Chunky Posted September 14, 2012 Share Posted September 14, 2012 I met this nice lady on a dating web site. The problem is that she lives 70 miles away. Do you think that is to far away to have a relationship? It takes about an hour and a half to get there, so it's not like it's thousands of miles or something. I just wanted some advice. Thank you! Link to post Share on other sites
PepperPotts Posted September 14, 2012 Share Posted September 14, 2012 Nope, especially not in the beginning. You met on a dating site, so you can begin by messaging back and forth. You can meet on the weekends, which will be perfect for a few months anyway. It's definitely not too far away to start a relationship. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted September 14, 2012 Share Posted September 14, 2012 Ironic... I initially dismissed a guy from a dating site as he was 69.8 miles from me. That was a year ago and we are going strong - to the extent that I am job-hunting in preparation of moving in his direction. He was the one who convinced me (after he had tried several out-of-state and cross-country relationships), that 70 miles was nothing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted September 14, 2012 Share Posted September 14, 2012 Only you can answer this question, is it too far for *you*? I met this nice lady on a dating web site. The problem is that she lives 70 miles away. Do you think that is to far away to have a relationship? It takes about an hour and a half to get there, so it's not like it's thousands of miles or something. I just wanted some advice. Thank you! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
oldskl Posted September 14, 2012 Share Posted September 14, 2012 I'm about to face the same thing, only 55 miles apart and am not phased. I spent 3 years doing 108 miles each way every weekend and that was doable. The way I see it, if things progress in a few months you will no doubt be spending full weekends staying over, so the distance is massively reduced in terms of intensity. It's not like you are driving that far for 3 hours visit every time, eh!? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Chunky Posted September 14, 2012 Author Share Posted September 14, 2012 I just would like a chance at a possible relationship with her. If you've read my other posts on here, you will know that I just got out of a relationship where the girl wasn't truthful with me about her feelings. Now, this new girl seems to like me and I've talked with her on the phone and she is nice. I look forward to seeing her in person and hopefully getting to know her better. I just don't want distance to be a factor. When I first started talking with her I thought that it was only 50 miles which I didn't think was so bad. I suppose and extra 20 miles isn't that much of a difference, especially when it comes to love. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Chunky Posted September 25, 2012 Author Share Posted September 25, 2012 Update! This coming weekend I will be meeting her face to face. We have plans to see a movie and go out for dinner. I'm very excited to finally get to see her. We've talked on the phone and have texted for about a month. I've seen many pictures of her on her Facebook page so I know she's pretty. I hope everything works out ok. Link to post Share on other sites
Minka333 Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 First off, good luck with your meeting. Hope it turns out great.. Re your question, from my experience it is very very doable. My bf lives almost 70 miles away from me but almost always visits me everyday during his days off. He works 3x a week. The remaining 4 days he spends with me. He even works nightshift and ends up 7am. No sleep and he would drive all the way to my apartment..buy food..and rest at my place. I truly admire him for that:D I think when you truly love someone you will have the energy,passion and drive to make the relationship work with small sacrifices irregardless of the distance. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mysteryscape Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 In fact, it might be an advantage -- if you only see each other on weekends, you will be more eager, but it might help keep both of you from going overboard too fast. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
esstea Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 No. Simple as that. Link to post Share on other sites
bluegreen Posted September 26, 2012 Share Posted September 26, 2012 O you have got to be kidding me Link to post Share on other sites
Chris516 Posted September 26, 2012 Share Posted September 26, 2012 I met this nice lady on a dating web site. The problem is that she lives 70 miles away. Do you think that is to far away to have a relationship? It takes about an hour and a half to get there, so it's not like it's thousands of miles or something. I just wanted some advice. Thank you! Not far at all. I wish I was only 70mi. from my fiance. Instead, I am twenty-five times farther than 70mi. Link to post Share on other sites
