Admit it. We're losers. And this is all bull*****.

[weallfalldown]

pm me the code.....

[Zammo25]

Don't dish out misery if you can't take the flak.

if you're alone and miserable that's your problem.

Others are alone and get on with life, others again aren't alone and miserable and yet more are with someone and happy.

 

 

Yup. The way to be happy, is to try to make others happy. And if they won't be happy, that's their problem. It's a choice my friend, a real live choice.

 

 

I don't 'brutally assasinate anyone. I give and shoot from the hip, but most of the time, it's to people who require advice and take it on board....

 

 

because I have the answers to the meaning of life.

 

 

 

Honestly?

Yes. I have to empty my PM box at least once a week.

Would you like to see other threads I've participated in?

Someone told me today my advice is so good, I should write a book.

And I'd just finished giving them a good talking to, as well!

I'm astonishingly cheerful, because I've cracked the code....

 

You seem pretty well very happy with yourself. I am not going to blow smoke up your ar*e as you do that well enough yourself. You have a MAJOR superiority complex.

[GorillaTheater]

You have a MAJOR superiority complex.

 

She is superior. There's nothing complex about it.

 

If you're wise, you'll listen to and consider what she has to say.

[TaraMaiden]

So deliberately, genuinely happy people, have a superiority complex?

Maybe you've spent so long looking down, you believe everyone else is a liar, and you're the only honest person here?

 

Instead of taking the splinter out of my eye, why not knock the chip off your own shoulder?

CHOOSE to be more positive.

WORK towards being more positive.

Realise that in life, you get one break.

This is it.

Do you really choose to be so unhappy for the remainder?

[geegirl]

You seem pretty well very happy with yourself. I am not going to blow smoke up your ar*e as you do that well enough yourself. You have a MAJOR superiority complex.

 

You can't expect a "pity-me" thread to garner you support except for a swift kick up the butt to get you out of wallowing.

 

Tara tells it like it is and you could use some tough love to remove yourself from this negative view you have of yourself. Besides you don't have to know the meaning of life to tell that your post is nothing but a pity party, and one that does not need support or coddling.

 

Instead of investing this much passion in getting mad, how about you turn that around and invest it in trying to see things in a different light.

[TaraMaiden]

She is superior. There's nothing complex about it.

 

If you're wise, you'll listen to and consider what she has to say.

 

Oh I do love you.....

[TaraMaiden]

I know, it IS tragic, isn't it....?

 

marry that kind of attitude to the guy who thinks he's hot and wants to date hot chicks....

 

Jeesh....

 

some people are very screwed up.

[todreaminblue]

All this whining and moping and it gets us nowhere.

 

Our significant others left us because they were better than us, we weren't good enough for them, and we never will be.

 

You know why you're alone? Same reason I'm alone. Cause we fXXXing SUCK. The one you love is out there right now with someone else, someone BETTER, and there is not a god damn thing you can do about it.

 

They are not "coping." They are HAPPY. If you think they even took two seconds to regret their decision you're fooling yourself.

 

Everything we ever do, for the rest of our pathetic lives, was determined by someone else decided to leave our sorry asses.

 

Your ex-boyfriend doesn't text or call because he just plain DOESN'T LIKE YOU. Just like my ex-girlfriend doesn't give two ****s if I live or die...cause I am nothing to get...insignificant and worthless.

 

"Time heals all wounds." Horse ****. It does not. Nothing heals anything. There is no hope, there is no meaning, and there is no point in anything.

 

The end.

 

 

Oh dear........Time does heal.I am not fully healed i carry battle scars war wounds comes with the territory.But i do believe in myself and i am a loser ....lol....i would rather be a loser than a player in love.....sensitive hearts carry scars

that my exes were cheats is not my fault that i left them is not my fault and because i wont go back is not my fault doesnt make me a loser....what makes me a loser is i am not a player in love......so looooooooooooooser deb yaay.......smilin....ill keep trying hopefully with a man who puts me first like i would put them....i am no longer a second class loser first class loser all the way baby.....;0).....keep smilin even when i tfeels like you want to shred newspaper into equally thin strips while smilin.......thats called crazy loser..good luck...deb

[Jingle14]

Oh dear........Time does heal.I am not fully healed i carry battle scars war wounds comes with the territory.But i do believe in myself and i am a loser ....lol....i would rather be a loser than a player in love.....sensitive hearts carry scars

that my exes were cheats is not my fault that i left them is not my fault and because i wont go back is not my fault doesnt make me a loser....what makes me a loser is i am not a player in love......so looooooooooooooser deb yaay.......smilin....ill keep trying hopefully with a man who puts me first like i would put them....i am no longer a second class loser first class loser all the way baby.....;0).....keep smilin even when i tfeels like you want to shred newspaper into equally thin strips while smilin.......thats called crazy loser..good luck...deb

 

I can't agree that time heals. It hasn't for me, 15 months on. In that time I have turned more and more bitter - never mind the anger 'phase', I am constantly angry about what happened.

