happybeingme Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 Not sure I can do the "dating" thing again. I was married for 14 years, and together with my ex husband a total of 16 years. We've been separated/divorcing for 18 months. I have no feelings for him left, and it was my decision to end the marriage. We have two children, and we share custody equally - so half of my time is without my children. Here's the thing. I just don't think I can do the "dating" thing again. I was TERRIBLE at it the first time around and can't even imagine opening up to someone again. The failure of my marriage has really been a hit to my self esteem. I do have friends, but hate to feel like I rely on them so much for companionship. I have a very close FWB and we spend a great deal of time together, but that isn't going to last forever. How do you make the transition to single? Most of my women friends are married and very involved with their families. My single friends are men and I tend to not spent lots of time with any one in particular (except the FWB). I just can't imagine meeting someone new ... or even trying to meet someone. Is this normal? Will it ever get better? I'm terrified that I will wind up being dis-connected. Link to post Share on other sites
aFighter Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 How do you make the transition to single? One step at a time. Don't feel like you're pressured into anything, you're not. Just do what you feel like doing I guess. You have a lot of free time now & it's finding something to fill this time is the trick. Take up a hobby, do you like to walk, paint, do photography or anything? Do you cycle? Stuff like that. Is this normal? Will it ever get better? Yes it is perfectly normal. You're bound to feel a little uneasy at first, you're more or less out on the open sea again after been safe in the harbor for so long & there's nothing wrong with that. It will get better and your self esteem will return with a vengance You just never know when that next chance encounter will happen or one of you're friends go "I'd like to introduce you to someone..." The main thing is not to fall into the self doubt trap. Get out there and enjoy life, the past is exactly that - The Past. Now it's time for you to enjoy your future Link to post Share on other sites
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