Hard time starting over

[hew]

So I've just gone to university and moved away into my own home with a few roommates. Im basically just having a hard time getting used to my new life. All my friends who are also first years live on res and i don't which makes it hard to meet people. My roommates are all 3 or 4 years older than me almost finishing university. So they're have lives of their own to be busy with which makes me feel really lonely. Im trying to be positive and allowing myself time to get used to things and meet people once classes fully start up. I just felt really ****ty because my friends away at school will Skype me saying how they're going out with all their new friends and when they ask what I'm doing, I'm usually just sitting at home or back at my moms house for the weekend. I just really miss my mom so i come home because I'm been feeling really homesick. Im going to start staying up at school to build my life up there though. People always say "go out with friends" and its hard for me to be like, i don't really have any friends. I have a few people that i know of, but since I'm not the most out going person its hard for me to get myself out there. Im just really worried that I'm not going to meet people. Anyone else in this situation have this concern? Did you eventually meet people?

[january2011]

From experience, it's like this for every freshman. You become a little fish in a big pond. It can be disorientating and very lonely.

 

I know you miss your mom, but I agree that you need to spend time building your life at university. There will be many people in the same boat. Throw yourself into college life and join as many clubs and societies as your schedule will allow. The first year is usually the best time to do this because the course load tends to be quite light and not as taxing as later years. Do not sit at home. No one is going to come get you and bring friends and a social life to you. You need to put yourself out there and talk to as many people as you can.

 

While studies are important, university is also a fairly safe environment to test being out there in the world, learning to network and socialise. Learning new skills, trying new sports and activities either for free or at a very low cost. I'd strongly advise you not to waste this opportunity, because once you graduate and get a job, things can get a lot harder.