The ol' 'doesn't give you reasons not to trust'+ RJ

[genuinegal31]

I'll keep it short as I can

 

Boyfriend is 24, im 31. He's had more sexual experience than me, including swinging (when he was single). I've had about 30 partners, and had one long term r'ship of 8 years. He's had two r'ships - both two years, im his 3rd r'ship.

 

Ok, to me, whilst he doesn't directly give me reasons to cheat, his sexual past (seeking women in bars on his own, swinging, abundance of FWB's), and his level of sexual liberalism in general is unnerving. Even about two months into r'ships he asked me what i thought of threesomes, and eventually swinging a few months after that. He was quite persistant some 14 months after dating, asking me to look at swinging clubs, but i refused to even look or contemplate it. Nothing has been brought up since. We have, well to me anyway, an exciting sex life, i try to be adventurous as possible without innvolving other people. Toys, porn, positions, etc.

 

I think what perturbs me even more (cherry on cake), is that he likes to (now and again), go to bars/pubs late of a night (after 10), and drink ....to get drunk basically. His friends live different parts of country, so where he is now (with his family), he has no local friends - so, understable. But the one thing that bothers me is the fact he will actually dress himself up, do his hair, to go the pub for a few hours. He even admitted to me on one occasion (drunk, when he got home), that two women invited him back to theirs. Why the hell tell me that?

 

 

So, ok, whilst i see no evidence of him cheating (late nights at work, sneaking around, etc), and being with me alot - his sexual past, his drinking alone (and dressing himself up to go), and...telling me when women are inviting him back to theirs ARE good reasons to not fully trust.

 

He has set this bar for himself - the swinging, the regular ONS, searching for women in bars, the f**k buddies, with an array of different women, and now there is me - (i honestly thought i was experienced, but i feel a virgin compared to him now), who consciously feels (every time we have sex), whether i am being slutty and whore enough (he's seen every level of hardcore porn there is, since he was 10). He loves me, very affectionate, attentive - but jeezus, i honestly feel like ive become shy since being in a relationship with him. He and i send photos of eachother's naked parts, but him more than I appears to seek more assurance or something. I am confident in myself as a woman - never ask 'do you love me' or 'am i good enough in bed', but he does inadvertantly most times ask for re-assurance.

 

I think he was neglected as a child. Sent off to boarding school for 10 years.

 

Pft.