 

I have spent months and months trying to convince myself I hate him, I never want anything to do with him, I am too good for him (which is true, actually) and reminding myself of all the unkind, thoughtless things he did and the downright horrible and disrespectful ways he treated me BUT the underlying sadness that I was the one who ballsed things up and that he is now with someone who isn't me never, ever goes away.

 

I force myself to be cheerful, positive, the 'life and soul' but no-one but me will ever know how I feel deep down. I am always busy and always accept any invitations from friends to do things/go places.

 

I have forced myself to try and be interested in other people but it didn't work and I am now resigned to the fact I will be single for the rest of my life and I am at peace with that. I am not interested in anyone else, and I certainly couldn't - and wont - put myself through the risk of falling for anyone again (it took me 45 years to fall in love, despite having been in a 23 year relationship prior to this one, so the chances of that happening again now are very remote anyway).

[Sugarkane]

How are we losers? They are the ones that lost great people. As I said in another thread dumpers love blaming 100% of the breakup on us. They love lying that we're bad people and trying to get others to buy into those lies. So they feel less guilty. Like someone else said Rob Pattinson got dumped, does that make him a loser? He'll no. The guy has a better career than his ex (arthouse movies) and I don't know how- didn't lose it infront of the media and tell the media what he really thinks of the cheating ex.

[TaraMaiden]

This is the OP in another thread:

 

I thought I made it pretty clear in my other thread that I know the blame is on me! I'm a worthless piece of ****! I know full well why they all left me. I just have no idea how I managed to trick them into dating me in the first place. Well, no big deal. That's never gonna happen again.

I think the only place in this thread the OP has mentioned his own part was in post #1, but I confess, I haven't read the whole self-pitying multi-paged rant...

 

So AFAICS, it's not 'pretty clear' at all.

 

We have no real idea what went on, except that the OP and other pessimists see the break-up as reason to do the 'razor-wire up and down the nostrils' trick.

Fortunately, they seem to be in the minority, and when people call them out on it, they disappear, because they know they're being beaten down by logic.

[Jingle14]

How are we losers? They are the ones that lost great people. As I said in another thread dumpers love blaming 100% of the breakup on us. They love lying that we're bad people and trying to get others to buy into those lies. So they feel less guilty. Like someone else said Rob Pattinson got dumped, does that make him a loser? He'll no. The guy has a better career than his ex (arthouse movies) and I don't know how- didn't lose it infront of the media and tell the media what he really thinks of the cheating ex.

 

Wouldn't say I'm a loser but I disagree that they 'are the ones who lost great people' as the thing is, they don't see it like that, they don't think 'we' are great people and that's why they got shut of us and are glad we are no longer around. My ex has his new tart now, doesn't give me a thought - he no doubt thinks she is a 'great person'.

 

In my view, knowing him the way I do, I doubt she is a patch on me personality wise as I am absolutely convinced he's gone back to his previous beige but safe and cosy existence. He doesn't think I am a loss at all, to him I'm not.

 

So we can't delude ourselves that they do because in reality if they did think we were all that then they would still be with us and we would not be on here. That's not to say that I hope one day he wakes up to what he lost when he let me go but that's more a fantasy than a probability, or even a possibility.

Edited September 11, 2012 by Jingle14

[fallenheart]

Hey Tara Maiden,

 

First of all....I'm not hiding anything. I already know I'm a piece of **** and I'm worthless and no girl will ever want to be with me. I never denied that.

 

Second of all........F uck you.

 

Seriously........please go f u ck yourself you old sanctimonious bag. Think you know so much....think you're so smart.

 

You don't know ****.

 

You don't know me. You don't know my pain. You have no f u cking clue what I've been through. You don't know a god damn thing.

 

So please take your old lady opinions and happy positive rainbow bull shi t and shove them right the hell back up your bloated ass hole where they belong.

