When he loves his car more than his girlfriend...

[Ninjainpajamas]

Apparently, he did. We are committed to each other. He even mentioned of wanting many kids (16 boys and 8 girls, so that we can have 2 boys for each of our girls, exaggeration lol) that's why he wanted a bigger house. He did introduce me to his parents as "Mom, Dad, your future daughter-in-law".

 

Anyways, I think yeah it would be wise of me if I just don't take things too seriously. If I can't beat his car, I'll just join him in baby-ing it.

 

Just be careful DuchessKaye, this is extremely fast and emotions are at a height. Guys who like to drive this fast in the love lane...love to push it up to 200mph then suddenly jump out of the car making you think what happened...then he surprises you with a bombshell or some excuse as to why "things have changed".

 

This ain't your first Rodeo, so try to use your past experience to help you...I know new love always feels first and unique, but If you look at the world around you, It's just about going on everywhere, just at a different pace.

 

If I were you, from the sound of this guy, his demeanor and attitude that I'm getting from the vibe in which you are speaking about him (which women tend to be really honest and hang on every word of a man that they want to hear) then I'd be extremely cautious...guys that I know who have done this, did it with several women then backed away in the end, yet they make every woman feel like they're the first and very special.

 

Don't get caught with your gloves down, you might get knocked out!

 

Acknowledge the emotions that you have, but look for consistency and length of relationship. Give it time to marinate and just see what happens, everyone who knows about love knows how crazy and over the top It can feel in the beginning, especially If you're with intensely passionate people...I know this, because I used to be this way...at least I used to get whisked away in it while taking somebody with me...a man that knows what he is doing can have a remarkable amount of influence in how a woman feels and falls in love.

[SeattleBabe]

Listen to Ninja, cos many times he turns out to be correct.

 

Ok you're a smart girl but be careful with guy number 116. Lol.

[eleanorhurting]

Yes i was going to say the same thing DK.

 

I want you to be happy and I believe you deserve happiness but something seems a bit off. Obviously we don't know him and we are only getting a glimpse of the whole picture.

 

Could this guy have an ulterior motive for wanting to move so fast? I hope not but these are things to look out for.

[johan]

My guess is a 2000 Toyota Echo!

 

Probably a Scion of some sort.

[DuchessKaye]

Thanks for your concern, Eleonor. My heart refuses to believe that he's just after something why he wants to move so fast. He has been good to me, he has done so much favors for me and given me a lot of things. But of course, only time can tell, no worries, I'm watching out.

 

And Ninja, thanks for your input! I have been reading and admiring your wisdom that shines through your comments. You made a fan out of me.

[D'1ThatGotAway]

 

is this like another daddy/babygirl dynamic?

 

What happened to the saying that age doesn't matter?

7 years is not that of a huge gap though...

[D'1ThatGotAway]

Probably a Scion of some sort.

 

Or perhaps a car that turns into a robot. A girl robot.

[2.50 a gallon]

DK

 

I am sorry to say this is not a joking matter, he is serious.

 

It is mostly a guy thing, though there are a few women who have the bug. We're called gear heads and cars come first.

 

We come in many flavors. Some of us wash and wax our cars weekly, others detail and take them to car shows at some parking lot were they check out what the other have, in order to get new ideas as to change their car. Some have bondo and paint fumes in their blood. Some of us search out relics we can restore or hot rod. I myself loved the smell of nitro and burning rubber in my nose.

 

My guess is that coming from the Netherlands he has had more than one experience driving the German Autobahn, Disney World for us gear heads, and like me has experienced the high of driving at high speed.

 

As to the comment about the blow job, that person has never known the thrill of wheel to wheel competion at speed. For me there was no bigger high. The women, sex and bj's I could get any time of the week. It was only on weekends when I got a magic hour or two out on the track. It was during those few magical moments that I felt the most alive I have ever felt. For some of us there is no cure.

 

I finally out grew it and threw in the towel at age 35, when I married the Ex and had to accept the fact that I was too old to make the big time, and that I could no longer through away thousands of dollars for my weekend high.

 

Racing was was one of the reasons I couldn't commit setting the date with my Ex-fiance when I was still in my late 20's. Even though the sex was fantastic it never come close to the feeling I felt behind the wheel at speed. I could work 10 hours a day or more, and go straight to a the garage to work on the car. Many a time she woke me up when she came by at 3 in morning and I was sound asleep on the cement floor under the car.

