Tkay Posted July 22, 2004 Share Posted July 22, 2004 Hi everybody. I've been reading this newsletter with tips for dating by doubleyourdating.com. And just like I've read elsewhere they say a specific way to seduce a woman. I'm one of those "wussy sweet nice romantic" kinda types. They say this about this certain type. Why is it that so many guys act like WUSSIES around women? Well, there are a lot of reasons. For some guys, it's an AUTOMATIC, PROGRAMMED response. See cute girl, act like Wussbag. A lot of guys have learned that being "nice" to people makes them "like" you. Unfortunately, no one has ever told most of us guys that making a woman LIKE you isn't very important. Making a woman feel ATTRACTION for you IS. Evicting the "Inner Wussy" isn't always easy for guys. Some of us LOVE our Inner Wuss. We're proud of how sweet, thoughtful, loving, and clingy we are. Most guys think of their Inner Wuss in a POSITIVE LIGHT. We humans don't like to admit that what we've been doing for most of our lives was WRONG. That's another reason. What it takes for most guys is to SEE WITH THEIR OWN TWO EYES how NOT being a Wuss affects women... and how it makes women RESPOND differently. Once you realize how your Inner Wussy is making women RUN away from you, it gets easier to EVICT it. I was kind of shocked while reading this, because it perfectly describes me. I hate these players that just fool around with a girl and actually get her! But now he's telling me to do the same? Is that really necessary? Example: I like sending sweet SMSes to wish a girl good luck with a tennis match, exams, ... So this doesn't work? Also the forum member amerikanjin clames the same. He also believes you have to follow the game by the rules. I'm really confused/upset about this. What happened to true love? And only chasing the one you love? ... Greets, Thierry Link to post Share on other sites
dudesomewhere Posted July 22, 2004 Share Posted July 22, 2004 I'm a nice/good guy...I don't play the game. Though I will tell the avg guy to...because most ppl don't care who they are and so would give up themselves to get some action. Me? Nah. My goals in life are not to get all the women I can. It's all how much conviction you have in your heart. If you want lots of women be a scumbag and you'll get more than the days of the year can support (sure that's a bit exaggerating but not by much). Which is it you want? Lots of women or the occasional quality lady? Most guys want the quantity of course ...and sadly a lot of women don't mind being another number in that quantity...so it really is easy. Just a choice to make. I like being a wussy and tell women that...yeah they don't like hearing that I'm a wussy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tkay Posted July 22, 2004 Author Share Posted July 22, 2004 Originally posted by dudesomewhere I'm a nice/good guy...I don't play the game. Though I will tell the avg guy to...because most ppl don't care who they are and so would give up themselves to get some action. Me? Nah. My goals in life are not to get all the women I can. It's all how much conviction you have in your heart. If you want lots of women be a scumbag and you'll get more than the days of the year can support (sure that's a bit exaggerating but not by much). Which is it you want? Lots of women or the occasional quality lady? Most guys want the quantity of course ...and sadly a lot of women don't mind being another number in that quantity...so it really is easy. Just a choice to make. I like being a wussy and tell women that...yeah they don't like hearing that I'm a wussy. I don't want a big quantity, nor sometimes a quality lady. I just want the girl I love for as long as possible... Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted July 22, 2004 Share Posted July 22, 2004 Eh, it's important to recognize the boundaries. It's important to realize that even "true love" is destructible in a destructive situation. With women, you want to make them feel loved and cared for and we love sweet gestures. But you can't let her take your for granted and that's where the trouble comes in and balance is important. As long as you have your eye on what may come by always being there for her and watch to make sure she reciprocates, then you're okay in my book. If she doesn't reciprocate the sweet stuff satisfactorily, then by continuining to give & clingy & need you'll repell a woman no matter or in spite of of because of how sweet you always are. Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted July 22, 2004 Share Posted July 22, 2004 No no no no no Don't play the game. I'm a girl and I hate the "game" When you find a girl that likes you for you..you will see you won't need to play the game. Girls like guys that are real with them and honest. We do like "nice" and "sweet" guys. Some guys are just extreme and we feel smothered sometimes. The thing is you have to hold your own. Let them know your not playing games and that you have everything going for you and "you" are the one choosing to go after her and can change your mind at any given moment. Gilrs like confidence as well. As for sweet things my heart melts when my bf remembers I have a track meet and sends me a goodluck message. There's nothing wrong with that! Stay the way you are by being a jerk or scumbag you will only attract the wrong kind of women. By not being yourself you will get a woman thats thinks your the way you are and you will always have to put on a act and you will never be happy. Stay sweet please! Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted July 22, 2004 Share Posted July 22, 2004 Inner Wussie! LOLOLOL! ROTFLMAOWTIME!!!! :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: It's about BALANCE and true feelings. You can't 'feel' a prescribed way! You have to be YOU! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tkay Posted July 22, 2004 Author Share Posted July 22, 2004 thx a lot EtErNaLlYCoNfUsEd, I needed that!!! Still wondering what amerikanjin's answer is on this Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted July 22, 2004 Share Posted July 22, 2004 If you play games, you'll get yourself people who play games Be who you are. You only know you are really loved when you present your real self to someone else and allow that person to care about the real you. Otherwise, you have to keep up the fakeness forever - and that's no fun at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Curt Posted July 22, 2004 Moderators Share Posted July 22, 2004 Just be aware that finding the "right" woman for your "real" self, will take about 2 or 3 times as long as it would for you to find a gal that likes the drama. Lots of the ladies are into the "playa," because of the confidence and attraction that these dudes sometimes "drip" from every orifice in their person. Of course, when they get them and realize a number of those same "playas" are a**h***s as well...they're gone on to the next one. It's not a universal truth, just a noticed trend. Curt Link to post Share on other sites
mronederful Posted July 26, 2004 Share Posted July 26, 2004 you can prove the theory to yourself. find four girls that you sorta would like to date, be nice and sweet with two, and be a jerk to the other two, little things like not calling when you said you would, letting them open the door for you, even ask them to pay for dinner, stuff like that. see for yourself which two you can't get rid of. it's human nature, we want what we THINK we can't have. the two girls that know they can HAVE you won't be as interested in the two that know they can CHANGE you don't take my word for it, try it. you will be overwelmingly surprised at how easy it is. just like the lottery, you have to play if you want to win. don't be mean or anything, just preoccupied all the time. Link to post Share on other sites
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