[Zammo25]

Hey Tara Maiden,

 

First of all....I'm not hiding anything. I already know I'm a piece of **** and I'm worthless and no girl will ever want to be with me. I never denied that.

 

Second of all........F uck you.

 

Seriously........please go f u ck yourself you old sanctimonious bag. Think you know so much....think you're so smart.

 

You don't know ****.

 

You don't know me. You don't know my pain. You have no f u cking clue what I've been through. You don't know a god damn thing.

 

So please take your old lady opinions and happy positive rainbow bull shi t and shove them right the hell back up your bloated ass hole where they belong.

 

That is one hell of a post. TM does seem full of her own self importance and loved it when someone else blew smoke up her ar*e as she seems to be pretty much in love with herself so she doesn't really need a partner. Sanctimonious is the word. Also I have not gone away and admire the OP for his honestly and cutting through the bullcrap. We are at this moment in time losers. There is no doubt about that or we would not be on here spilling our guts to random strangers would we ?

[Zammo25]

I don't really see how seeking support makes one a loser? I've spilled my guts both on here and to my friends and family about my breakup but I don't think I'm a loser. Or should I be a big strong man and suck it up?

 

We are losers as we have lost something we did not want to lose. By any definition known to Man losing something you did not want to makes you a loser. The ex's if they saw us on here would probably have a right laugh with their new partners at how pathetic we are. I would be mortified if my ex saw the crap I have posted on here about her as she at the end of the day could not give a rat's arse about me or my feelings. As such the OP has pretty much nailed it.

[TaraMaiden]

Hey Tara Maiden,

 

First of all....I'm not hiding anything. I already know I'm a piece of **** and I'm worthless and no girl will ever want to be with me. I never denied that.

 

Second of all........F uck you.

 

Seriously........please go f u ck yourself you old sanctimonious bag. Think you know so much....think you're so smart.

 

You don't know ****.

 

You don't know me. You don't know my pain. You have no f u cking clue what I've been through. You don't know a god damn thing.

 

So please take your old lady opinions and happy positive rainbow bull shi t and shove them right the hell back up your bloated ass hole where they belong.

 

Your words are a true gift to me. And like a lot of unsolicited, worthless, relatively tasteless, vulgar and unwanted gifts we might receive (at weddings, Christmas, birthdays...) I'm really not too sure it suits me, so I'll just take it to the charity shop, where they will take pity on it, treat it with the contempt it deserves and pass it on to some more deserving creature.

Like you, for example.

Here, have it back, but thank you so much for spending so much time and effort on such an erudite, well-worded, educated and exceedingly meaningless message.

At least that filled your poor self-defeating mind with something else to do for a minute.

There, didn't that feel better?

[Zammo25]

Your words are a true gift to me. And like a lot of unsolicited, worthless, relatively tasteless, vulgar and unwanted gifts we might receive (at weddings, Christmas, birthdays...) I'm really not too sure it suits me, so I'll just take it to the charity shop, where they will take pity on it, treat it with the contempt it deserves and pass it on to some more deserving creature.

Like you, for example.

Here, have it back, but thank you so much for spending so much time and effort on such an erudite, well-worded, educated and exceedingly meaningless message.

At least that filled your poor self-defeating mind with something else to do for a minute.

There, didn't that feel better?

 

Wow you really are a piece of work. Can you not tell when someone is hurting badly ? No, the self appointed " Love Guru " knows it all. How do you not know what issues this guy has ? Still you have decided he is not worthy so you can be happy with yourself.

[TaraMaiden]

I have made no such decision. He has. You have.

We're all here to provide help, counsel, support and a shoulder to lean on.

But you guys seem absolutely set and determined to consider Pain to be your best abode. No matter what I or anyone else has tried to say, you're all convinced you're losers.

It's hard to help someone along when they themselves have decided they're 'unworthy' and dead set against it....

[esteem-jam]

One can not be a loser at EVERYTHING. People are bad in some things, and excellent at others; individual.

Define: what is a loser, specific traits, signs, characteristics - which completed and matched, we can say 100% that the person is a loser.

[Sameold]

Life isn't one big party, bad things happen and they are often out of your control, does that make you a loser? I lost my girlfriend because I needed a job to live and it meant us moving and a lot of upheaval, eventually she decided to go off...so does getting a job make me a loser?

