Gracie22 Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 OMG, it took a Scorpio to get me over the Virgo as well. This is wild! No sh*t! Hmm...this thread is changing my opion on Zodiac. Wonder if us Libra girls go for Virgo and Scorpio men because we see they need our balance. And I know I love balance in life! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
colombiana28 Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Hmm, I may just look into this astrology thing. You kind of just explained me to a TEE, well I am girl Virgo but I am guessing it is the same thing. Interesting. Wow, same here. I've never believed in astrology but that is just creepy. I'm an insecure constant worrier who projects image of having it all together. I never chase--NEVER-- always mirroring my romantic interests' words and actions. I'm deeply afraid of putting myself out there and therefore never take romantic risks. I've been accused of being cold and unmotional and incapable of true intimacy. I always figured it came from abandonment issues with my birth father. hmm maybe zodiac signs aren't complete bulls*** after all Link to post Share on other sites
KatZee Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Scorpio and Libra are not compatible?- I've read the opposite. Very passionate relationship and they even each other out. If you have a website, booke, etc. w/ a differing opinion, let me know - I'd like to look at it! Thanks! Been together 1 year. Very passionate. He's definitely the love of my life. Not, NOT compatible, just not one of the best signs for Libra. Libras do best with other Libras, Gemini, Aquarius and Aries. Looking at Libra and Scorpio: The Elements Air vs Water - Libra is an Air Sign, and lives in the world of mind, while Scorpio is a Water Sign and tends to be emotional in orientation. This is considered to be a mismatch by some people, but because of the relationship of the planets, things can work out favorably. The Planets Venus & Saturn vs Mars & Pluto - Venus is your planetary ruler; Scorpio is co-ruled by Mars and Pluto. These planets don't conflict with one another, but the judgmentalism of Saturn may cause him to feel as if he's being limited or restricted in some way. Love and Romance Your Scorpio Man has very solid opinions about things, and pretty firm likes and dislikes, because he is a fixed sign. These preferences of his are usually not something that he considers open to discussion. You, however, love to talk and want to know his secrets; he is typically habituated to keeping them to himself. This fixity of mind may frustrate your sense of fairness, and your constant weighing of opinions and looking at both sides of the coin is what the Scorpio considers to be noncommittal or even lazy thinking. The Scorpio may wonder how you manage to maintain such an optimistic attitude, but he is a patient sign, and after a while, he will see the other side of your character and begin to appreciate your integrity, which is something he values as much as you value fairness. The chemistry can be good between you, but don't expect nostalgia and poetry. One thing you can be assured of is that his loyalty and devotion make him someone you can trust. Don't mistake his silence for lack of love. Don't mistake his silence or lack of affectionate words for a lack of love. No matter how open he may be about other matters, he rarely has words for his feelings. Believe in him and trust that his silence can be more eloquent than the words of most people. Scorpios in general are very intense, and this throws a Libra off. BUT this is only reading sun signs. Odds of just sun signs working out are not really favorable. You'd have to read the rest of the chart. (moon sign, venus, rising sun, etc.) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Wow, same here. I've never believed in astrology but that is just creepy. I'm an insecure constant worrier who projects image of having it all together. I never chase--NEVER-- always mirroring my romantic interests' words and actions. I'm deeply afraid of putting myself out there and therefore never take romantic risks. I've been accused of being cold and unmotional and incapable of true intimacy. I always figured it came from abandonment issues with my birth father. hmm maybe zodiac signs aren't complete bulls*** after all Gosh, I can relate with all of that. Now it throught my less than pleasant childhood was to blame but to know it was all destined in the stars for me. Who created this Virgo thing? Lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author babybear Posted September 6, 2012 Author Share Posted September 6, 2012 I'd say the best way to to continue to seduce this man is simply to stick around. You don't necessarily have to "chase" (whatever constitutes as chasing to you), but if you are able to let him know you are interested and available for him without putting yourself too out there, do it. Virgo's are analytical and clock the details. He will know. He just likes to go at his own pace. If that's for you, then continue. Thanks ThaWholigan. That's kinda been the approach I was taking. Nothing intense...just a casual hi here and there. And so far he seems really into it when I have done that. He'll respond every time. But at some point I have to wonder if he's not initiating because he's being a Virgo or b/c maybe he's just over it! I am not very good with mind games, I guess! Did u say you were a Virgo too? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Thanks ThaWholigan. That's kinda been the approach I was taking. Nothing intense...just a casual hi here and there. And so far he seems really into it when I have done that. He'll respond every time. But at some point I have to wonder if he's not initiating because he's being a Virgo or b/c maybe he's just over it! I am not very good with mind games, I guess! Did u say you were a Virgo too? I am indeed a Virgo. Virgo's actually are neutral when it comes to mind games - it can go either way. I can play them, but I do not. A lot of Virgo men are actually quite transparent when you get down to it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author babybear Posted September 6, 2012 Author Share Posted September 6, 2012 Virgos run hot and cold. One day they're all into it, the next they barely seem to care. They really do keep emotions in check. They have a constant need for perfection and will only get into a seriously committed relationship with someone if they feel it will absolutely work. With my ex Virgo, they give affection and the love on THEIR terms. I couldn't have described him any better if I tried. You nailed that! He basically set the pace on his terms. I mean, I could initiate dates or conversations, but he determined how fast we moved always. I think tiring is the best way to put it. I'm a really stable person...I don't play tons of games (I can be shy, so I might appear aloof) but my intention is never to just mess with you for no reason. The more and more I think about this guy...I realize he is probably very incompatible with me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author babybear Posted September 6, 2012 Author Share Posted September 6, 2012 Babybear, what is your sun sign? I, like KatZee, am a Libra. I was involved with a Virgo man and thought he was the love of my life. My story is almost the exact duplicate of KatZees regarding my ex Virgo. He was definitely the hardest to get over of all the men I've known. Mine is Pisces. I have an ex who is a Virgo as well, and that didn't work out for similar reasons. Very non-communicative, and after months...I felt like I still didn't know him! Link to post Share on other sites
Author babybear Posted September 6, 2012 Author Share Posted September 6, 2012 I was married to a Virgo. 11 years together and he never once initiated sex. It sucked (I'm a woman...I needed that). He also let me make all the decision and never really was affectionate. Just one Virgo, and I never really believed in signs but I will never be with a Virgo again. Wow! After 11 years?! I'm pretty sure he could figure you wouldn't reject him by that point! Mine was not incredibly affectionate either. On the couch watching a movie, yes. But walking through the mall or something...no, he wouldn't exactly have his arms around me. Link to post Share on other sites
KatZee Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Mine is Pisces. I have an ex who is a Virgo as well, and that didn't work out for similar reasons. Very non-communicative, and after months...I felt like I still didn't know him! Same here. My virgo ex was extremely non-communicative. I was so in love, and so blinded by those love goggles that I never even REALIZED this until about 2 years together! I finally woke up to him and was like, "good lord, our relationship is SO superficial!" Yes, we had great times, did things together, went on vacations with respective families, laughed, had sex, but on a deeper level? There was nothing. There were never any serious talks about each other. I woke up one day and was like... who are you? Like, really who are you? Sure I can tell you what your favorite food is, but what are your life aspirations? Your dreams? Your wishes? Your wants? Your desires? After almost three years with my ex, I couldn't tell any of you what these things are. Very closed in, never expressing himself on a deeper level. Superficial is the only word I can find to describe this. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author babybear Posted September 6, 2012 Author Share Posted September 6, 2012 My boyfriend is a Virgo. In spite of the challenging parts, it's working well overall. He's a perfect match for me - I'm a Cancer. Cons: Perfectionist who notices every tiny little thing wrong, tends to be emotionally reserved, conservative, fussy and picky about everything, demanding, sometimes judgmental, can be cold, matter of fact and not romantic, kind of obsessive neat freak. Pros: Extreme focus in work and high level of accomplishment in career, dominant in business and learning, good with money, frugal but not cheap, willing to work hard to achieve the life he wants, meticulous and detail-oriented, highly adaptable, independent and strong, commitment-minded, intelligent and analytical, extremely reliable and good for his word, affectionate, charming and dignified, strong values, high sex drive, clean and fastidious, masculine and old-school gentleman. I have read that Virgos are "still waters that run deep". If you can dive down a little, you'll find the treasure I've heard the same! I actually do believe that he has tons to offer - but I think it would mean more