Ani Posted September 30, 2012 Share Posted September 30, 2012 70 miles? Really wow. I drove 32 hours to see my girlfriend for a day. And it was worth it. If it was 70 miles I'd to it so often it wouldn't even be considered an LDR. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Chunky Posted October 4, 2012 Author Share Posted October 4, 2012 Update! I went and was with her for almost 4 days. I got home on Monday October 1st. We had a nice visit and really enjoyed each others company. We went to lunch and a movie. Her parents love me already and her son thinks I'm good for his mother. She's going to come stay with me this weekend. We also had our first kiss when I boarded the bus for my return home. I bought myself a cell phone today so she can text me as often as she wants. I have a really good feeling about her. She's awesome! I can't believe how lucky I am right now! Link to post Share on other sites
TMichaels Posted October 4, 2012 Share Posted October 4, 2012 Congrats, Chunky! Hope things continue to go well. Keep us posted. Best, TMichaels Link to post Share on other sites
Author Chunky Posted October 9, 2012 Author Share Posted October 9, 2012 Update! Tomorrow I'm going to take another bus trip up to see her. We've been flirting a lot on the phone and texting like mad. I'm falling hard for this girl. I'm going to really enjoy my visit this week. I'll be up there for four days. I bought a present for her son that he'll love. It's going so good for us right now. We are in the just starting to kiss phase and I'm liking that very much. I've never dated a girl who flirted with me as much as she does. Wish me luck! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LittleTiger Posted October 9, 2012 Share Posted October 9, 2012 Update! Tomorrow I'm going to take another bus trip up to see her. We've been flirting a lot on the phone and texting like mad. I'm falling hard for this girl. I'm going to really enjoy my visit this week. I'll be up there for four days. I bought a present for her son that he'll love. It's going so good for us right now. We are in the just starting to kiss phase and I'm liking that very much. I've never dated a girl who flirted with me as much as she does. Wish me luck! Good luck! Glad things are going so well for you. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted October 9, 2012 Share Posted October 9, 2012 70 miles. I'd kill for 70 miles. Try 4000. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted October 9, 2012 Share Posted October 9, 2012 I can't express how happy I'd be if me and my partner could live within 70, 100 or 200 miles of each other, 70 miles seems local to me. But it's all relative, as I only live 800 miles from him, on different continents, so that's probably nothing compared to your 4000 miles! 70 miles though wouldn't be a problem or an issue for me, or for many of us in this forum, but maybe that's because we're used to dealing with far more distance. 70 miles. I'd kill for 70 miles. Try 4000. Link to post Share on other sites
HeartOnSleeve Posted October 9, 2012 Share Posted October 9, 2012 Sure hope 70 miles isn't too far...my bf is about to be 2,750 miles away Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
LittleTiger Posted October 9, 2012 Share Posted October 9, 2012 70 miles. I'd kill for 70 miles. Try 4000. 4000 miles? I'd kill for 4000 miles. Try 12,000! Sorry, couldn't resist! As HOH says, it's all relative. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted October 9, 2012 Share Posted October 9, 2012 :laugh: 4000 miles? I'd kill for 4000 miles. Try 12,000! Sorry, couldn't resist! As HOH says, it's all relative. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 9, 2012 Share Posted October 9, 2012 My exW and I lived around 60 miles apart when we met through OLD. We continued to 'commute', spending weekends at each other's homes as the relationship progressed, until moving in together after getting married. I don't recall the distance really being an issue for myself and I presume not for her since she drove as much as I did and ended up moving in with me since I owned a home. If it works for both people, it works. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Chunky Posted October 10, 2012 Author Share Posted October 10, 2012 Update! I wasn't able to go see her today. Because she had three seizures. She's doing better and I should be on my way to see her tomorrow. Keeping my fingers crossed. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Chunky Posted October 12, 2012 Author Share Posted October 12, 2012 Update! I just got back today from seeing her. She told me she hasn't gotten over her ex boyfriend. So I guess we will not be seeing each other anymore. I thought things were going good too. Link to post Share on other sites
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