Fault all on the OW??

[wanting more]

For me is that I have such bad feelings towards him right now. How can I hate someone that I love so much. I try not to let the past 3 years enter my mind because they were such GREAT times. Or the 1st 2 years were my own fantasy world. We spent so much time together. Talked or texted constantly. After 1st d-day things obviously changed but over the last 6 months he's gotten more and more verbal with his feelings towards me. Then, send over the bus, back and forth. How could I have been SOOOO wrong about him. At this point I'd hope to never talk to him ever again. I wouldn't even know what to say. He's hurt me so much. I'd always told him if he wanted this to end, please say it. Don't drag me on.

[Sauron]

Well Ive managed to forget what hell I'm in right now, kinda forgot what the whole point to this thread was after reading the back and forths between people. I don't know I'd I should say thanks or ???? Huh.

 

Well wanting, if you were referring to the back and forth with me, I will say some of the posters don't care for my lifestyle which doesn't matter at all. As I mentioned, your MM owns ALL the culpability in my opinion. Good luck.

[Furious]

For me is that I have such bad feelings towards him right now. How can I hate someone that I love so much. I try not to let the past 3 years enter my mind because they were such GREAT times. Or the 1st 2 years were my own fantasy world. We spent so much time together. Talked or texted constantly. After 1st d-day things obviously changed but over the last 6 months he's gotten more and more verbal with his feelings towards me. Then, send over the bus, back and forth. How could I have been SOOOO wrong about him. At this point I'd hope to never talk to him ever again. I wouldn't even know what to say. He's hurt me so much. I'd always told him if he wanted this to end, please say it. Don't drag me on.

 

I felt the same way when I discovered my husband's affair, i felt hate and at the same time is was hard to shut off the love I had for him.

 

In many ways we are more alike than we would believe.

[wanting more]

Its quite obvious some dont like your lifestyle. Over a year ago my story would've been your story. I do appreciate your and everybody's (most everybody's) opinions.

[Sauron]

So are those good years wasted? They are YOUR years, they happened. Everything has a life cycle and one thing ends and myriad other possibilites open up. I have the same deal with my OW, but it's more from her POV, when she's ready, we will move on, but the years we had have been some of the most enjoyable in my life and hers. It is doubtful they would have been such if we would have been in a "traditional" relationship. Like I said good luck and I hope it works out for the best.

[wanting more]

I felt the same way when I discovered my husband's affair, i felt hate and at the same time is was hard to shut off the love I had for him.

 

In many ways we are more alike than we would believe.

 

 

 

Can I ask if you're still with your H? How did you get over the hate?

[Furious]

I felt the same way when I discovered my husband's affair, i felt hate and at the same time is was hard to shut off the love I had for him.

 

In many ways we are more alike than we would believe.

 

 

 

Can I ask if you're still with your H? How did you get over the hate?

 

 

Yes, I'm still with my husband, it's been a year since D-day.

 

We are in individual counseling and also in marriage counseling.

 

The truth and honesty is what has helped me get over the hate.

 

Lies build walls and the truth tears them down.

[William]

I'm going to queue this one up for an offline review, since there a number of inflammatory postings which are intertwined with quotes that need to be properly cleaned up and infracted for. Steph should have this one back up sometime tomorrow. Thanks.