to me if he came back on his own, rather than me always keeping the lines open. Virgo or not Virgo, I think a man will go after what he wants...if he wants it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author babybear Posted September 6, 2012 Author Share Posted September 6, 2012 Same here. My virgo ex was extremely non-communicative. I was so in love, and so blinded by those love goggles that I never even REALIZED this until about 2 years together! I finally woke up to him and was like, "good lord, our relationship is SO superficial!" Yes, we had great times, did things together, went on vacations with respective families, laughed, had sex, but on a deeper level? There was nothing. There were never any serious talks about each other. I woke up one day and was like... who are you? Like, really who are you? Sure I can tell you what your favorite food is, but what are your life aspirations? Your dreams? Your wishes? Your wants? Your desires? After almost three years with my ex, I couldn't tell any of you what these things are. Very closed in, never expressing himself on a deeper level. Superficial is the only word I can find to describe this. EXACTLY!!!!! If I were to post all my text messages here (of course I wouldn't) they would be funny and cute and sweet. But you would never read one where he says 'I feel....X about X". They r always skimming the surface. Just yesterday in fact I thought to myself...I don't even KNOW him! Can't believe you just said the same thing. That's pretty incredible. For some reason I kept thinking it was me...or what do I need to be doing differently, or why couldn't I crack this shell. He probably needs to come to a point in his life where he is tired of being alone and will make the changes needed to share his life with someone. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author babybear Posted September 6, 2012 Author Share Posted September 6, 2012 I am indeed a Virgo. Virgo's actually are neutral when it comes to mind games - it can go either way. I can play them, but I do not. A lot of Virgo men are actually quite transparent when you get down to it. I'm glad you stuck around even though this thread is completely bashing your sign! Just curious, in your past relationships, what girls (sun signs) have you connected with? I'm a Pisces...weirdly attracted to Virgos, but this is a habit I should probably drop! Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 I'm glad you stuck around even though this thread is completely bashing your sign! Just curious, in your past relationships, what girls (sun signs) have you connected with? I'm a Pisces...weirdly attracted to Virgos, but this is a habit I should probably drop! Actually, I haven't had any relationships . Another trend in some Virgo males some might say . I have had various attractions to all signs, but specifically Aries, Scorpios, and indeed Pisces girls. Pisces is the sign directly opposite Virgo, so it's basically an opposites attract kind of deal. Especially if Virgo males and Pisces females are the pairings, it's described in sun sign astrology as the Martyr pairing, as the Pisces is the all-encompassing, 100% feminine ideal, hyper-emotional and understanding, and an ocean full of passion. Whereas Virgo's are cool, and analytical, grounded and reserved. The thing about us Virgo men, is that we are actually MUCH more emotional than you think (if other areas in the chart dictate). There's a world of passion, emotion and fire hidden in there somewhere dying to show itself. And the minute it's been shown, his guard is down, and he's yours. He will revert back to his usual cool self, but you'll know who he really is after that, and he will feel comfortable expressing his desires. And a Pisces women tend to respond to that passion, and to be honest, if anyone has enough about them to erode the rock that is Virgo man's composure to get to the deep well of emotion hidden away, it's usually a Pisces woman (or a Taurus woman, beautiful, patient beings they are ). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KatZee Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 EXACTLY!!!!! If I were to post all my text messages here (of course I wouldn't) they would be funny and cute and sweet. But you would never read one where he says 'I feel....X about X". They r always skimming the surface. Just yesterday in fact I thought to myself...I don't even KNOW him! Can't believe you just said the same thing. That's pretty incredible. For some reason I kept thinking it was me...or what do I need to be doing differently, or why couldn't I crack this shell. He probably needs to come to a point in his life where he is tired of being alone and will make the changes needed to share his life with someone. I think it's just them being Virgos. Deep down, I'd like to think my ex is a good person despite the crap he put me through. I chalk it up to Virgos and Libras just NOT being good for each other. Virgo/Libra have two very different views on the world. Libra speaks English and Virgo only understands Chinese. Cancer however is a good match for a Virgo (Sun sign speaking only). My ex's girlfriend before me, was a Cancer, and they were extremely toxic together. Link to post Share on other sites
