seriously confused Posted July 22, 2004 Share Posted July 22, 2004 Well ok I will post about my pending dissilusion of my family. However it will be long. I met my guy in 2001. I was the bartender in a little bar and he was the bouncer. We were attached at the hips right off the bat. So we ended up together. I was so in love with him, that I never thought I would ever feel like that ever again. I then was informed that he had to go to london ontario to go to school. So we spent the weekend together in North bay, and on the monday I came back to ottawa and he went to london. I was so sad as I had just fought so hard to be with him, I finally got him and then he had to go away. Well, I was up there to be with him the next day. Neither of us seemed to like the fact that we were not together. I drove there and stayed with him while he was in school. We came back and forth to see family. We came back three months later, and for a crime I had commited while heavily addicted to crack, I was sent to jail for two months. I went for routine blood work the first day that I was there and was given a surprise. I was pregnant. Having to tell him through glass was very difficult. But he was happy as was I. We had allready bought a house so once I was out I went back home to enjoy our new home and our growing belly. I was pretty tierd through my pregnancy, and din't do too much. I suppose I should have cleaned more and done other stuff too. We ended up with a very healthy baby boy. And then we brought him home all of his room was not ready and he slept in our room. Time passed on and he was very cute and waking up all the time but at two months he was sleeping throught he night. And now begins the problems in our relationship. We started to argue about things. At the time he was working in a plant and doing night shifts alot. I was home with the baby. The times that he was home, he was outside doing things, and after a while I became very tierd. And very quickly. Now we will move on a bit to late last year. I found out that he went to see a lawyer. He told that he was just trying to find out what his rights were, in regards to this family. So he found that out and closed the file. Then I find out later on that he saw another lawyer, that began the process of seperation. I was told by him that he was taking me to court to try to get coustody of our son, and end our family. When I found that out, I pleaded with him to work with me to rebuild our relationship. He kept going to see his lawyer. now we are about to go through a seperation yet he still claims to love me and has said that maybe we will try to work this out. This post is long enough for now from.......................seriously confused....................... Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted July 22, 2004 Share Posted July 22, 2004 ...so, did he tell you why he wants to leave you? On what grounds is he seeking custody of your son? Where are you going to be during this separation? You are not married, correct? Link to post Share on other sites
Author seriously confused Posted July 25, 2004 Author Share Posted July 25, 2004 Well he says that I am not who I was when he first met me. But when he met me I was a dancer and he knew that he would have his hands full. He think that I am unable to take care of our son alone. He is a very complicated guy and I really wouldn't know where to begin. Seriously confused....................... Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted July 27, 2004 Share Posted July 27, 2004 I really wouldn't know where to begin. Oh okay, then neither would anyone on here, then, either. Link to post Share on other sites
supermom Posted July 27, 2004 Share Posted July 27, 2004 He would have to prove you to be an unfit mother..the children are generally given to the mother as far as I know. How are things going now? Is he willing to go to marriage counceling..? ARe you? Tell us more Link to post Share on other sites
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