hardlybreathing Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 Curious, do you think God places a person in your life for you to marry? Chance meeting perhaps and you just knew he was the one? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 Absolutely not. With over 50% of marriages ending in divorce, God must be a practical joker. I've also had God "put" someone in my life who I thought would be perfect for me, and she had no interest in dating at all. I guess God forgot to check that before he had us meet. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
denise_xo Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 No, I don't think so. I think that there are a variety of potentially well fitted partners out there, and then it's a bit accidental who we end up with. The 'accidental' factor is soon taken over by a 'work hard on the relationship' factor. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 As I am God's gift to men, I don't think even I can spread myself that thinly. My three husbands have all been blessed with my presence and their lives honestly much improved. I can modestly say that..... 7 Link to post Share on other sites
SeattleBabe Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 Errr, no... God does not bring people together... we chose our own partners for one reason or another. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hardlybreathing Posted September 13, 2012 Author Share Posted September 13, 2012 As I am God's gift to men Sorry, you cannot possibly be because that spot has already been taken by Me of course Just ask my former husbands. Of course they admitted that when I was walking out the door Seriously, sometimes I wonder just how people meet and what causes them to want to pursue a relationship. Was it devine intervention or rather a personal choice. Just pondering....... Link to post Share on other sites
denise_xo Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 Sorry, you cannot possibly be because that spot has already been taken by Me of course Just ask my former husbands. Of course they admitted that when I was walking out the door Seriously, sometimes I wonder just how people meet and what causes them to want to pursue a relationship. Was it devine intervention or rather a personal choice. Just pondering....... I think the feeling of 'divine intervention' is facilitated by the so called love chemicals. Just enjoy them while they last. Now, I don't think anyone has really cracked the code of why we are attracted to person X instead of person Y. There are some 'spiritual' approaches that frame it as souls you met in previous lives and that kind of stuff. Until I see better evidence, I'll stick with the randomness theory 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Titanwolf Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 If he did, it would contradict the free will he gave us. Being a Deist, I believe that God has left us to our own devices and the events that occur (bar natural forces) are the result of free wills, intertwining. Though it may seem like "fate", I don't believe it is. I'm still not convinced that God is involved with our world. We live, we die and perhaps then we're allowed to meet our maker, but the in-between is down to the choices the each individual makes everyday. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BetheButterfly Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 Curious, do you think God places a person in your life for you to marry? Chance meeting perhaps and you just knew he was the one? I believe God put my husband and me together. We were both praying and asking God for our soulmates and both striving to live according to God's Word and He answered with bringing us together on plentyoffish.com lol!!! God works in mysterious ways! One of my favorite stories in the Bible is how Isaac and Rebekah got together, accounted in Genesis 24. Now, it's not all that romantic. Fact is, it sounds downright old-fashioned because in that time and culture, marriages were arranged by the parents. However, I do think that Isaac and Rebekah were very much in love and had a great marriage, though they both were very different and were not perfect. My husband and I are very different from each other and aren't perfect either, but I thank God everyday for bringing us together (he does too... we pray together which is how I know) and we are falling more and more in love with each other each day, which is hard cause we were head over heads in love when we finally met face-to-face for the first time!!! 9 Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 If he does, he's been doing a shi+ job of it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TheFinalWord Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 Curious, do you think God places a person in your life for you to marry? Chance meeting perhaps and you just knew he was the one? I think there are many people we meet that God would say "okay you can marry them". From a Christian perspective, here is a good outline of criteria. 1) marry a believer 2) have a common vision for life 3) both should be emotional healthy If the person we are interested in lines up, then it is okay. It is our choice. Pastor Rick Warren gave a great sermon on this a couple months ago Enjoy. Finding The Love Of Your Life 5 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 I think God has a hand in everything that happens in our lives. I also believe that the good people in our lives are a Gift from God. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
