Discusting alchaholic brother will NEVER get out of this house! Can't live with him!

[Meow]

My older 1/2 brother is 21 and drinking. He's an alchaholic-- so was his father. He's discusting. He won't get up fr work inthe morning-- though my mother pounds on his door for hours. He always misses the bus to work so my mother has to drive him.

I should mention that he's mentally handicapped-- but not very much so. He's a jerk. And though he's supposedably going to move into an "assisted living facility" sometime soon, It feels like that's never going to happen.

 

I HATE having him around. I can't talk to him. I find him absolutly repulsive. He's a complete jerk, and refuses to wash his hands--EVER. Thinking about him makes me physically ill. And he literally is stinking up the house. I can smell his room from mine. Like feces.

 

And the worste part is hat I think that he can't live on his own. He won't get up for work or practice basic hygene at all. He can sometimes get violent and is always inconsiderate. Even if he didn't lose his job for being a lazy drunk who has it too easy-- He could get kicked out for being a pain in the A**.

 

With him around, it's hard to live. Especially since he's started drinking. I don't trust him around the house, and I REALLY think it would be best for everyone in my family if he would get out and STAY out.

 

He stresses out my mother and steals my father's beer, and won't listen to anyone. He's going to get kicked out and end up right back here with me, because he's too lazy to go to work and be a responsible person.

 

I have another 1/2 brother who my father kicked out of the house when he was 16. What he was doing isn't nearly as bad as what the 21 year od is doing. But no one'll kick him out and I don't understand why that is. He's unbarable! I hate him, as horrible as that sounds. I want him out. So I can sleep at night. So my mother and father don't have to deal with his arrogant and utterly idiotic behavior.

 

He's exteremly rude. He acts like he not only owns the house-- but it's his own personal toilet. I HATE him!!!!!!!! I have to hold my breathe when he walks in the room because his smell is so discusting. And he's had the same bottle of shampoo for eons-- so it's like he's not even trying to humor us by pouring it down the drain anymore.

 

He doesn't seem to realise how horrible this is. He doesn't seem to aknowledge the fact that he's old enough to be kicked out legally at this point. He's had it too easy. He won't work for anything. I can't live with him!!! I'm perfectly serious,here. I HATE him. And I know he's never going to move out forever like he'd do if he wern't so INCREDABLY selfish. He can't keep a job.

 

When he's 50 (should he live that long-- the men in his family don't live very long) And my parents are dead (knock on wood.) I will NOT be taking care of that miserable SOB. It soundds mean-- but he'll be on his own.

 

Yes, I DO feel this way all of the time. !!!!!!!

[kizmet74]

Here's an idea, why don't YOU move out??

[Debster]

Your post sounds like he is not the only one who is selfish.

[Adunaphel]

Moving out , as kizmet74 suggested, would not be a bad idea at all. Do you have a job and earn enough money to pay a rent?

 

I guess that if your parents have not kicked him out yet, they must have they very good reasons. They don't sound weak or permissive parents, because of your other brother.

I guess that his mental handicap is a good reason enough. Also, they must be worried at the idea of him living on his own and perhaps getting seriously hurt. A pain in the neck as he might be, they probably(and hopefully!!!!!!) love him.

 

I wonder why your parents don't ask him to improve his hygiene. (or refuse to be around him, or cook for him) until he washes his hair or takes a shower.

I also wonder why they didn't make alcohol disappear from the house, expecially since he can become violent.

 

What do your parents say about him?

 

He's an alchaholic-- so was his father

 

And...is he your brother or step-brother? Is 'his father' same person as your father? Did your father use to drink a lot?

[Meow]

I'm 15-- I probably should have mentioned that. He's my HALF brother-- I did mention that. Same mother, different father. And he's at a mental level where, intellectually, he CAN live on his own, he just is too lazy. Trust me, if I could move out-- or even be emancipated I would. I'm not so dumb that I couldn't figure that out. And hes not 4, he should know better than to steal. And I also said that he won't listen. Also-- he can buy his own alchahol. He does, and hides it in his room. Normally it's when he's NOT drunk that he can get violent. When he does drink a lot, he normally passes out in his room for twelve hours. I knew I'd come across as a b**** when I wrote this...

 

PS: I may come accross as a little b****y, but I assure you-- I'm only Ms. Hyde when discussing (shudder) Him.

[thecake]

I cannot imagine living like that.

 

It sounds like your mother enables some of his behavior because of his handicap, but she needs to remember that she also has you to consider.

 

I don't quite understand all of the other responses you got because I don't see where you are being selfish....? Sounds like you're just stating the facts of your situation through the eyes of a 15 year old....a tough age anyway.

 

I'm not sure what to tell you except this won't last forever as far as you're concerned...you won't live there forever.

 

As far as the smell coming from your brothers room that is disturbing...is there some kind of agency you could call...it seems like living conditions like that would be illegal or something.....

 

Don't feel bad about being honest here...I could definitely sense your frustration...maybe you could talk to a counselor at school about this....?

[Adunaphel]

You don't sound that bitchy to me, actually.

I got your first post wrong, I thought he was 1/2 year older than you.

Perhaps your dad is not kicking him out not only because of his mental handicap(if it really is not something that would prevent him from living on his own without problems) but because he is afraid to hurt your mother's feeling?

How are your parents currently handling his behaviour?have they tried to forbid him to drink in the house?