ready2moveon26 Posted July 19, 2004 Share Posted July 19, 2004 My life has been super stressful lately with this maybe/maybe not dissolution coming up and this may/may not be sick husband of mine, so this past weekend I decided to go out and let off some steam...I went out with a guy friend and we went to a bar I had never been to. Towards the end of the night I saw a my bestfriend's cousin. Well a few months ago I found out, from my husband, that he had slept with her their other cousin. I asked if she was there and she was and I ripped her up and down. Every guy that was near her now knows that she slept with my husband. This girl is dumb. I mean she is the stereotypical "blonde". She will go home with anyone and is super trusting...like I said...dumb! Anyway her cousin claimed my husband told her we were seperated and I didnt believe her...not until I really started thinking about it. I figure now, he probably did tell her we were seperated. So yesterday I called my friend to apologize to this girl for what I had done. There was no answer but I know she has caller ID so I just waited for her to call me back. Last night she called me back and was pissed at me! I feel horrible for what I did. I've already had it out with my husband about it all and it happened over a year ago...but that was when we were "happy"...or so I thought...When I apologized to my friend she said she completely understood and just wanted to get my side of the story...and I told her I wasn't making excuses for what I did but I was drunk and hurt and with all of this "****" going on latley...I wanted to yell at someone and she was there...Is what I did as horrible as I think? What would you have done? Link to post Share on other sites
Girlie Posted July 19, 2004 Share Posted July 19, 2004 No, in my opinion, what you did was not that horrible. Granted, getting drunk in your state is not the best idea at all, but we all make mistakes. You were distraught over what was going on with your husband, and you snapped. I think a lot of us might have snapped under the pressure, esp when you add alcohol to that. You've gone farther than a lot of people would by apologizing. I probably would not be all that inclined to apologize to any woman who had slept with my husband, or to anyone else for freaking out on her, whether she was lied to or not. You're a better woman than me. I think I would avoid alocohol with all of the stress you are under. It's much easier to snap that way, and it's sounds like that's not something you want. Link to post Share on other sites
Yikes Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 Maybe it wasn't the best idea, but not the end of the world - totally understandable however. Keeping your emotions in check can be very difficult. Add alcohol and it is even more difficult. I have been separated for a year now. The last 3 years have been very difficult. I have no magic answers by any means, but three things I try to remember are: 1) WHAT GOOD WOULD COME OF THIS? I remind myself of this everytime I get the urge to do something stupid. The last thing I want to do is cause myself more grief, emotional or financial. 2) TRY NOT TO WORRY ABOUT THINGS THAT ARE OUT OF MY CONTROL. For me this is easier said than done, I happen to come frome a long line of worriers, but I'm getting better. 3) FOCUS ON ANY GOOD THINGS THAT I HAVE GOING ON IN MY LIFE NO MATTER HOW SMALL. Good luck and stay outa the bars. I drink at home where it's cheaper! Link to post Share on other sites
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