Wife is dependant, hurt herself when I tried to leave

[upatnight]

Hello Everyone,

 

I'm in a place I never thought I'd be. My wife and I have spent the last several weeks going through significant discovery in our marriage (married almost 10yrs). I confessed that I wasn't in love with her anymore and that I felt her whole life revolved around me. She puts on an independent persona when she's away from home, but when she's here its a whole different person. She says she is still deeply in love with me and wants to be with no one else. She also agrees with the dependancy issue and the lack of emotion in our marriage (before a few weeks ago). This past week she hurt herself when I attempted to leave the house for a night away from all the craziness. I called 911 and she was taken to the hospital for evaluation. I feel so manipulated but am not sure what's next, I've lost all hope that anything can be salvaged. When we talk about the issues I'm barely even emotional, I keep telling myself that its because I've felt these feelings for so long. I'm ready to leave but don't know how or want to hurt her anymore, I'm afraid she'll do something more drastic. We're both seeing counselors, but I'm not sure how much it will help...

 

Not looking for any answers, just needed to get everything off my chest. Maybe someone else out there is going through or has gone through something similar??

 

Thanks for listening...

[tattoomytoe]

not to be mean, but try and have her committed. i have been in such hospitals, cause i have an eating disorder, but i also did the self harm stuff, depression. it really sucks at first, but you get all this personal therapy and group thereapy, and it is a nice chill time too.

 

but that will also depend on your insurance and money situation too. but at least while she is away you can get going, break away, and then when she is out she will more or less be kept track of by her family or a doctor.