girio Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 I have been married for 19 years. It has been 5 months that my husband had an affair with another person. My kids and I moved out of state and it has been 3 weeks that we are separated. He called us 2 weeks ago that he said that he missed us and he said that he thinks that he wants to work it out. I told him that he has to stop the relationship with her. He said that he knows it. Since then he did not call me back for 1 week. Then last week he called us and he said that he wants to come back with us but he does not know WHEN. He has a lot of problems and he does not want to tell me. He said that he will come over and talk about it. I don't know if my husband still loves me. Everytime he calls me it will take a minute just to say "hello". It looks that he is avoiding to talk to me. If he really misses me, why did he not want to talk to me often and talk to me longer than one minute? He hurts me so much and he does not even say sorry for what he has done to me. Is it worth waiting? Any advice? Thanx. [color=violet]-girio[/color] Link to post Share on other sites
Paradise Posted July 24, 2004 Share Posted July 24, 2004 I encourage you to work things out between two of you. You may want to start looking into getting a divorce. Law in most State provide protection for the wife, so there will be child support and you'll have share of his assets and retirement. You may not think in that terms, but you are entitle to it. If he truly wants to get back together, he will come clean and talk to you. Don't give him that option of seeing his gf & you at the same time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author girio Posted July 27, 2004 Author Share Posted July 27, 2004 Thanks for your advice. You are right and that is what I want to do too. But there is a problem here. My husband is in the military for almost 20 years and his gf was one of his recruits. He is scared to break the relationship with her right away because she might turn him over and charge for fraternization. Definitely he will lose his job and retirement. He said that he wants to do it slowly so she won't get upset. I have known him for almost 22 years and he was a good and honest man. At this time, I don't know if he is telling the truth. He told me to give him some time. He told me that he should have communication with her so she won't tell to anybody about their relationship. There is a big problem too, she said that she is 4 months pregnant. My husband wants to see the baby as often as he can. He told that he will only visit the baby and there will no relationship with her. He wants to do his responsibility as a father for the baby. I want him back but I am confused. Any advice? Thanks again! Link to post Share on other sites
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