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Hi, I have been reading posts for the the last few weeks and was wondering if there are any happy endings to any of your affairs with OM and OW. Whether it be you finally leaving the affair and finding peace within yourself or The MW or MM getting a divorce and coming back for you?

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Hi, I have been reading posts for the the last few weeks and was wondering if there are any happy endings to any of your affairs with OM and OW. Whether it be you finally leaving the affair and finding peace within yourself or The MW or MM getting a divorce and coming back for you?

 

I left an A with MM about a year and a half ago. I just decided that it wasn't where I wanted to be any longer, although I had been there for 7 years, off and on. I began to feel as if I was what was holding their M together, and I didn't want to do that for them any longer. It was hard to walk away, bc I did love him. But, I also knew that I wasn't doing them, or myself, any favors by staying. They needed to evaluate their marriage, and I was in the way of that by meeting his needs. I decided before I walked away that if they did or didn't evaluate their marriage, that was no business of mine, as I was removing myself from the situation.

 

It was hard, initially. I did miss him, of course, after all that time spent together. But it wasn't as hard as I thought it would be. And when I heard, a few months later, that he had a new OW, well, that was hard too. But again, not as hard as I had imagined. I got through it all relatively well, and got to a much better place in my own life. I took the lessons I had learned, the hard way, and put them into practice in my current life. I gave myself time to heal and when I felt healed I began to date. It was nice to be free of the relationship in a lot of ways, a huge weight off of my shoulders. I had always felt guilty, and that was relieved quite a bit bc I removed myself.

 

So, I guess that would be a happy ending for me. :) I feel stronger, and wiser, and more balanced and able to handle whatever comes my way.

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My exMM and I went it alone, so to speak, after a lot of trauma and difficulty. It was wonderful. It was so good for me to see that everything I had anticipated the relationship would be did actually come true. Sadly, work/location issues dealt us a blow and we couldn't stay together after about a year. I'm all for putting effort in to a relationship but that would have been truly impossible.

 

I was heartbroken. And I had a severe work situation at exactly the same time. Ended up poorly and depressed.

 

I reached out and got help in several forms, quit my job with nothing to go to and hoped for the best. I worked on myself emotionally and physically and eventually found a new job, which (apart from the pay packet!) suits me well, and met a new man. Never expected THAT. I'm very, very happy and am looking to *hopefully* marry and have children with him. It really is the best relationship I've ever had and I genuinely never knew it could be this easy.

 

Although it wasn't how I planned it, I definitely feel like I've bagged a happy ending!! :p

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I had a happy ending. When I got tired of the A I moved on.

 

His ending was less happy, because she kicked up and got them both fired but he chose to allow her to do that.

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I hesitate to say anything is a happy ending as we aren't at the end and happiness is relative :p but I am very happy in my relationship with him. We are now both divorced and engaged to be married. I love him at a level I have never loved another person and am humbled and awed that I have him in my life as my partner.

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I guess I'm in a tough spot because I want to move on, but I keep thinking maybe he will get the divorce since the marriage was over before I met him. I'm currently not talking to him until it happens (NC for 3 months now). I'm a little upset because I thought if I meant as much as he said I did he would have done something by now (separation, divorce) during our NC.

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My (non-married and otherwise unattached) boyfriend and I split up and I spent 10 months hoping to get back together. We've been dating the whole time since the break up but we are still not together, and I'm just now realizing that, despite him continuing to tell me he loves me and that he thinks we'll get back together someday and blah blah blah..saying all the right things, if he wanted to be with me, he'd be with me, and that's all there is to it.

 

Same goes for you, and anyone else. It all comes down to that. If he wanted to be with you, he'd be with you.

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My (non-married and otherwise unattached) boyfriend and I split up and I spent 10 months hoping to get back together. We've been dating the whole time since the break up but we are still not together, and I'm just now realizing that, despite him continuing to tell me he loves me and that he thinks we'll get back together someday and blah blah blah..saying all the right things, if he wanted to be with me, he'd be with me, and that's all there is to it.

 

Same goes for you, and anyone else. It all comes down to that. If he wanted to be with you, he'd be with you.

 

 

Do you think that maybe you should actually break-up with him? Continuing to "date" him after the break-up is not doing anything, but putting you in a position of comfort for him. He gets to have you with not commitments of a real relationship. Go NC.

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Do you think that maybe you should actually break-up with him? Continuing to "date" him after the break-up is not doing anything, but putting you in a position of comfort for him. He gets to have you with not commitments of a real relationship. Go NC.

 

Oh I know, I wasn't asking for advice. I was just giving you an example. I'm already in NC.

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This might not be the response you are looking for....but yes there was a happy ending in our case. My FWH chose to stay with me....his BW.

 

Why is it a happy ending? Because he did not break a home with 3 children in it. Because we are hard at work on making sure it does not happen again.

 

Would you like another happy ending? The MOW's BS also chose to work on their marriage even though she has had multiple affairs. While I had hoped (sad I know) her world would implode, I am glad they are trying because they also have three innocent kids.

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