Tiberius Posted September 3, 2012 Share Posted September 3, 2012 Most women would not in a million years marry a man who "is not pulling his weight financially" . After all they are well aware that they could end up raped in divorce court, or have to part with their money to support the husband, if he makes far less. I see many men adopting a similiar mentality, where they cohabit in states that are not common law marriage instead of getting married, but many still do although there is nothing in it for them. Why is that? Love or do they just give in to threats? Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted September 3, 2012 Share Posted September 3, 2012 Desire for companionship and sex would be two strong motivators which immediately come to mind. I sincerely doubt that most men consciously and proactively marry unhealthy and incompatible women. Some perhaps do. Some miss the canaries during the courtship process. Some are deceived. In my case, as it has been historically exceedingly difficult for a single man to adopt children, desire for a family and children probably clouded my judgment, in addition to having an imbalanced socialization with regard to the totality of how women potentially are. With those issues resolved as the result of a very educational marriage, and no real fear of living out my life alone, it's pretty peaceful now. IMO, men are responsible for their own choices. If we're making poor choices, that's on us. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tiberius Posted September 3, 2012 Author Share Posted September 3, 2012 The thing I do not get, you do not need a marriage certificate to knock a woman up. If she stays all is well, if she leaves, she wont be able to take all your money with her and leave you penniless. So why marry? It just makes it easier for the party who has less means to leave the relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted September 3, 2012 Share Posted September 3, 2012 Signing a marriage license confers a plethora of legal, societal and religious privileges and rights, dependent upon culture, religion and jurisdiction of residence; IMO, that's a complex subject far beyond the scope of a discussion thread. I interfaced with some of the differences while married and caregiving and got a good education about them, or at least those relevant to my circumstances. IMO, everything is a balance. Risk versus benefit. If the numbers don't crunch in favor of M, that's an answer and a choice. If they do, that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tiberius Posted September 3, 2012 Author Share Posted September 3, 2012 Very true. I just dont see how a piece of paper would impact that relationship. If the relationship is good she stays if its bad she leaves, if its bad and you are married she leaves you through the divorce courts. Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted September 3, 2012 Share Posted September 3, 2012 Very true. I just dont see how a piece of paper would impact that relationship. If the relationship is good she stays if its bad she leaves, if its bad and you are married she leaves you through the divorce courts. If your plotting the end of the relationship as it begins, then its already doomed. Its like buying a car based on the resale value. Good business decision, but then we'd be living in a world of nothing but beige sedans. Unfortunately a relationship based on emotion is always going to be a gamble, a guess. It can be an educated guess, but it's a guess non the less. I don't no anybody of either sex that feels comfortable in a relationship where the other party is actively "hedging their bets"! TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
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