Moderators Curt Posted July 20, 2004 Moderators Share Posted July 20, 2004 OK, It's been a while since I started my own thread, and I'm in a bit of a "snit" right now, so forgive the pissy nature of my post. I am just slightly ticked with a friend of mine, and I wanted your opinions. I have this friend (whom I shall call Lia). Well, Lia, her finance and I have been really good friends for approx. a couple of years now. We chat and talk together fairly often, and generally think well of each other. Well, tonight, I asked Lia the surname of a good girlfriend of hers. Yeah, I'm interested in her friend. She's a really friendly person, we flirt back and forth, she's intelligent and attractive to boot. So, I figured, I gotta know her full name. Like ya would Well, I got a very strange look of almost "ahhh, you like her don't ya", followed quickly by a steaming pile of "word crap". She told me she didn't know. S'up wit dat? I was so shocked that she expected me to believe this that I nearly did a double take. I was, for one of the few times in my life, rendered speechless. We then went on talking as if nothing really happened, she being completely remorseless that she just (I assume) responded to me with a complete lie. I mean...am I that awful a guy that a chick doesn't even want to let me know her friend's name? I mean, she (I thought) and I know and respect each other as decent people ... I hardly know how to react to her next time I see her. I'm dumbfounded! Any thoughts Shackers? Curt Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted July 20, 2004 Share Posted July 20, 2004 <walking on eggshells> She suspected you were interested in her friend, knew her friend would not be interested in you, and said the first thing that popped into her head to avoid the topic--a stupid story that she doesn't know her friend's last name. Dumb, yes. But she's looking out for her friend and for whatever reason doesn't think the two of you are compatible. Never bring it up again around her and just act normal. Link to post Share on other sites
sportsloving Posted July 20, 2004 Share Posted July 20, 2004 Sometimes (take it from me) it is difficult to set up friends. She could be avoiding this for a number of reasons, of course none of which are your doing or your fault. Perhaps she knows her friend is a fruitcake and trying to save you the problems? Treat your friend as if nothing has ever happened, and if you still want the name ... ask her finance or ask the lady in question straight out Link to post Share on other sites
Author Moderators Curt Posted July 20, 2004 Author Moderators Share Posted July 20, 2004 You're right of course Clia. No need for the eggshells. A cowardly act, though, I would say. Friends do that to each other? Hmm... Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted July 20, 2004 Share Posted July 20, 2004 I imagine she's just not swift off the starting blocks. In her head she has a dilemma - you, a friend she's fond of seems interested in this other person. Other person must have said something along the lines of 'not interested' although perhaps in less flattering terms. Your friend, not wishing to wound you by letting on that other person was desirous of not taking up with you, couldn't quickly enough come up with a good way to get out of it so fell apart and told an obvious lie. She'll be feeling totally stupid because she knows it was transparent. It might have been cowardice, but I suspect it was more likely a desire on her part to save you from being offended. Link to post Share on other sites
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