somedude81 Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 It's not ridiculous. There girl who says "too short" represents you telling the woman earlier in the thread " too skinny". The girl who thought too short, but decided not to post it for several reasons. Represents all the guys that didn't post saying too skinny or too fat. Everyone who wants to improve their personality and become more attractive has to be open to the possibility that the way they think sometimes can show up as unnattractive personality traits. I'm generally a very quiet guy and keep my opinion to myself. Online I say what I want. Link to post Share on other sites
Badsingularity Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 (edited) I'm generally a very quiet guy and keep my opinion to myself. Online I say what I want. So online you are showing your true personality. You're not realy hiding anything. It just shows that you can change some things about the way you come across to become more attractive. No one has a perfect personality, but everyone can make improvements to theirs over time by thinking about things from other perspectives and putting yourself in other peoples shoes. When you do this over time you develope a more attractive personality to the opposite gender. Just so you know I'm not just suggesting you alone need to do this. I still do it myself. You can't completely hide your personality off line especially from women. Also. Please do not take offence to anything I am telling you. I'm just trying help you see things from different perspectives so that you can become more attractive and get a GF one day. Edited September 8, 2012 by Badsingularity 2 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 Another ridiculous connection. You girls kill me Because I think some women are too skinny and other women are too heavy that means I will be dateless. After being alone for years, you'd think that you would be hungry enough for a relationship that your threshold for attraction would lower to the point that you can succeed with a woman. I mean, if you are horny enough and hungry enough for a woman's touch and company, how is any reasonably healthy woman too heavy or too skinny for you? If we surveyed happily partnered men your age (early 30s), I wonder how many of them are partnered with women who fall within your physical standards. I'll bet it is less than 50% (as more than 50% of 30 year old women are overweight). It IS a reason you are dateless. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 After being alone for years, you'd think that you would be hungry enough for a relationship that your threshold for attraction would lower to the point that you can succeed with a woman. I mean, if you are horny enough and hungry enough for a woman's touch and company, how is any reasonably healthy woman too heavy or too skinny for you? If we surveyed happily partnered men your age (early 30s), I wonder how many of them are partnered with women who fall within your physical standards. I'll bet it is less than 50% (as more than 50% of 30 year old women are overweight). It IS a reason you are dateless. Would you suggest to a woman who hasn't been able to get a date to settle for men that she has absolutely no physical attraction to? Link to post Share on other sites
eleanorhurting Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 i dont think some people here know what the word anorexic means 2 Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 It means without orexic. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 Would you suggest to a woman who hasn't been able to get a date to settle for men that she has absolutely no physical attraction to? If she were horny enough, her circle of attraction would widen. That's how it usually works.....the hungrier you are, the lower the threshold of temptation. When you are starving, any crumb is a meal. When a guy is dateless for years, but criticizes healthy, functioning, dating women for being too skinny or too fat, I wonder about him. Other men are obviously dating these women. In one case (kissandmakeup), the guy dating her is a young, attractive physician! But she's "too skinny" for you? Why are your standards so much narrower than the other men? And how does that not limit you? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
eleanorhurting Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 If she were horny enough, her circle of attraction would widen. That's how it usually works.....the hungrier you are, the lower the threshold of temptation. When you are starving, any crumb is a meal. When a guy is dateless for years, but criticizes healthy, functioning, dating women for being too skinny or too fat, I wonder about him. Other men are obviously dating these women. In one case (kissandmakeup), the guy dating her is a young, attractive physician! But she's "too skinny" for you? Why are your standards so much narrower than the other men? And how does that not limit you? and for a while my breasts were too small for you sd! I am happy to say i have been re-measured and i am officially a 32B not 34A. So im ok now you can date me 2 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 Would you suggest to a woman who hasn't been able to get a date to settle for men that she has absolutely no physical attraction to? FWIW, I've said similar things to women who are perpetually single and complains about not finding men up to her shallow standards (height, high income, appearance--not the standards that really matter). Yes, I wonder what is wrong with her, and believe the issue is her. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 (edited) If she were horny enough, her circle of attraction would widen. That's how it usually works.....the hungrier you are, the lower the threshold of temptation. When you are starving, any crumb is a meal. Well at least I'm proud enough to say I'm not hungry enough to go for something I have no interest in. I really doubt that a girl in that situation would be happy to know that I'd have no attraction to her, and only with her because I was very horny. When a guy is dateless for years, but criticizes healthy, functioning, dating women for being too skinny or too fat, I wonder about him. Other men are obviously dating these women. In one case (kissandmakeup), the guy dating her is a young, attractive physician! But she's "too skinny" for you? Why are your standards so much narrower than the other men? And how does that not limit you? Most men do have an issue when they think a woman is too thin. But it's hardly going to prevent a dude from dating somebody unless she looked unhealthy. I've never seen kissandmakeup so I don't know what she looks like. All I can do is look on my past knowledge of women's weight and try to guess her appearance. It just so happens, that the last girl I had a crush on was also 5'8 but she claimed to be 140lbs. IMO she looked pretty good, and she would probably look very different if she were 30lbs lighter. Would she be too skinny for me? Probably not, but the attraction wouldn't be as strong. At the other end