co-worker relatinship

[aljo1]

Hello, I have been aproaching a co-wroker of mine for a while. She's nice and all that, but the more I talk to her, the more iknw she's not really my type. She says she likes when i ask her, but she asks me seldomly to invite her to lunch(by our workplace)or to buy her magazines and even(twice)$20 for her nails. My question is as a friend, is she asking for too much? I know that in a relationship it should be 50/50 or 40/60 but in my case I'm 90% to 95%!! always give me, give me-I tell her take me take me(going ot to movies or to eat-she says she'll invite) but when I call her-either she doesn't answer or she says that she's not ready(this happened once). I'm trying to gamble it here, but I'm feeling I'm losing too much-because I'm the one looking like a fool or a loser. I'm going to be clear with her and tell her straight up--that I'm not giving her any more money --not even for a magazine--I might still invite her to have lunch together agreeing on the 50/50(you invite, I invite). Only when she's bored(nobody to talk to) or wants something from me, she approaches me--sometimes she says buyme that magazine don't be bad, don't be like that. Am I being too much of a nice person here?

[cinnamonstix49]

I don't want to hurt your feelings or sound mean, but it sounds to me like your co-worker is using you. Maybe you should tell her how you feel, you will most likely end up being hurt in the long run if you dont.

[lnichols]

Yep, I would say that you are being too nice. I agree taht it sounds like she is using you. Ask yourself this. If you didn't have money, would she still be your friend? If you asked her for money, say to get a new CD, what would her reaction be?

 

If you still want to be her friend, you should tell her how you feel. But she may just be one of those blood sucking types that just uses people. Don't let yourself feel bad about not handing out to her, and if she is bringing you down, then try to avoid her. Hopelfully, she'll get the picture.