Exit Posted September 29, 2012 Share Posted September 29, 2012 I haven't followed your whole story, just replying based on your last two posts. You say you're trying not to appear too interested, but you're leaving notes on her car? You're doing the sappy romance movie stuff that we've all been silly enough to believe is effective at one point or another in our lives. Sounds to me like you're just getting into the fast lane to the friend zone by leaving her emotional little notes like that. Also when I scroll up to your previous post, she actually said to you not to get your hopes up that you are getting back together, so why are you wasting any time on this? A girl would not say that even if she was 50/50 undecided, she would let you have all the false hope in the world that she might want you back, because that would make her job easier as well. For her to actually come out and say don't bother hoping for that... believe it. Also, talk about putting someone on a pedestal, you talk about trying to make plans with her like you're handling a nuclear bomb. You don't have to be that careful. Either agree that you guys are going to be adults and meet up, or forget it. Making plans for Halloween? That means for 30 more days you're gonna keep doing these little bursts of communication and keep getting your hopes up that something is going to happen, all to find out that it probably won't. You're pulling this bandaid off as sloooow as possible and enjoying the agony of every hair that gets pulled out. Either make plans and meet up to see if it works or not, or decide that it's not a good idea. You will go crazy thinking about it until Halloween rolls around. I agree with what Calico said on Sep 21st, nothing I'm saying here is meant to be mean or make you feel bad, I just don't want to see you get hurt. I have been in a very similar situation before where a girl dumped me but eventually got back in touch and left me in the torturous "are we friends or getting back together?" realm for 4 months. That was the worst experience of my life. Every day waking up and tearing my hair about about if I should talk to her, what I should say to her, how to analyze every microscopic move to maximize my chance of getting back together with her. And we even did end up reconciling for a few months and I would still say it wasn't worth it. I would love to hear that you walked away and are going to do something more useful with your Halloween plans but the choice is yours. You can only do what feels right. Unfortunately what feels right isn't always right when our judgment is so clouded by missing someone. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Pacman Posted September 30, 2012 Share Posted September 30, 2012 Man, the way your acting makes you seem like a pansy. No woman wants a pansy. Get a back-bone, drop her and make her miss you! You are not going to win her back by being her back up. She's going to take you for granted. She already told you don't get your hopes up! It's only going to hurt more when you meet up for coffee and she tells you she's met someone. But I get it, I was there once. I went through the whole thing of trying to get her back, thinking shes the ones, thinking that no other girl compares. Easier said that done. My ex still texts me here and there. Telling me she misses me. I delete it ASAP and don't give it a 2nd thought. I just think to myself, you negative thoughts of her. Like her banging a guy as a one night stand, guy leaves, she feels used - texts me "I miss you". Piss the **** off! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author TooHonest123 Posted September 30, 2012 Author Share Posted September 30, 2012 Dammit ... Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted September 30, 2012 Share Posted September 30, 2012 I'm not commenting on this thread any more, but I'm just waiting for the inevitable 'car-crash' moment, when it all hits the wall at stupid-miles-an-hour. Then, I'll come back in. Carry on TooHonest123, speed's gathering nicely..... Link to post Share on other sites
Alban Posted September 30, 2012 Share Posted September 30, 2012 You're ****ed bro, YOU ARE TRULY ****ED Link to post Share on other sites
hrtbroken Posted September 30, 2012 Share Posted September 30, 2012 bro, do what you gotta do. you still got some fight left in you, so maybe you'll be able to move on once you get your balls completely crushed. a lot of us know why you're doing it and not one of us can blame you. it's just something we all have to go through and learn from at some point. you still have a chance to minimize the damage from breaking NC with her, but if you continue on, you'll be setting yourself for pain you wouldn't wish on your worst enemy. good luck man, all of us are behind you no matter what happens. stay safe Link to post Share on other sites
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