gourmetbean Posted September 2, 2012 Share Posted September 2, 2012 My husband is out on bail with an no contact order this has been ongoing since the night the police took him away on July 18th about 6 weeks ago. He had kicked the bedroom door down and pushed me up against the dresser. This was the 4th time he kicked the door down. My 18 year old son called the police this time he had seen enough. This was after months of emotional abuse he would pull the fuses out from downstairs and leave me in the dark at night. When we had an argument he would live in the basement for a week at a time. He plead guilty to domestic violence 3 years ago and I let him come back. I am not totally innocent either I started many of our arguments. His next court date is September 6, I'm getting nervous he might be let go and come home. All of his personal belongings are still here, he has mail, etc. Not sure what to expect does anyone have any experience with this? Link to post Share on other sites
Forever Learning Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 You can expect to have an angry monster on your hands with a real chip on his shoulder against you and your son. You need to talk to attorneys about getting a divorce and getting out. Go stay somewhere safe and begin the divorce process. Always keep you personal safety in mind, especially in the near future and the next few years after the divorce. Minimal contact is best and via attorney. Also seek out help from friends and family and law enforcement and women's shelter and domestic violence associations. Good luck and all the best to you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Lobouspo Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 I work in LE. File for a restraing order ASAP at your local district/superior court. Plenty of cause exists with the circumstances you laid out. Even if he has stuff at the house, this would necessitate a police escort. Good luck and take this very seriously. I have seen people in your predicament get killed. Not trying to scare you, just wanna make you cognizant of the situation. There should be battered women associations in your area who can assist you in the process. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Forever Learning Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 (edited) I work in LE. File for a restraing order ASAP at your local district/superior court. Plenty of cause exists with the circumstances you laid out. Even if he has stuff at the house, this would necessitate a police escort. Good luck and take this very seriously. I have seen people in your predicament get killed. Not trying to scare you, just wanna make you cognizant of the situation. There should be battered women associations in your area who can assist you in the process. Excellent advice Lobouspo. Thank you for taking the time to help this lady. I have two women I know who were murdered by their abusive boyfriends (both guys got away with it due to the crazy justice system). Abuse should never be taken lightly. It's hard to think clearly when you are trapped in the middle of though. You are a great guy, God bless. Edited September 7, 2012 by Forever Learning 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author gourmetbean Posted September 8, 2012 Author Share Posted September 8, 2012 Well it appears the issue is going to a pre-trial conference in 2 weeks. I did approach a lawyer today to discuss the divorce process and made an offer to his lawyer so we could all have some closure. The bail restrictions are still in effect but I will go ahead with the restraining order as you have suggested. Thank you for your very informative posts! I am very worried for my son as I feel his safety is at just as much risk as mine. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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