What is up with the cultural difference??

[liliales]

So my family comes from Korea.

I've left Korea when I was 9 and lived in Poland for over 7 years and now I'm in Utah going to college.

I have never been in a relationship with a Korean because eversince i moved out of korea and seen other many people with different background, I always had a thought in my mind saying

 

Korean guys are not well manered nor no etiquetts(sp ?)

 

So basically, I would always tell myself I am not going to marry a korean.

So I have been dating a white guy for the past 6 months. We were getting serious... I needed a break so I'm home with my family for 2 months.. away from my bf

I've brought up the marriage subject to my parents few times..

 

They are getting really serious about who I should marry. A guy with the same cultural background.

So they can talk! My parents speak enough english to talk.. maybe not understand everything what others say... but have a good idea of what others are talkign about.

 

So what? Even if I do marry this none korean guy from Utah, My parents live in Poland..

My bf's family's in utah. They're not going to be living next door always seeing each other.

It'll probably be once a year or even every other year.

 

They seem to be brain washing me. My bf doesnt speak Korean. I can teach him some.. and teach him the traditions of korean.. shouldnt that be fine?

I love him and I dont want my parents hating me for marrying him...

What should I do??

What do you think is right?

 

Basically my parents wouldnt be too pleased with me marrying a non-korean

My bf's family likes me and wouldnt mind. I'm half americanized... It doesnt bother me marrying a non-korean...

 

 

Thanks

[CurlyIam]

That's a tough one. I'm from Eastern Europe and my parents speak French very poorly and no English at all.

 

I'm not at the point of marrying no one right now, but I realized this year, being away from them and all that they will be terribly hurt if I would not marry a man the same nationality as I am. That's bad !

 

the good part is I don't have to deal with this right now, but Iknow that mu parents only want to see me happy,sowhen choosing my future husband I shall concentrate on this aspect, rather then on his nationality.

 

I think so should you. Plus, you're not gonna live near them anyway, so even if they disaprove, they won't have the ability toconstantly throw that in your face. Sure, it's gonna be tough, but try not to have any prejudice. I think meeting a person to love and to love you back is hard enough without adding anymore pressure.

 

 

So just think about who you love and stick to that person. If your parents love you,may your hubby be American French, Chinese or Korean, they'll grow to love him also !

[liliales]

YOu know what... thats true.

My parents just wants me to keep searching. Obviously there's going to be more than one person that I could love and love me back but he is my first love and you know... first love.. hard to forget.

 

I love him and things are going ok.. except for that brother problem you wrote back about... thanks for that note too..

 

Just gotta hope that my parents will understand.

[InmannRoshi]

You're not alone. My best friend is half Korean and his Korean mom absolutely can't stand his caucasian g/f. She claims American women are too shallow and don't know how to treat a man. His g/f is very nice though.

[CurlyIam]

As long as your parents aren't dead set on this issue, you're gonna be fine, don't worry! It's very important that they communicate with you and understand you, your goals, your lifestyle... oh, and you might take it easywith the marriage thing. I mean I'm 24 and if I go home and start mention it, they'll most be shocked and reluctant to the idea, to my bf and will use all the things they can to talk me out of it.

 

Parents usually hate the unfamilliar.That's why they preffer someone like them. It would make them feel him less of a stranger, especially with you living away and everything.