Sugarkane Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 I can't stand an aunt that I have. One Christmas I was already in tears as I got cruelly dumped at the time. My insensitive aunt ignored this and had a complete go at for not furthering my education. I wasnt in the mood at all. She had a complete go at me yet my parents said/ did absolutely nothing as always. And my family wonders why I resent them. I'm also pissed off that my parents do that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted September 8, 2012 Author Share Posted September 8, 2012 Yet she doesn't regret having children when she was stillin her teens. Extremely insensitive. Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 I'd advise you to avoid being around her. If you can't avoid her and/or she corners you. Say something like, "that's nice auntie" and then walk away/leave the room. You are an adult now and don't need to rely on your parents to stand up for you. So draw your own boundaries and defend at all costs. I've found that meddlesome people tend to have very small worlds and look for easy targets to project their dissatisfaction with their own lives. Don't be an easy target and don't spend time with people who are intent on damaging your self-esteem. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted September 8, 2012 Author Share Posted September 8, 2012 Thankyou but I just have so much resentment. If it was her favourite niece [my cousin] a spoilt, spoilt, young woman she would've done the exact opposite and supported her. I wonder why I get the exact opposite treatment? I know for sure she wouldn't do that to her spoiled princess of a niece. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 best way to defeat a bully is to call him or her on what they say to you. if she's nattering on and on about her education, just smile curiously at her and ask why this is so important to her, since it's a personal decision that you've made, and really has nothing to do with her. Unless she wants to give you money? "Because *then* I would consider any input, Aunt Blah-blah," you reply. You know, the old "kill 'em with kindness" routine? as for kids, my favorite shut 'em up whenever I got asked how come I hadn't gotten pregnant yet was "We're leaving it up to God" ~ because my family is religious, there was no real come back without looking jackassy :laugh: best one, though, is to adopt my boss's attitude whenever someone annoys him. He just smiles and says in his sincerest tone of voice, "How wonderful for you!" a Southern thing I picked up when I married my 'Bama-boy husband: "Bless your heart," said in a sincere tone of voice. From what I understand, it's how generations of sweet little old Southern ladies told you to go to hell, but in a nice way. so yeah, you've got several recourses to choose from, just have fun with it. I guarantee, your aunt'll be fit to be tied because she's used to people letting her get away with bad behavior. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted September 8, 2012 Author Share Posted September 8, 2012 Thank god I don't see her often. I find now I don't want anything to do with her. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 and that's a *good* thing, believe me! meanwhile, practice some of those lines I've given you, and let whatever assinine thing she tells you to just roll off you like water off a duck. She's soooo not worth your time! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted September 8, 2012 Author Share Posted September 8, 2012 I also really can't stand it when she constantly talks about my cousin who is a complete biatch. This cousin is completely spoilt and the complete opposite to how I was brought up. She constantly says about how important she is and how she's too important and too busy to be there, within 5 minutes of being there. She smoked and drank and went out before she was 18 years old [illegal]. She's one of the most arrogant people I've met. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 We choose who we associate with. Cross her off the association list. There's no law which compels us to associate with anyone, family or not. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 I can't stand an aunt that I have. One Christmas I was already in tears as I got cruelly dumped at the time. My insensitive aunt ignored this and had a complete go at for not furthering my education. I wasnt in the mood at all. She had a complete go at me yet my parents said/ did absolutely nothing as always. And my family wonders why I resent them. I'm also pissed off that my parents do that. My real concern is, why your parents didn't step in and defend you, protect you! Just ignore your aunt. I know it's easier said than done. Next time she starts in on you, just walk out of the room. Don't engage her in a fight or argument as it's just not worth it. Yet DO talk to your parents about their treatment towards you! How crappy of them to sit there with their thumbs up their asses and NOT jump in and defend you! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted September 8, 2012 Author Share Posted September 8, 2012 Yes I did but all I got was some BS excuse. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted September 8, 2012 Author Share Posted September 8, 2012 My mum just blamed me for it. I'm surprised my dad doesn't say anything To my aunts children as they had a his out of wedlock. My dad thinks that's the worst thing you can do. When I said this to my mum she said it wasn't their problem. Yet their happy for her to yell at me. Link to post Share on other sites
freestyle Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 Here's another snappy comeback--(use an innocent tone) "Thank you for sharing your opinion. Gosh, I didn't even have to ask for it!" Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted September 15, 2012 Author Share Posted September 15, 2012 Still pretty pissed off that they think it was ok for her to verbally abuse me. Yet dont think that it's their place to say anything about her son having a kid out of wedlock (my dad loves judging people). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted September 15, 2012 Share Posted September 15, 2012 Your aunt sounds like my aunt. I was recently invited to my cousin's birthday party tomorrow last week, but she couldn't give a time because since he ex has sole custody of my cousin, he gets to decide the time. My aunt is wishy washy and doesn't make a definite decision until last minute and this happens every year, so when I hadn't heard from her, I made other plans and then she finally decides to tell me lunch time, but won't know a time until the day before. So I had to cancel on her and then she tried to change to dinner, which I also had plans for. She also had given my grandmother attitude when she asked when my aunt was having his party at her place, so my grandmother took that as the party being off. No one could make it since she had given everyone such short notice. She had even more of an attitude when she found out my grandmother mailed my cousin's birthday card. Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted September 15, 2012 Share Posted September 15, 2012 Unfortunately you can't choose the family you're born into. I have issues with a few aunts and uncles. I recommend considering anyone who gets into your head like that a "toxic" person. Don't engage with them. Avoid even relayed messages. A few years ago I had an uncle who assaulted me as a boy dare tell me what MY childhood was like TO ME. I wanted to hit him in the mouth with a bat. I can't even go there because it leads to hundreds of other issues of favoritism and injustices. He's just "toxic" and I avoid him. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted October 4, 2012 Author Share Posted October 4, 2012 Still pretty pissed off that they think it was ok for her to verbally abuse me. Yet dont think that it's their place to say anything about her son having a kid out of wedlock (my dad loves judging people). Still don't remotely understand this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted October 4, 2012 Author Share Posted October 4, 2012 Before this happened I was going to ask if I could swap parents and have her instead. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted October 14, 2012 Author Share Posted October 14, 2012 I got an invitation to go to my cousins fiancé's hens night. I don't know what to do as it's at her house and she will be there. Sigh. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted November 6, 2012 Author Share Posted November 6, 2012 So I went to my nan's and saw one of my aunts aswell on Melbourne Cup day today. It was only until we got there that my mum said that this aunt would be there. Urgh. Thank god she didn't stay long. I wish on the anniversary of her husband's death, I could be equally as rude to her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sugarkane Posted November 22, 2012 Author Share Posted November 22, 2012 I've been invited to my cousins fiancé's hens night. I want to go as I haven't been to one before and she is always nice to me. I hope to god my aunt won't be there. Knowing my luck she will. Link to post Share on other sites
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