 

It is something most women can never understand. My sister for example saw how it affected me, but still chose to marry her second husband another gear head. After 10 years she finally gave it up, as he was spending all of his money on more cars. He loved her, but not enough to quit. I am envious of him as I have recently heard that he is still driving every Saturday night, and he is in his 70's.

 

As I said previously there is no cure, I have now been in a long term loving relationship with a hawt gal 8 years younger than me for the past 17 years. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me. In the looks department she is totally out of my league. And at the same time is the most loving giving person I have ever met. But I would throw it all away in a second even knowing that I would never date again, if given the opportunity to park a Cobra or a Ford GT40 in my garage. In fact give me the choice between a young Marilyn Monroe or a young Elizabeth Taylor, and even throw in a young Sophia Loren, it would be not contest, the car would always win.

 

I am now retired, but still to this day, when things start getting to me, the best cure, is a hot lap down the freeway.

 

And this behavior is not limited to car lovers, but also motorcycles, rock climbing, sky diving, even fly fishing and bow hunting. For the women who love us, they will always come in second.

Edited September 12, 2012 by 2.50 a gallon

[D'1ThatGotAway]

DK

 

I am sorry to say this is not a joking matter, he is serious.

 

As I said previously there is no cure, I have now been in a long term loving relationship with a hawt gal 8 years younger than me for the past 17 years. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me. In the looks department she is totally out of my league. And at the same time is the most loving giving person I have ever met. But I would throw it all away in a second even knowing that I would never date again, if given the opportunity to park a Cobra or a Ford GT40 in my garage. In fact give me the choice between a young Marilyn Monroe or a young Elizabeth Taylor, and even throw in a young Sophia Loren, it would be not contest, the car would always win.

 

I am now retired, but still to this day, when things start getting to me, the best cure, is a hot lap down the freeway.

 

And this behavior is not limited to car lovers, but also motorcycles, rock climbing, sky diving, even fly fishing and bow hunting. For the women who love us, they will always come in second.

 

 

Hayyys...

 

 

Edited September 12, 2012 by D'1ThatGotAway

[mitchell]

Have you had sex in the car yet?

 

Lean yourself over the hood and have him f*@k you nice and hard on top of the car. Then look at him and tell to stop making silly comments about his car.

[KungFuJoe]

Have you had sex in the car yet?

 

Lean yourself over the hood and have him f*@k you nice and hard on top of the car. Then look at him and tell to stop making silly comments about his car.

 

And possibly dent the fiberglass hood? Are you out of your freakin mind?!?!?

[Quiet Storm]

My husband is really into his car, his "import tuner". He calls it a "she", too.

 

I view it as a hobby and his passion, and I don't get offended about it. I go to car shows with him and I'll pick up the magazines for him at the grocery store. I've taken artsy pics of "her" for him because I'm a better photographer than he is.

 

I think it's cute. The way he drives her is sexy. The way she sounds is sexy. I like the way she announces his arrival. We'll hear that throaty vrooom coming down the street and the kids will scream "Daddy's home!".

[DuchessKaye]

Thanks for the input, you all

 

I just told him my REAL feelings about this and I will just see how he will respond to it and how much he is willing to do to make our relationship better and stronger.

 

I still like to believe that no matter how much he loves his car, he will still choose me. And I really don't think we will ever come to the point where the only way to solve this is to ask him "The car or me?". No way I'm letting that to happen.

 

And I just realized how much things I can give him more than his car can. Ok, he loves his car and he likes to ride it but can his car ride him? Lol.

 

But seriously though, car does not bore me, I love cars too! And I guess, the fact that he shows me off just the way he shows off his car. He waxes me just the way he waxes it. He spends money and time on me much more than he spends money and time on it so I guess, maybe I was just being sensitive and touchy about this comments before and maybe it's really much better for me to not spoil his fun...

 

Well maybe let's just see how things will go.

[F24USA]

OP, I hear you!

 

My ex was exactly like that! He loved his car so much and yeah even his dogs! There weren't just few moments were he made it clear, that he loved them so much and that they were his BABY GIRLS. I didn't want to deal with a guy like that so I ran for the hills and never looked back...

[johan]

I agree it would be a problem if his feelings for his car were stronger than his feelings for you, but I doubt that's the case. I suggest you let him spend the money on his car and don't really mention it too much. Except maybe tease him about it if you want.