 

My older bro got dumped after 5 years, he loved his gf and she just went....well he got a new gf and his ex actually came back and he turned her down, he is happily married. So there you go your theory flawed by fact. Getting dumped doesn't make you a loser it's just part of life, you need to learn not to define your whole life by your relationship.

[Ninja'sHusband]

That lying cheating piece of $&*^# is certainly not better than me and is definitely not with someone better than me. The OMM betrayed his family and mine just to get his jollies...he's a million miles below me and I don't really think she's with him anyway. If she's started seeing one of the kids(which is more likely) in her classes, HAH, they might be 10+ years younger than me and sexier but they are certainly not better people, and certainly couldn't provide her what I continue to provide even after the end of the relationship $$$. They'd be stupid to go for the cougar she's become.... and I know she's not happy. She's facing some of the scariest days of her life, and as of this weekend she's doing it alone since her parents went back home.

 

I don't know your sitch...but I'm betting it's not so black and white as you state.

Edited September 11, 2012 by Ninja'sHusband

[youngnlove89]

All this whining and moping and it gets us nowhere.

 

Our significant others left us because they were better than us, we weren't good enough for them, and we never will be.

 

You know why you're alone? Same reason I'm alone. Cause we fXXXing SUCK. The one you love is out there right now with someone else, someone BETTER, and there is not a god damn thing you can do about it.

 

They are not "coping." They are HAPPY. If you think they even took two seconds to regret their decision you're fooling yourself.

 

Everything we ever do, for the rest of our pathetic lives, was determined by someone else decided to leave our sorry asses.

 

Your ex-boyfriend doesn't text or call because he just plain DOESN'T LIKE YOU. Just like my ex-girlfriend doesn't give two ****s if I live or die...cause I am nothing to get...insignificant and worthless.

 

"Time heals all wounds." Horse ****. It does not. Nothing heals anything. There is no hope, there is no meaning, and there is no point in anything.

 

The end.

 

 

I started laughing the other day. I'm not particularly sure why, but I just couldn't stop. Someone said something that was slightly funny, and it just set me off. Soon, I was on the floor, my stomach in stiches and tears rolling down my face. Nobody else was laughing, and that made me laugh harder. Ten minutes later, when I regained my composure, I felt better than I had in weeks. Those crazy old people were right, laughter is the best medication.

 

I feel compassion towards your feelings. That must be horrible to feel so unsure and insecure of yourself. To have your destiny tied to someone who walked away. To slaughter your feelings and shorten yourself. To bash your being and lose all hope. To be your own worst enemy...

 

Me, on the other hand, I stay strong. Sure, I have my tough moments, but never have I ever put who I am down. I am the only person I can count on. I am the only person I can trust. I love me. And if my ex-bf doesn't, poo on him! Doesn't mean nobody else will. Heck, I have friends, family, and my dog who love me inside and out! That's all I need. I am confident, I know that I don't "suck" and I know that time does heal because I have chosen to make time heal. I have set my mind to let someone go when they don't want me. I choose happiness and I will set out to attain it.

 

Just because someone doesn't want me, doesn't mean my life is over. Love hurts when God knows you deserve better.

 

"We lose people we love because they are meant to love someone else. We lose them because we are destined to find somebody else. It is a simple fact that is sometimes hard to accept because we are too stupid to let go."

Edited September 12, 2012 by youngnlove89

[Pacman]

If I'm a loser for getting dumped then I don't want to be a winner.

 

I got dumped. Instead of whining and calling myself a loser I decided for the self-improvement route.

 

2 months later I met my new girlfriend and I've never been happier.

 

I'll be back in a couple of months on the coping section of loveshack.org once she dumps me though :lmao::lmao:

[Tree_Salmon]

This is a funny thread.

 

You're only a loser if you make yourself one.

 

I've dumped my ex because she changed into something I couldn't live with.

Anyone i chose now WILL be better, because that's how people should work.

 

As for her having a better life than me, no f***ing way. In fact, she told me this herself, as her man is lacking in every way(including sexually).

 

So even if I needed my ego boost, I got it from her.

 

As far as being superior on this site, what's the point?

 

I will agree that we all lost something important to us and that is why we are here. Just because some of you don't know how to deal with women doesn't mean all women are crazy. But i do like the funny rants i've read here. Very entertaining.

[Sameold]

You certainly are a loser if you go around calling yourself one! And if you truly believe you are then please focus on rebuilding your life so you don't define your whole life status alongside your success with women.