Doesn't Talk About GF

[babycrapgreen]

Six years ago, my close friend and I parted ways when he confessed his feelings for me, I was with someone else, I had to reject him. We completely stopped talking, I would see him occasionally at a mutual friend's party but, we ignored each other at those gatherings. He ended up dating a girl for 4 years and would message me random things, throughout those years, stuff we did together and insider joke emails, I would reply with no response. I finally got the courage to reply to an apology email in 2011 he wrote in 2007, the reason I waited so long to reply was because I didn't want to email him while he had a gf. He ends up replying in June 2012 and gave me his number. I ended up getting the courage to text him in July and we've been text messaging each other, daily, ever since. We've hungout 3 times now and it's like nothing has changed. So, it's been 2 months roughly since, we've been talking and never has he mentioned a girl or someone he's been dating til the last time we hungout. He mentions it while we were hanging out, I asked him why he hasn't her, he says " I don't know." And, he still doesn't.

 

Background, we text message everyday, from morning to night. When we hangout, it's for hours. I live over an hour away, and the 3 times we've hungout, he's driven my way.

 

Does he like me still?

[Forever Learning]

Yeah he still likes you. This could go a couple ways. He could just be looking for a fling behind his girlfriends back, or he could be deciding whether or not you are worth leaving his girlfriend for.

 

But I doubt it. Oh wait, let me be clear on that. He definitely wants to have sex with you, that is almost guaranteed. Or he wouldn't even be spending time with you.

 

But, as for an actual long term relationship - Guys don't usually leave their girlfriend's / wives for the other woman.

 

You rejected him in the past, and he may be curious what you would be like to have a romp with.

 

But he may not be willing to break it off with his girlfriend for you, unless they are truly not working out at all. So keep that in mind.

 

Good luck to you, take care and be cautious. It's never easy or wise to get close to a man in a relationship, dangerous territory for the heart.

Edited September 7, 2012 by Forever Learning

[I'm nuts]

 

Does he like me still?

 

Yes..............

[I'm nuts]

Guys don't usually leave their girlfriend's / wives for the other woman.

 

 

That's true and the problem, guys may well like/fall in love with another woman but parting from the current one can be a step or leap too far.

[january2011]

But, as for an actual long term relationship - Guys don't usually leave their girlfriend's / wives for the other woman.

 

It does happen, FL. Especially if the other woman is a former love or unrequited love interest.

 

OP, what do you want to get out of this?

 

You are spending a lot of time with him. If you have no intention of pursuing anything with him, then you need to be honest that you are not going to offer anything more than friendship. And that you are not going to come between him and his girlfriend. I'd then distance yourself and reduce the texting dramatically. Otherwise, you may find yourself in an EA and/or him breaking up with his girlfriend hoping that he can pursue something with you.

[babycrapgreen]

I wanted to say thank you for your guy's advice, I'm nuts, january2011, Forever Learning. I think I'm going to take a little advice from everyone because everyone made a good point. I'm just taking it day by day because I can't make up my mind regarding him yet. We're still communicating and wanting to hangout... none stop talking.