mercy Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 Yes, He does! He gifted me with the kindest most loving man I've ever met. He was a prayed for husband and I adore him! Of course he is a man....and God does have a sense of humor. nuff' said. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 Curious, do you think God places a person in your life for you to marry? Chance meeting perhaps and you just knew he was the one? Only god knows.One day ill get to ask him and say thanks for all he has done for me up close and personal but if I haven't found my partner I would still thank him anyway for every little slice of happiness that has come my way.I have met someone and had feelings from the start just something I cant explain .I am an extremely cautious person normally I develop feelings out of knowing a person for a long time(even then I have had my heart broken) i have no idea where these strong feelings came from I even try to analize them and say it is because of this or that....i don't know in all honesty.....but i thank god any way for his sense of humour in driving me insane with my over analysis....God only knows.We can always dream and hope that this is true a matter of faith i guess...If you believe and you have faith and find strength in that belief in your heart and your purpose in life.....then that is truth..truth to me lies in faith and my conviction that god guides in all aspects of my life........deb 4 Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 I believe that God put Britney Spears and Jason Alexander together for their 52 hour marriage. We don't always see God's wonderful plan but we must trust it is there. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 Curious, do you think God places a person in your life for you to marry? Chance meeting perhaps and you just knew he was the one? Yes. I, myself, prayed to God that I would find a good guy after I ended a relationship that wasn't right for me. Sure enough, He did provide me with someone who had many wonderful qualities, who was a Christian man who I ended up marrying, and have been happily married to for many years. My sister, also, found a man that she believes was brought into her life by God. She had dated several men after her divorce, and was talked into having sex early on in these relationships. Each of those relationships failed. She then decided that she was done with the disobedience to God, and she vowed she wasn't going to be sexual with these guys she dates anymore. Sure enough, very shortly after repenting and coming to that decision, God brought the most perfect man for her into her life who had similar values, and she married him. They are very happy together. God does reward obedience, and He does bring the right person into your life when He feels you are ready for it. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted September 14, 2012 Share Posted September 14, 2012 Well as of now God hasn't done poop to help my life out any so... I'm going to go with no. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted September 14, 2012 Share Posted September 14, 2012 I've been praying to God since I was 16 that I would meet a good girl that I would eventually marry. 31 and I'm still single. On that note, my Mom has been praying to meet somebody since she divorced my dad. Over 20 years later, she's still single as well. Maybe God needs a hearing aid? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TheFinalWord Posted September 14, 2012 Share Posted September 14, 2012 (edited) I've been praying to God since I was 16 that I would meet a good girl that I would eventually marry. 31 and I'm still single. On that note, my Mom has been praying to meet somebody since she divorced my dad. Over 20 years later, she's still single as well. Maybe God needs a hearing aid? Hey Somedude, Just gonna be blunt here. If you are praying to God, I am assuming you want a godly wife? Sorry but if you're saying things like "God needs a hearing aid", then Him denying you a godly woman is Him doing some good, godly woman a major favor. You are not ready to be the spiritual leader with that attitude. "Understand, ye brutish among the people: and ye fools, when will ye be wise? He that planted the ear, shall he not hear? he that formed the eye, shall he not see? He that chastiseth the heathen, shall not he correct? he that teacheth man knowledge, shall not he know? The Lord knoweth the thoughts of man, that they are vanity." How to Identify a Real Man - YouTube Is He Willing to Fight For You? - YouTube Hook Up, Shack Up, Break Up - YouTube PS: Lots of other variables to consider here. But before going any further, we need to address spiritual maturity. No reason for God to give you a godly woman if you do not have a heart for Him. If you don't want a godly woman, then why are you praying to God for? Just follow the advice in the dating forum to hook up, shack up, break up repeat. Edited September 14, 2012 by TheFinalWord 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Teknoe Posted September 14, 2012 Share Posted September 14, 2012 Hey Somedude, Just gonna be blunt here. If you are praying to God, I am assuming you want a godly wife? Sorry but if you're saying things like "God