of the spectrum, I'm 160lbs and I refuse to date a girl who weighs as much or more than I do. I simply have no attraction to overweight women. As a man, I feel that I need to be bigger than the woman. Also I'm only 5'6 so I already feel pretty small. Being with a woman that is bigger than me, would not help my self-confidence. Edited September 9, 2012 by somedude81 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 Well at least I'm proud enough to say I'm not hungry enough to go for something I have no interest in. I really doubt that a girl in that situation would be happy to know that I'd have no attraction to her, and only with her because I was very horny. That's just the thing....if you were hungry enough, you would have interest. You think you want a relationship. You're obsessed with it. But do you really want one? I don't know. At the other end of the spectrum, I'm 160lbs and I refuse to date a girl who weighs as much or more than I do. I simply have no attraction to overweight women. As a man, I feel that I need to be bigger than the woman. Also I'm only 5'6 so I already feel pretty small. Being with a woman that is bigger than me, would not help my self-confidence. See, that's your issue. And that issue is stronger than your hunger for a woman. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 See, that's your issue. And that issue is stronger than your hunger for a woman. Checkmate. Your lack of confidence outweighs your hunger for a woman indeed. Although neither state is inherently healthy anyway - hunger could easily be construed as desperation. Anyway, in SD's defence - when did this become another thread about Somedude? Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 Anyway, in SD's defence - when did this become another thread about Somedude? Isn't it always about somedude? Anyway, the comments apply in general to all the dateless guys criticizing women for being too fat or too thin. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 Anyway, the comments apply in general to all the dateless guys criticizing women for being too fat or too thin. Right? Beggars can't be choosers. Link to post Share on other sites
florence of suburbia Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 Well at least I'm proud enough to say I'm not hungry enough to go for something I have no interest in. I really doubt that a girl in that situation would be happy to know that I'd have no attraction to her, and only with her because I was very horny. Most men do have an issue when they think a woman is too thin. But it's hardly going to prevent a dude from dating somebody unless she looked unhealthy. I've never seen kissandmakeup so I don't know what she looks like. All I can do is look on my past knowledge of women's weight and try to guess her appearance. It just so happens, that the last girl I had a crush on was also 5'8 but she claimed to be 140lbs. IMO she looked pretty good, and she would probably look very different if she were 30lbs lighter. Would she be too skinny for me? Probably not, but the attraction wouldn't be as strong. At the other end of the spectrum, I'm 160lbs and I refuse to date a girl who weighs as much or more than I do. I simply have no attraction to overweight women. As a man, I feel that I need to be bigger than the woman. Also I'm only 5'6 so I already feel pretty small. Being with a woman that is bigger than me, would not help my self-confidence. Not that this thread is about you or anything. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 See, that's your issue. And that issue is stronger than your hunger for a woman. Checkmate. Your lack of confidence outweighs your hunger for a woman indeed. Although neither state is inherently healthy anyway - hunger could easily be construed as desperation. Though tell me this. How rare are women who are shorter than 5'6 and under 160 lbs. 5%? 10 %? Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 Glad to see you're your usual lovable self today, OP. You're right, those girls are all just being superficial bitches when they reject you! I can't imagine why nobody would be thrilled to have you. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 Since I can't edit my post, I was going to say that 5'6 isn't my cut off for a girls height. I don't care if she's a couple of inches taller than me. As long as I'm still heavier. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 Not that this thread is about you or anything. That's like telling one of the most self-centered posters on the site that he's self-centered. I have no excuse for my weight. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 Since I can't edit my post, I was going to say that 5'6 isn't my cut off for a girls height. I don't care if she's a couple of inches taller than me. As long as I'm still heavier. My height, weight and breast size all classify me within somedude's dating criteria :love: 1 Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 My height, weight and breast size all classify me within somedude's dating criteria :love: You're also European which seems to be the new thing I should be after So welcome aboard Link to post Share on other sites
florence of suburbia Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 You're also European which seems to be the new thing I should be after So welcome aboard Glad we've finally got that settled. The purpose of this thread has been realized. Oh, wait a minute..... Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 Glad we've finally got that settled. The purpose of this thread has been realized. Oh, wait a minute..... Hey, to be fair to SD, this thread didn't have much of a purpose to begin with, so this was possibly the best thread he could have chosen. Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 Though tell me this. How rare are women who are shorter than 5'6 and under 160 lbs. 5%? 10 %? 5' 2-1/2 and 125lbs, last I weighed myself (a while ago). I'm having weight problems due to a lack of exercise and illness - I was having trouble keeping weight off before, even though I was exercising regularly. I was exhausted - I've had energy problems for years, and was underweight for a while when I was younger (not intentionally). I weigh more than I like. I haven't been lower than that for a long while; I used to feel my best at around 106lbs, but if someone tells me I shouldn't feel good about myself unless I reach that weight again? They won't like my response. Yaaaaay another fatty-bashing thread. Shouldn't we start a skinny-bashing, "real women have curves" thread as well, just to balance it out? Then we can start similar threads about men. Let's just make sure no one leaves this site feeling good about themselves. Ready.......go! My popcorn is ready. Link to post Share on other sites
florence of suburbia Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 Hey, to be fair to SD, this thread didn't have much of a purpose to begin with, so this was possibly the best thread he could have chosen. True, it was so one dimensional and shallow before..... Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts