Mrlonelyone Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 For some reason I feel heartbroken but no one has broke my heart. The phrase, so much love to give and no one to give it to is stuck in my head. Anyone else ever felt this way? Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 I think that when we get older, disappointments seem much more profound. And may be compounded by a sense of running out of time. While I believe that there's somebody out there for everybody, I also know that it can be difficult to find that somebody when one has what seems like a very unique set of circumstances that make compatibility a challenge. All you can do is to give in to the forlorn feelings: recognise them, acknowledge them, unpick them, then let them go and focus on getting yourself to the next moment in time. However, if they occur frequently or remain for a long time, then you may wish to seek the advice of a mental health professional. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mrlonelyone Posted September 8, 2012 Author Share Posted September 8, 2012 You sound so logical and calm lately. Maybe it's the avatar. My circumstances are certainly part of it. So many people willing to have sex, not a whole lot willing to stay. Women can be just as bad as men about that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
iris219 Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 For some reason I feel heartbroken but no one has broke my heart. The phrase, so much love to give and no one to give it to is stuck in my head. Anyone else ever felt this way? I feel exactly the same way. I would make an outstanding wife or girlfriend, but I'm never given the opportunity. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MercuryMorrison1 Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 I feel this way quite often...You're not alone OP. I can get sex if I really want it...But after awhile sex is just...Sex. Like you I want an emotional connection, someone I can en-trust with my secret's and open up to. I really want to beleive in the theory that there someone out there for everyone, that theory alone is what keeps me trying when all else fails. I know that I would be the best guy in the world for the right girl...The hardest part is just finding her in this massive human melting pot we call earth. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
strongnrelaxed Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 You sound so logical and calm lately. Maybe it's the avatar. My circumstances are certainly part of it. So many people willing to have sex, not a whole lot willing to stay. Women can be just as bad as men about that. Man are you in the wrong forum! I cannot tell you how many men feel the same way you do. You should consider reading this http://dontmarry.files.wordpress.com/2009/03/sexualutopia.pdf Society is going through some major changes. I grew up in the 70s and 80's. I was born in 1964 - the last year of the baby boomers, but too young to be a hippy. In that time I seen the vietnam war end, the sexual revolution take place, the Berlin wall fall, the internet revolution/information age arrival, Gay Marriage legalized, medical weed, the crack epidemic come and go and the introduction of AIDS/HIV. That is a lot of change in essentially two decades. Why am I telling you all of this? Because you are the "beneficiary" of this change. Your biggest challenge, I suspect will be the following: 1- Finding others who understand you. 2 - Being able to express yourself without having labels slapped on you by zealots on either side. 3- Connecting meaningfully with a female partner - the feminist movement has precluded this. You are evil (by virtue of being a man) whether you recognize it or not. 4- Getting to the bottom of things. What is the problem here? Why are we all here talking about all of these things? There are answers - but very few people have the courage to face them. Good luck. I know the feeling and wish you well. I can tell you that you should dig deep and work hard to channel your sexual and romantic feelings into work or some other meaningful endeavor. I am sure you know that there are women who would love to meet you. You are prime material for single mothers and a number of other sorts who would love to trap you into marriage. Tread very carefully buddy, but know that you are not alone. Link to post Share on other sites
strongnrelaxed Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 I feel this way quite often...You're not alone OP. I can get sex if I really want it...But after awhile sex is just...Sex. Like you I want an emotional connection, someone I can en-trust with my secret's and open up to. I really want to beleive in the theory that there someone out there for everyone, that theory alone is what keeps me trying when all else fails. I know that I would be the best guy in the world for the right girl...The hardest part is just finding her in this massive human melting pot we call earth. I know what you mean about there being someone for everyone. I hope that you don't let that limit you to thinking that there is that magical someone - or "the one". We can find any one of a number of partners, it is just a matter of first knowing ourselves, and then knowing the basics of human nature. Once you understand these two things then finding partners becomes easier. Not easy, just easier. Link to post Share on other sites
denise_xo Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 For some reason I feel heartbroken but no one has broke my heart. The phrase, so much love to give and no one to give it to is stuck in my head. Anyone else ever felt this way? I felt like that for years when I was younger. Don't have much advice to offer, but I empathise. I hope you meet someone Link to post Share on other sites