needs a hearing aid", then Him denying you a godly woman is Him doing some good, godly woman a major favor. You are not ready to be the spiritual leader with that attitude. "Understand, ye brutish among the people: and ye fools, when will ye be wise? He that planted the ear, shall he not hear? he that formed the eye, shall he not see? He that chastiseth the heathen, shall not he correct? he that teacheth man knowledge, shall not he know? The Lord knoweth the thoughts of man, that they are vanity." How to Identify a Real Man - YouTube Is He Willing to Fight For You? - YouTube Hook Up, Shack Up, Break Up - YouTube PS: Lots of other variables to consider here. But before going any further, we need to address spiritual maturity. No reason for God to give you a godly woman if you do not have a heart for Him. If you don't want a godly woman, then why are you praying to God for? Just follow the advice in the dating forum to hook up, shack up, break up repeat. I am familiar with SD and he has revealed a great deal of his personality and priorities throughout his 1000s and 1000s of posts. He might have been praying to God since 16 for a girlfriend, but he hasn't been walking the walk (as a Godly man or even someone who tries). God is not a genie! Never has been, never will be. The Bible is clear we must pray IN LINE with God's will. SD's motives are spotty, at best. Sorry to be blunt, but there's a reason why your prayers have gone unanswered. You are not even trying to walk as Christ. It's all about GF GF GF GF for him, and that's it. No wonder nothing has happened. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted September 14, 2012 Share Posted September 14, 2012 Hey Somedude, Just gonna be blunt here. If you are praying to God, I am assuming you want a godly wife? Sorry but if you're saying things like "God needs a hearing aid", then Him denying you a godly woman is Him doing some good, godly woman a major favor. You are not ready to be the spiritual leader with that attitude. No reason for God to give you a godly woman if you do not have a heart for Him. If you don't want a godly woman, then why are you praying to God for? Just follow the advice in the dating forum to hook up, shack up, break up repeat. Cause and effect. Because X did or did not happen, Y occurred. In other words, I used to be young and faithful. After many years of nothing happening. That faith turned to doubt and cynicism. Am I supposed to get by on blind faith till the day I die? Link to post Share on other sites
taiko Posted September 14, 2012 Share Posted September 14, 2012 If it wasn't for people who believed in God meeting together the information passed along that got me my job may have never reached me. If my victim did not come to belief in God and forgave me I might not have found myself living where I was when I started giving my future wife's aunt a ride to work. If my wife did not retain her faith, while being a single parent in a land which still had the reputation, even if its false:o of women being virgins upon marriage I would have bounced because by that time I was looking for a Christian specifically. That being said free will still comes into play. He can set the conditions but we still have to make it work Link to post Share on other sites
TheFinalWord Posted September 14, 2012 Share Posted September 14, 2012 Cause and effect. Because X did or did not happen, Y occurred. In other words, I used to be young and faithful. After many years of nothing happening. That faith turned to doubt and cynicism. Am I supposed to get by on blind faith till the day I die? You can dwell on the past, or you can dwell on the future. Your choice. If you want to abandon God b/c He didn't give you a wife by age x then that's your decision. Point is you are trying to strong arm God, "if you don't do X then I won't follow you". If you know God, you know it doesn't work that way. Does He strong arm you? Accept me or I'm going to blast you. No you've mocked Him a couple times in this thread and your heart is still beating. Good thing God doesn't hold you to the criteria you hold Him too. God is faithful, unlike us. I'm not trying to beat you up, we all fall short, But if you want a godly wife, first thing is you need to get right with God. Otherwise, the same point still remains: you're not ready to be a spiritual leader in a godly marriage. You've taken the matter into your own hands. That's okay, but it's not God's fault if it doesn't go the way you want. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted September 14, 2012 Share Posted September 14, 2012 What if you don't want a "Godly" partner because I mean that isn't necessarily on my list of things it would be great if he believed but my ex wasn't super godly and he was perfect for me Link to post Share on other sites
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted September 14, 2012 Share Posted September 14, 2012 Then, I assume you wouldn't be praying for him? If it's not high on your list, then that's fine of course, but there'd be no reason to pray for God to bring someone less than His standard into your life. I mean I do.. Well did pray for one, I stopped praying because it didn't work so maybe I do need to just take matters into my own hands because waiting on god Is kind of pointless 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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