Ladydrib Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 You need water. You are so thirsty and you come upon a well. It's perfect. It's clean, you like the way it works, it's the answer to all you've been looking for. It will quench your thirst and so flawlessly. You look inside and the water is glistening. It as if it is making a promise to meet all your expectations. You know it will take work but you are so excited to have found such an opportunity. You get to work. You drop the bucket down to get some of it's water and you work, work, work, with total faith it will be perfect. You pull the bucket up and it's empty. You are disappointed. You didn't get what you want. You spent effort and time. You were so sure the water was down there. You feel a little stupid. But then you start to wonder, "maybe it is perfect?" "maybe I did something wrong.". You look down the well again and you still see the water. You say, "okay, I did something wrong. I'm still so thirsty and all I need to do is try again." so you do it again. You will keep doing it until you identify that it mearly looks like the water is there. It's actually a mirage, but until you see that you will keep trying. Once you notice the well is dead, dry, and a trap, you can move along, accept the lost time, don't be hard on yourself, and maybe find some real water. Link to post Share on other sites
Radagast Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 You need water. You are so thirsty and you come upon a well. It's perfect. It's clean, you like the way it works, it's the answer to all you've been looking for. It will quench your thirst and so flawlessly. You look inside and the water is glistening. It as if it is making a promise to meet all your expectations. You know it will take work but you are so excited to have found such an opportunity. You get to work. You drop the bucket down to get some of it's water and you work, work, work, with total faith it will be perfect. You pull the bucket up and it's empty. You are disappointed. You didn't get what you want. You spent effort and time. You were so sure the water was down there. You feel a little stupid. But then you start to wonder, "maybe it is perfect?" "maybe I did something wrong.". You look down the well again and you still see the water. You say, "okay, I did something wrong. I'm still so thirsty and all I need to do is try again." so you do it again. You will keep doing it until you identify that it mearly looks like the water is there. It's actually a mirage, but until you see that you will keep trying. Once you notice the well is dead, dry, and a trap, you can move along, accept the lost time, don't be hard on yourself, and maybe find some real water. A mirage inside a well seems most unlikely, since a mirage is the result of heat and light, as described by Wikipedia: Cold air is more dense than warm air and has therefore a greater refractive index. As light passes from colder air across a sharp boundary to significantly warmer air, the light rays bend away from the direction of the temperature gradient. When light rays pass from hotter to cooler, they bend toward the direction of the gradient. If the air near the ground is warmer than that higher up, the light ray bends in a concave, upward trajectory. Once the rays reach the viewer’s eye, the visual cortex interprets it as if it traces back along a perfectly straight "line of sight". This line is however at a tangent to the path the ray takes at the point it reaches the eye. The result is that an "inferior image" of the sky above appears on the ground. The viewer may incorrectly interpret this sight as water which is reflecting the sky, which is, to the brain, a more reasonable and common occurrence. So if you saw what appeared to be water at the bottom of a well, it's unlikely to be a mirage and more likely to be a liquid of some kind. Link to post Share on other sites
veryhappy Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 lol...she doesn't have to check of physics agree with her. It's just a metaphor and most people will get what she's saying. It could be a product of the mind - you want so much to see that clear water, that the brain alone makes up the image and ignores the sounds of the bucket hitting hard rock. It's about hoping to get what you want, and thinking it will be one real, and you try and try, and try and at some point realize that it's time to stop trying. May I point to my signature? It's hard to let go of the dreams, realize they were a mirage and move on. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 Isnt OP speaking metaphorically? I dont think she asking how it is possible for a bucket to come up empty from a working well. I think she is using the bucket to symbolize her heart and the well that looks full but isnt to represent a mistaken source of love/fulfillment. But I didnt do well in school, so maybe not. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ladydrib Posted September 13, 2012 Author Share Posted September 13, 2012 A mirage inside a well seems most unlikely, since a mirage is the result of heat and light, as described by Wikipedia: So if you saw what appeared to be water at the bottom of a well, it's unlikely to be a mirage and more likely to be a liquid of some kind. Scientifically speaking, you don't have enough information in this story to make that determination. Emotionally speaking, this captures the feelings that hold some people in a bad place. It helps me to think of it that way, perhaps it will help someone else too. And this obviously was the point. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 It's even worse when you find the water in the well is just someone taking the pi$$.... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Fitz Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 (edited) You need water. You are so thirsty and you come upon a well. It's perfect. It's clean, you like the way it works, it's the answer to all you've been looking for. It will quench your thirst and so flawlessly. You look inside and the water is glistening. It as if it is making a promise to meet all your expectations. You know it will take work but you are so excited to have found such an opportunity. You get to work. You drop the bucket down to get some of it's water and you work, work, work, with total faith it will be perfect. You pull the bucket up and it's empty. You are disappointed. You didn't get what you want. You spent effort and time. You were so sure the water was down there. You feel a little stupid. But then you start to wonder, "maybe it is perfect?" "maybe I did something wrong.". You look down the well again and you still see the water. You say, "okay, I did something wrong. I'm still so thirsty and all I need to do is try again." so you do it again. You will keep doing it until you identify that it mearly looks like the water is there. It's actually a mirage, but until you see that you will keep trying. Once you notice the well is dead, dry, and a trap, you can move along, accept the lost time, don't be hard on yourself, and maybe find some real water. This is a great metaphor! And I don't want to open a can of worms, but it can also be applied to married couples. In other words, the mirage is anyone who is misrepresenting who they are. The mirage is simply a metephor for deception. In this interpretation, the faithfulness of a wayward spouse is the mirage seen by the betrayed spouse. And so the betrayed spouse can also be challenged with the frustrating conundrum of a dry or unfulfilling well. Edited September 13, 2012 by Fitz 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ladydrib Posted September 13, 2012 Author Share Posted September 13, 2012 This is a great metaphor! And I don't want to open a can of worms, but it can also be applied to married couples. In other words, the mirage is anyone who is misrepresenting who they are. The mirage is simply a metephor for deception. In this interpretation, the faithfulness of a wayward spouse is the mirage seen by the betrayed spouse. Thank you :-) And btw, I did mean it both ways. Married or affair. I had no idea anyone would catch that. I like the way your mind works! As applied to marriage, I had a different perspective though. It was not about deception, rather about seeing the good in your spouse and trying again and again to make it work, but in reality, there is something big missing and it will never work and sometimes you have to accept the well is truly empty and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ladydrib Posted September 13, 2012 Author Share Posted September 13, 2012 Thank you :-) And btw, I did mean it both ways. Married or affair. I had no idea anyone would catch that. I like the way your mind works! As applied to marriage, I had a different perspective though. It was not about deception, rather about seeing the good in your spouse and trying again and again to make it work, but in reality, there is something big missing and it will never work and sometimes you have to accept the well is truly empty and move on. Ultimately our perceptions and beliefs are all our decisions to make. Our own responsibilities. We can be influenced by others, but we make the final decision as to how we will see things. I spend a lot of time seeing things that are not there in any situation. It's almost as if I think if I believe it enough, it will become true. Maybe this is a lesson I can take with me. Not to deceive myself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
frozensprouts Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 your metaphor can really be applied to any life situation... sometimes we can want something so badly that we, without realizing it, fool ourselves into seeing something that really isn't there... like in that wizard of oz movie...look behind the curtain and see that what we thought was awesome and wonderful turns out to be not very awe inspiring at all... Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 It's even worse when you find the water in the well is just someone taking the pi$$.... I am sorry but lmfao! :laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 I am sorry but lmfao! :laugh: So did I! Good thing I wasn't drinking coffee! Link to post Share on other sites
LoveTKO Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 You think it's a well with fresh water until you encounter that Babe Ruth chocolate bar floating, like that pool scene from Caddyshack. Link to post Share on other sites
SunsetRed Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 WOW thank you, this perfectly describes the saga of being w a MM. Link to post Share on other sites
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