Ilovehertodeath Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 Hello guys, My gf broke up with me and I did the "N/C" thingy for a week, then she called me. I told her that I was on the other line with a girl and she was pissed. She said "fine whatever" *CLICK*. Next day she called again so I answered and we talked for about 30mins. She asked me about the girl I was talking to yesterday and I told her that I might ask her out. So, then she brought up a guy she said she was talking to at work. She said that she kissed him and that they talk on the phone until 3am everyday. ( I think she was trying to make me jealous) But I pretended like it was okay. Then she started saying stuff like "I dont want you to have sex with her" (she was crying when she said that). After that she said, "Its fine if we both see other people but I dont want you to have sex with anyone else...only me". I didnt know what to say.I just acted like everything was cool. Then my phone's batteries started dying (beep beep)......she said "aww no please dont tell me your phone is dying. I still want to talk to you.Will you call me back?" Then I said...." I dont know.... she(the girl talk to) should be calling any minute now so I have to charge the batteries as much as possible." Then we both just said bye to each other and hung up. After that I got on Aol instant messenger and put my away message on "Phone". About 3 hours later she gets online for about 1min and then blocks me. I know for a fact she read my away message and then blocked me. What does this mean? Does she hate me? I want her back but I know I cant give in right away. I know shes lying about the guy from work. I made up the "girl" I told her I was talking to. What if she tries to contact me again? Should I answer or let her suffer some more? When should be a good time to stop this? Until she comes knocking on my door to say shes sorry? help me out here I dont want to screw this up. Link to post Share on other sites
Art Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 [color=green][/color] It seems like your gf really wants to have you back. Your question of 'when is the right time?' does really matter. You didn't mention anything about the reason(s) that she used to brake up with you, but I assumed that she might have some. If the reasons really matter (reasonable and can be solved), I suggest you to think about it and try to find a way to solve it or compromise it with her. After you have an idea of 'what needs to be done', then you can make a move to take her back. I, personally, do not see any needs to torture her as soon as you know how to make your relationship better and more healthy to both of you. Remember that...although she loves you, she can still fall in love with someone else who may enter her life at the right time (while you're making her suffered by ignoring her). If that happens, you'll lose the only chance to get her back. I hope my suggestion will be useful for you. Anyway, it won't work if your gf likes to play games. This is kind of a fair-play suggestion. Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 It doesn't really sound like either of you love each other but are just trying to make each other jealous. Don't ever "give in". Always keep this girl in check. That's no relatoinship, but that's my adivce. My other advice is forget her and go for someone you have a real connection with instead of just game playing. Link to post Share on other sites
beautiful Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 If you want her back STOP playing GAMES! Be honest and talk wiith her about how you feel and than let go. Be sincerely happy and move on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 It doesn't really sound like either of you love each other but are just trying to make each other jealous. I agree, it sounds like you are eachothers' "firsts". A few questions: Is she your first girlfriend? How old are you both? Why did you break up? How long had you been dating? As far as I know the n.c. rule did not involve LYING to your ex? Does it? It just means being less available until they realize they miss you. IMO, if you have to do that, it wasn't meant to be anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 I agree game playing is only a waste of time and extra stress for no reason. Things are seriously soooo much easier when your just honest and up front. I think she obviously cares for you because she cried at the thought of you having sex with someone else. And you obviously care for her so why the games. Call her tell her you made up the girl she'll say she made up the guy and you guys work it out and get back together. PS. you dont have to admit you made up the girl I meant just call her and let her know how you really feel about her. LOL I once had a made up bf for like a month. It was so stupid cuz I would always forget his name. One week he was Mike the next Mark. lol ahhhhh the days of youth...Thank god I grew up though lol Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 Originally posted by Ilovehertodeath Hello guys, My gf broke up with me and I did the "N/C" thingy for a week, then she called me. I told her that I was on the other line with a girl and she was pissed. She said "fine whatever" *CLICK*. Was this a real girl? Or did you just say this to mess with her head? I hope it was a real girl. Next day she called again so I answered and we talked for about 30mins. She asked me about the girl I was talking to yesterday and I told her that I might ask her out. So, then she brought up a guy she said she was talking to at work. She said that she kissed him and that they talk on the phone until 3am everyday. ( I think she was trying to make me jealous) But I pretended like it was okay. Hmm. Well, if it is a real girl that you've been talking to, I think you should focus more time on the new one, and forget about the old one. It definitely does sound as though your ex is trying to make you jealous, or screw with your head in a variety of ways. If she were really talking to some guy that often, why would she be calling you, eh? Then she started saying stuff like "I dont want you to have sex with her" (she was crying when she said that). After that she said, "Its fine if we both see other people but I dont want you to have sex with anyone else...only me". I didnt know what to say.I just acted like everything was cool. Then my phone's batteries started dying (beep beep)......she said "aww no please dont tell me your phone is dying. I still want to talk to you.Will you call me back?" Then I said...." I dont know.... she(the girl talk to) should be calling any minute now so I have to charge the batteries as much as possible." Then we both just said bye to each other and hung up. After that I got on Aol instant messenger and put my away message on "Phone". About 3 hours later she gets online for about 1min and then blocks me. I know for a fact she read my away message and then blocked me. Wow. Your ex is sure acting in an erratic manner. It's probably for the best that she blocked you, as you won't have to deal with her any longer. She's obviously very confused. What does this mean? Does she hate me? I want her back but I know I cant give in right away. You want her back? What about the other girl you've been talking to? Your ex sounds like she is acting a little mushy in the head, and I personally would not want to be around her. I know shes lying about the guy from work. I made up the "girl" I told her I was talking to. Ooh... So you both lied to one another. If you can both so easily lie to one another, why even bother attempting to get back together? That's cruel. What if she tries to contact me again? Should I answer or let her suffer some more? Let her suffer? Stop with the games already! Don't talk to her anymore. It's obvious the both of you think nothing of lying to each other, and that this is all some sort of sick control game. The both of you should be single for a while, or find better people to be with. When should be a good time to stop this? Until she comes knocking on my door to say shes sorry? help me out here I dont want to screw this up. To me, it sounds as though you already screwed things up by lying, and so did she. I don't think you should waste any more effort on the situation. "No contact" is not a way to get people back; it is a way to allow you to move on in your life, and forget about the other person. I suggest using this period of no contact to do that. Link to post Share on other sites
dudesomewhere Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 that stuff is hilarious to me I don't do it and don't mind if others do it...it's just one funny ass phenomena How can you screw up game playing? I say you keep this up for a good 10 years. It's a game where you dont' have to use any quarters or tokens! Who's gonna lose? Nobody. It's set on FreePlay! Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 Originally posted by dudesomewhere that stuff is hilarious to me I don't do it and don't mind if others do it...it's just one funny ass phenomena How can you screw up game playing? I say you keep this up for a good 10 years. It's a game where you dont' have to use any quarters or tokens! Who's gonna lose? Nobody. It's set on FreePlay! You have to pay with taxing your emotions, and to me that's far more icky than running out of quarters or tokens in a crucial moment at the ol' arcade. But I agree... I don't see why people play these silly games and such. But you know, unlike the ol' arcade, these types of games aren't very fun Link to post Share on other sites
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