how do i get him out of my head?

[jayc]

One and half years ago, I met a guy, Jason who I dated for five months. He was the closest thing I ever had to a relationship(I didn't fall in love tho). However, I met him when he had only broken up with the love of his life for one month. I knew that I could have been a rebound, but took my chances. When we were dating, he would often mention the ex, and I knew they were talking on the phone.

 

Anyway, I had to end things when it was apparent he was not ready to date me or have a real relationship. We didn't talk for eight months, but recently I renewed a friendship.

When I see Jason in person, I don't have any feelings of attraction. And I know now, that we aren't even right for each other. Anyway, he mentions his ex in every conversation we have, not that he says he misses her, but mentions her in the context of the conversation. This still gets me worked up! I belive he is still in love with his ex.

 

Also, I think about Jason everyday still! Not about getting back together, but the thought of him comes up at least once a day. I don't understand this, since it has almost been two years? Is it normal? In the meantime, I haven't really dated anyone else, so maybe it will take the next guy to get this current one out of my head?

 

I just want to know if I need to seek help, or if this will just take more time than I thought.

 

thanks!

[aFighter]

It does sound like you're obsessing a bit here. I don't know about seeking professional help, I wouldn't personally.

It's ok to think of some I guess if it doesn't interfere with your work/home life?

Is it causing you problems apart from having not dated anyone else since?

[jayc]

oh thinking about him hasnt' stopped me from leadinga normal life.

i just haven't met anyone that i want to date.

 

the weird thing is, i really don't want to get back with him.

just that i'm so used to thinking about jason everyday, it's become a bad habit.

does that make sensE?

i recently went traveling for 4 months and i thought about him fleetingly.

but now that i'm back at home, i think about him more because i have more time too.

 

it's just weird that i can't get him out of my head after all this time.

 

do you think, it's just what it is? a bad habit? that hopefully will die when i meet the next guy or with more time?

[aFighter]

Well you know the saying about idle hands are the devil's work, well I believe the same goes for your mind. You weren't thinking about him much at all when you were away & busy, now you're home again and your mind keeps wandering to him.

 

I think yeah it's just a bad habit. It'll pass in time.