Problem: I have more talent in life, than my girl. . .Or so she says...

[supercool]

I'm not big-headed or conceited at all....very humble.

 

 

But i've been with my girl 4 years and were both 26. My problem is: We are a 24/7 kinda couple. We can be with

each other all the time, she enjoys being around me all the time and I do with her. Were like best friends. I know she

is the one for me. I want to ask her to marry me someday. But our drive in our careers differ very much.

 

I'M more of a go-getter and have goals and dreams and know what I want to do for a career.

 

SHE doesn't know yet, In fact, Sometimes she gets bummed out over it and makes comments about

how Talented she thinks i am and how she wishes she was talented like me. I always try to encourage her

to go out and try things, take classes (she's a great artist) But she lacks Motivation and lets it get her down.

 

Anyway, If anything, That's the only thing bad in our relationship, because since I know what I want, Sometimes

when I do "work" things weeknights or on the weekends, She's left alone. She has a few close friends like me

(were not real "Party-ers") But doesn't do anything else. She hints at marriage and a family a lot more lately.

I just don't want us to split because someday she'll become bored or feel like she never accomplished any goals

or dreams. She's not very good at talking about that serious type stuff cuz she says it just bums her out. She feels

Talentless she says. I don't want any jealousy or resentment in this relationship

[Pained]

I used to be like your girlfriend. Even though I had a LOT of potential, I was too scared to do anything with my life. I mean, I didn't even have a job or school or anything, and really bad credit (granted, this was all around eight years ago), and therefore my boyfriend became the center of my universe, partially because he WAS going places with his life. Part of me resented it, and part of me held onto him even tighter, because it felt like he was my ride, so to speak, and I wanted what he had. I did the same thing, pressuring marriage, wanting to get pregnant, etc. Thankfully he broke up with me, and I VERY slowly went about getting a life (it took me about three or four more years before I really did get started in earnest). Now I'm happy to say that I work at a very fulfilling job, have less than 10 months to go before my college graduation, have a LOT of friends and activities and hobbies, and my OWN goals. I wish I knew what to tell you. However, for her sake, you may want to take a break or, at the very least, pull back a bit and remind her of her own life.

[supercool]

That's the thing. . . .

 

 

We took a 3 month break(her decision) recently and She moved out. But realized that she just didn't want to lose our love relationship and

 

felt that, she could still discover herself and still figure out her career choice but still be in a relationship with me. So

 

We moved back in together in a new place. Anyway, It may have been a bad move or it may just be destiny or the

 

way it's supposed to be, because, we love each other a lot and have a great great relationship, otherwise.

 

I guess All i can do is continue to support her in her pursuit and time will tell if something needs to be done or

 

if things just aren't working out. Only thing is, I really do want to marry her. And i thought I would ask soon.

 

And I guess I just have been wondering if that is a good idea or not.