MercuryMorrison1 Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 I know what you mean about there being someone for everyone. I hope that you don't let that limit you to thinking that there is that magical someone - or "the one". We can find any one of a number of partners, it is just a matter of first knowing ourselves, and then knowing the basics of human nature. Once you understand these two things then finding partners becomes easier. Not easy, just easier. You hit the nail on the head. The way I see there are many people out there whom I am compatible with in a dating scenario. To beleive that there is one and only one out there who suites me while romantic would be somewhat foolish as If I did think that way I would severaly limit myself as you stated. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
strongnrelaxed Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 I feel exactly the same way. I would make an outstanding wife or girlfriend, but I'm never given the opportunity. I bet you would. Life is cruel. In modern advanced societies we are spared the worst of it. But the need for love and connection is powerful Iris. I wish you luck. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mrlonelyone Posted September 9, 2012 Author Share Posted September 9, 2012 I would only make a few changes but I agree with you strong. 1- Finding others who understand you. 2 - Being able to express yourself without having labels slapped on you by zealots on either side. 3- Connecting meaningfully with a partner (male, F2M transgender, a tomboyish woman) - the feminist movement has precluded this. You are evil (by virtue of being a transsexual*) whether you recognize it or not. 4- Getting to the bottom of things. What is the problem here? Why are we all here talking about all of these things? There are answers - but very few people have the courage to face them. *Oh yes old line rad feminist don't like us either. Link to post Share on other sites
Titania22 Posted September 10, 2012 Share Posted September 10, 2012 I know exactly how you feel MrLonely. Not only is no one interested in me romantically, I feel like an outcast when it comes to friendship too. Except for a very few friends, I don't seem to be able to have long lasting friendships with most people. There always comes a point, where I must say or do something wrong, and I get blocked or avoided (no discussion, no chance to find out what I did wrong, or straighten things out). How can I grow to be more socially acceptable, if no one will be honest with me? I would have thought in an age, where there are so many people, and technology to help us connect over wide distances, that it would be possible to easily find friends (and possibly a companion) that matches up with us, but instead, I feel I am more disposable then ever. I don't have any solutions for you MrLonely, but I do empathize. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mrlonelyone Posted September 10, 2012 Author Share Posted September 10, 2012 I would have thought in an age, where there are so many people, and technology to help us connect over wide distances, that it would be possible to easily find friends (and possibly a companion) that matches up with us, but instead, I feel I am more disposable then ever. Your not the only one that has noticed that about our age of social networking. Many people loose sight of the importance of real life human connections. Their social networking image and persona become more important than their local community. If I were such a person I would be distraught that a sister of mine who lives around the corner blocked me on Facebook, because she found my discussions of genealogy offensive. (Thinking it is something "for white people" or that someone knowing your great grandfather's name means they can steal your identity or what ever.) Anyway. I went to the doctor today and she said what I am probably feeling is just acid reflux. The fact that it is the worst when I first wake up and gets better as the day goes on makes them think that. I thought it was that, as I lived my life, I saw how good it really is without a SO. Link to post Share on other sites
Titania22 Posted September 10, 2012 Share Posted September 10, 2012 Your not the only one that has noticed that about our age of social networking. Many people loose sight of the importance of real life human connections. Their social networking image and persona become more important than their local community. If I were such a person I would be distraught that a sister of mine who lives around the corner blocked me on Facebook, because she found my discussions of genealogy offensive. (Thinking it is something "for white people" or that someone knowing your great grandfather's name means they can steal your identity or what ever.) Anyway. I went to the doctor today and she said what I am probably feeling is just acid reflux. The fact that it is the worst when I first wake up and gets better as the day goes on makes them think that. I thought it was that, as I lived my life, I saw how good it really is without a SO. Hopefully you will feel better soon. Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted September 14, 2012 Share Posted September 14, 2012 (edited) I've been there before. Hopefully in time the right person will come along. Edited September 14, 2012 by gaius Link to post Share on other sites
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