good or bad. Parenthood is a tricky thing. There are so many strange circumstances that lead to it, but it all boils down to a few key decisions on both sides. Women have been screwed over by bad men for eons, and good men have been paying the price ever since! The challenge for women these days and going forward is that young men (let's say 25 and under) are waking up. They are not the bad boys. They do not start wars. They are not racist and they do not want to steal your money. But they are starting to realize that they are taking the heat for all the ass bags who do this stuff. Bad guys do not accept blame, they deflect and hide, and sneak. And they get away with it. For all of history, women could count on a man being naive and unknowing. But the internet has really changed this. Good guys are waking up and seeing women who are looking for "high profile" men and walking away - as they should (if they are not high profile). The bad news is that a bunch of bad cycles continue - I don't have to explain them. You know what I am talking about. On the other hand, I think that the OP should do what works for her. This is what freedom is all about. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
angel1986 Posted September 5, 2012 Share Posted September 5, 2012 the reason that you like or want high profile men is because those things that you say that attract you are the same things that you have wanted for yourself but have not accomplished them yourself. The easy way is to get it from them. If you think about it... Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShyOne82 Posted September 5, 2012 Author Share Posted September 5, 2012 the reason that you like or want high profile men is because those things that you say that attract you are the same things that you have wanted for yourself but have not accomplished them yourself. The easy way is to get it from them. If you think about it... I was following you until I read "The easy way is to get it from them" My intention isn't to use them, if anything I feel better about who I am. I've accomplished alot and I am far from a low life. I feel I deserve better and more of a challenge given the fact that I haven't had much chemistry with the men Ive been with. Maybe I feel I am better than them..idk. Being with a high-quality man will keep me on my toes as a woman and allow me to continue to better myself. I don't want their career, money, and whatever else they have.. its a little deeper than that. Link to post Share on other sites
SushiX Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Good luck competing with young hotties. A lot of them want gold diggers too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShyOne82 Posted September 11, 2012 Author Share Posted September 11, 2012 Well, I had enough courage to talk to my cousin in the industry and... he kind of laughed it off. Maybe he doesnt want to put his job in jeopardy over a hook up. I understand. It sucks though. Some whore is probably sucking him off in a hotel room anyway.. Oh well. I am kind of sad though. Link to post Share on other sites
Sanman Posted September 11, 2012 Share Posted September 11, 2012 I have read a lot in this thread, but there are a few things that I have not heard: 1. You say you have accomplished a lot, but what is that? What are you offering this guy that many other women are not? I am genuinely curious as assessing if your head is in the clouds completely depends on your answer. Are you bagging groceries for work or partner at a law firm? 2. As a previous poster mentioned, you don't really know these guys. You have no idea if they are attracted to you or if they are the type of men you would want be in a relationship with. You just have an idea of what you think they are like. 3. What level of success are you talking about? Does the guy have to be a celebrity of sorts or will a relatively successful white collar guy do? Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShyOne82 Posted September 11, 2012 Author Share Posted September 11, 2012 He isnt a celebrity. But he is known within a certain community. Im not putting all the business out there. Im pretty pissed anyway as my cousin isnt really interested in hooking me up. If I go about it myself, I will look like a groupie so I dont know what else to to Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted September 11, 2012 Share Posted September 11, 2012 Well, I had enough courage to talk to my cousin in the industry and... he kind of laughed it off. Maybe he doesnt want to put his job in jeopardy over a hook up. I understand. It sucks though. Some whore is probably sucking him off in a hotel room anyway.. Oh well. I am kind of sad though. Do you think he is into all that? What are the positive characteristics that you are attracted to in this person? Take care, Eve x Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShyOne82 Posted September 12, 2012 Author Share Posted September 12, 2012 Do you think he is into all that? What are the positive characteristics that you are attracted to in this person? Take care, Eve x I don't know him so I have no clue about what he's into or his characteristics. I'm intrigued by his confidence and masculinity but even that could be all an act. We have similar cultures which is nice. But chances are super slim now anyway thanks to my cock blocking cousin. Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted September 12, 2012 Share Posted September 12, 2012 I don't know him so I have no clue about what he's into or his characteristics. I'm intrigued by his confidence and masculinity but even that could be all an act. We have similar cultures which is nice. But chances are super slim now anyway thanks to my cock blocking cousin. I sort of understand where your Cousin is coming from. Confidence is good. Although I can get put off by overly confident men. Probably not fair but I think they are by and large.. dicks. Similar culture can be good and yes, a man must be a man. What about his looks? Yeah, I think you should jot down what has sparked interest in this guy and keep that in mind as you go about your business. You may be seeing aspects of what you want in your ideal mate in this guy so I would not say that this daydream has been wasted. .. but don't give up on normal guys. Take care, Eve x Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShyOne82 Posted September 13, 2012 Author Share Posted September 13, 2012 I sort of understand where your Cousin is coming from. Confidence is good. Although I can get put off by overly confident men. Probably not fair but I think they are by and large.. dicks. Similar culture can be good and yes, a man must be a man. What about his looks? Yeah, I think you should jot down what has sparked interest in this guy and keep that in mind as you go about your business. You may be seeing aspects of what you want in your ideal mate in this guy so I would not say that this daydream has been wasted. .. but don't give up on normal guys. Take care, Eve x Hello, well he's not that easy on the eye, but the way he carries himself makes him look great. He's not that attractive to most ppl outside our culture, but he is sexy.. if that makes sense. He exudes confidence. My kid's dad is FINE but I'm just not into him.. he has no confidence whatsover and still looks like he's 18. I want a man. Anyways, I havent completely given up on normal guys, I need to get out more now that I've moved. We shall see! Link to post Share on other sites
yoman38 Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 greetings young denizen, I have read through your thread and have concluded the following. Realize that in the end attraction can be very egotistical and often when things are simply based on ego the relationship won't last. Have you ever tried opening up to someone, realizing that attraction can build over time. I think it's good to have standards and want to be with someone successful but realize that if you're simply chasing men because they seem powerful and confident. Hmm, you really got to ask yourself why why do you? Why is power so alluring to you? And btw these men who seem powerful and confident do they come from , do they do charity, do they have good values, are they compassionate, this is what real strength? or do you not agree see you need to ask what's up. What does it mean are you chasing something you feel you lack? If you can answer this question then you'll understand yourself better, and realize if you are truly looking for what you want or chasing excitement and ego. Confidence also btw, can manifest in many different ways and a lot of times people who seem confident on the surface can just be scared underneath a facade at best. So my best advice to you is to go out and just meet people without all these crazy expectations. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShyOne82 Posted September 30, 2012 Author Share Posted September 30, 2012 Okay, so my cousin wasn't trying to hook me up so I took it upon myself to try to get noticed without looking like a groupie. I think I may be getting somewhere... I expressed my interest multiple times on twitter, DMs (i got him to follow me)I think I came off a bit desperate, BUT I had to.. I'm sure I am not the only chick trying to get with him so he needed to see how sincere I am about him After weeks of tweets and DMs he ended up asking for my number..WOW. Took awhile to call, missed it the first time and he never called back. I was pissed at myself. So days later I decide to send him a picture to show that I was thinking about him.. and he called about 10 mins after he received it. The conversation was brief, I know he's a busy guy.. so I will be patient. I never thought this would happen.. Still in shock that there is some type of communication going on between us. Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted September 30, 2012 Share Posted September 30, 2012 What sort off picture did you send? It was decent, no? Take care, Eve x Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShyOne82 Posted September 30, 2012 Author Share Posted September 30, 2012 What sort off picture did you send? It was decent, no? Take care, Eve x It is a decent pic, no nudity. Even though the pic showed mostly my face..it was somewhat sexy by the way I was positioned, my smile, etc. I'm a photo retoucher so I fixed the quality and changed the tone of it, so that it had more of a warm feeling to it. Made it look more professional and not one of those bland kodak shots. I go hard! lmao 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShyOne82 Posted September 30, 2012 Author Share Posted September 30, 2012 u noticed how i removed my pic? lol Im extra paranoid now. I doubt he would ever stumble upon this forum..but still.. gives me peace of mind dont want to mess anything up becz of my big mouth Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted September 30, 2012 Share Posted September 30, 2012 It is a decent pic, no nudity. Even though the pic showed mostly my face..it was somewhat sexy by the way I was positioned, my smile, etc. I'm a photo retoucher so I fixed the quality and changed the tone of it, so that it had more of a warm feeling to it. Made it look more professional and not one of those bland kodak shots. I go hard! lmao Cool. The most important thing to do now is to really listen to what he says to make sure he is what you are looking for. Well done you for taking the initiative but watch the desperation thing. Hope he was interesting to talk to?! Please tell us how it goes! Take care, Eve x Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShyOne82 Posted September 30, 2012 Author Share Posted September 30, 2012 Cool. The most important thing to do now is to really listen to what he says to make sure he is what you are looking for. Well done you for taking the initiative but watch the desperation thing. Hope he was interesting to talk to?! Please tell us how it goes! Take care, Eve x Hmm, well I'm not gonna lie.. the conversation was a bit brief. He is short with me on twitter as well, but he still responds. Im not that interested in his career, so if he is just being nice so that I will remain a supporter he has another thing coming. I'm not a fan.. all I know is that he looks great to me so he might as well be himself and stop putting on an act. I Could barely hear what he was saying. He asked me a few questions bla bla. IDK.. I think he is more concerned about making money right now.. thats what it seems like. So many chicks are after him... Sigh well at least im trying.. All of this is an interesting experience for me no matter what happens Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShyOne82 Posted October 10, 2012 Author Share Posted October 10, 2012 So I found out that he has a girlfriend.. and what ashame because he was asking me for more pics.. inapropriate ones as well before I found out. It was all a game to him I guess. The good thing is that before anything happened I found out he was a scum bag. (I shouldve already expected this right?) If I was a whore I wouldnt care and I'd share him lol but I'm not like that.. so he can be a womanizer and mislead women. The woman he is dating is an actress and has denied dating her for career reason.. but I have my sources.. and INSTAGRAM lol and saw some juicy stuff so I have my confirmation and closure. I am a bit sad though.. he kind of started acting funny towards me when he called me the first time. His tone was weird.. its like he expected me to have a heart attack and scream and carry on because he called. That itself showed me his character.. like he expects girls to praise him and act a fool. I conversed with him like he was a regular person so I guess he felt a certain way about that. OH WELL.. moving right along.. Although I didnt get far, I'm still ins hock that it even got to this point. Piss me off and I will put alll his buisness out there bcz I am a bitter bitch.. STAY TUNED!! bwahahahahahah... lol let me stop. Link to post Share on other sites
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