KatZee Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Actually, I haven't had any relationships . Another trend in some Virgo males some might say . Yes, exactly right. This goes to my point about how Virgos will only get into relationships if they feel it will ABSOLUTELY work and be perfect... which isn't reality, so many Virgos remain bachelors. My one Virgo crush is almost always single. I think he's had one LT girlfriend. My ex Virgo has only had two LT girlfriends, he's 27. My close Virgo friend has been single for 5 years now, but does date. Still searching for Ms. Perfect! Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Yes, exactly right. This goes to my point about how Virgos will only get into relationships if they feel it will ABSOLUTELY work and be perfect... which isn't reality, so many Virgos remain bachelors. My one Virgo crush is almost always single. I think he's had one LT girlfriend. My ex Virgo has only had two LT girlfriends, he's 27. My close Virgo friend has been single for 5 years now, but does date. Still searching for Ms. Perfect! Well, it's kinda different from me, I haven't really inherited the perfectionist gene that other Virgos have - in fact, I think it's a bit of a myth that we're all like that . I have struggled with low confidence and autism, and that's mainly been the thing that has prevented me from having relationships in the past. Still, I'm 24 and things have changed so..... Plus I have a Mars in Aries, so I will chase Link to post Share on other sites
Author babybear Posted September 6, 2012 Author Share Posted September 6, 2012 Well, it's kinda different from me, I haven't really inherited the perfectionist gene that other Virgos have - in fact, I think it's a bit of a myth that we're all like that . I have struggled with low confidence and autism, and that's mainly been the thing that has prevented me from having relationships in the past. Still, I'm 24 and things have changed so..... Plus I have a Mars in Aries, so I will chase Put yourself out there! What is the worst thing that can happen, really? Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Put yourself out there! What is the worst thing that can happen, really? Already am Link to post Share on other sites
Author babybear Posted September 6, 2012 Author Share Posted September 6, 2012 Already am Ok, one last question for you. I guess I have to admit now that maybe I'm not fully over my Virgo crush! When I text him and he responds in .00005 seconds...is he happy to hear from me? Because if he is, why not just say hi first? I'm super easy going, I think he knows that by now. And, it's not like he's actually playing a game and waiting 3 days to respond. Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Ok, one last question for you. I guess I have to admit now that maybe I'm not fully over my Virgo crush! When I text him and he responds in .00005 seconds...is he happy to hear from me? Because if he is, why not just say hi first? I'm super easy going, I think he knows that by now. And, it's not like he's actually playing a game and waiting 3 days to respond. If he consistantly does that he is one of the following : - addicted to his phone - has his phone nearby, sees your message and because he likes you, he promptly answers back All this stuff would be much simpler in relationships if you would just ask him this ... straight up. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Ok, one last question for you. I guess I have to admit now that maybe I'm not fully over my Virgo crush! When I text him and he responds in .00005 seconds...is he happy to hear from me? Because if he is, why not just say hi first? I'm super easy going, I think he knows that by now. And, it's not like he's actually playing a game and waiting 3 days to respond. Usually shy. I had a crush on an Aries, and everytime I initiated contact, I never knew if I would get a response, in fact about 70% of the time I didn't . Or it would just be "hi - how are you, I'm fine etc". But I was pretty bad at the whole being romantic/sexy thing at that time. But usually it's because he's nervous about putting himself out there first. I don't know if there is a way to encourage him or not, but if there is, exploit it if it bothers you . Where does anyone on here say anything about dumping ANYONE just because they were a Virgo? And again, you're basing that description (which is of my EX) and trying to relate to it. That is basically a general summary of sun sign. You CAN'T do this as you both most likely have different signs in other areas of your chart. Don't engage with that poster, Katzee. Link to post Share on other sites
KatZee Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Don't engage with that poster, Katzee. Oh nooo did we get a troll on this awesome thread? Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Oh nooo did we get a troll on this awesome thread? I was avoiding the T word - I've already been infracted this week 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author babybear Posted September 6, 2012 Author Share Posted September 6, 2012 All this stuff would be much simpler in relationships if you would just ask him this ... straight up. So true! I have kind of an intense line of work...I deal with crap all day... but I'm baffled by a boy! How does that happen? Link to post Share on other sites
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