lovelylashes Posted September 1, 2012 Share Posted September 1, 2012 Hi all Havent been on this site in a while but i really need Some advice. So me and My boyfriend Got back together a few months ago and it was going great untill i stayed at his house one night. As i was getting ready for bed i noticed a small blue condom wrapper in his bin. I confronted him and he told me he had used it for a posh wank. I didnt beileve him but i let it go. I recently stayed in his again and Found loads of condoms in his draw. And we dont use them. He said his mum had bought them for him which is very weird as he is 27 not a kid. I love him but cannot trust a Word he says. Can anyone give me Some advice. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted September 1, 2012 Share Posted September 1, 2012 If you can't trust him, then you have only one option, don't you? Trust is the most difficult aspect of a relationship, to repair, if it gets broken. He's not admitting to anything, and you don't believe him.... Break up. If you see him about town with another girl - your suspicions will be confirmed. Link to post Share on other sites
Joaquin Posted September 1, 2012 Share Posted September 1, 2012 For the remainder of this relationship you will be sleeping with one eye open. Oh, and you need to use condoms with him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovelylashes Posted September 1, 2012 Author Share Posted September 1, 2012 Thanks for the repliés. Wish it Was that easy to cut all feelings off and Just walk away but when you love someone it makes that décision a lot more difficult. Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted September 1, 2012 Share Posted September 1, 2012 Thanks for the repliés. Wish it Was that easy to cut all feelings off and Just walk away but when you love someone it makes that décision a lot more difficult. If you love him more than you love yourself then you'll stay, and he'll keep doing it. How many years do you want to sign up for? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted September 1, 2012 Share Posted September 1, 2012 Thanks for the repliés. Wish it Was that easy to cut all feelings off and Just walk away but when you love someone it makes that décision a lot more difficult. Who here has told you to 'cut feelings off'...? Who has ever said a decision like this is easy? You think walking away from someone you love, is ever easy? But it's exactly as Silly_Girl has said: You have to consider how good for you, continuing to invest in a relationship where you have doubts, mistrust and unease, actually is. There are hundreds of people who broke up because frankly, the relationship was done, soured, bitter and the love had gone. But there are also those where the people still loved - but that continuing was simply not good for either one, or even both of them. To remain in a relationship with someone you do not trust, is to say to that person: "I have spoken of my misgivings, suspicions and doubt; but I have stayed. Which means that probably you can - and will - carry on abusing my trust, and by staying, I'm willing to let you do that." If you are prepared to make that your message - then by all means stay. But is it not reasonable therefore to advise you to expect more of the same? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted September 1, 2012 Share Posted September 1, 2012 Thanks for the repliés. Wish it Was that easy to cut all feelings off and Just walk away but when you love someone it makes that décision a lot more difficult. No one is saying to just cut your feelings off, but yes you do need to walk away. Your boyfriend is obviously cheating on you. What is his "excuse" for having loads of condoms? You may love him but he obviously doesn't love you, and honestly what is there to love about a man who cheats on you and lies to you? You wouldn't cheat on him, I'm sure, because you love him. He does not love you like that and he certainly does not respect you. He is disgusting and he is a liar. Link to post Share on other sites
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