esco Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 i cant get my mind off of her, I cant do anything, I am emotinally and mentally crippled, everybody keeps tlling me, if you love her, let her go and if she comes back to you then she is yours forever, but if she doesnt than it was never meant to be...its not that easy for me, I dont want anything but her Link to post Share on other sites
Blah Toolz Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 I know how you feel, man... I've been through these feelings before. I was with a girl for 2 years, and I thought she was the one. I know how worthless it makes you feel... but trust me, you will get better. What you have to do is make sure you're taking care of yourself. Go out and buy yourself some new clothes, treat yourself to some DVDs, new music CDs, or whatever. Get yourself a gym membership, and stay busy. Pray to God everynight to give you the strength to get through this... and know that in the end, things will work out. Stop contacting her, if you still are... I know that all you want is her. Sometimes I still tell myself that I don't want any other girl, but you also have to try to get out there and socialize. I'm not saying you have to go out and get a new girlfriend, in fact, I would recommend that you don't. Realize that there are so many other people out there that you can make friends with, and have a good time with. Keep her wondering man, if you keep pursuing her now, it's not going to make a difference. She's already made up her mind... just give it some time. You'll make it through, bro. I did it, you can do it too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author esco Posted July 23, 2004 Author Share Posted July 23, 2004 thanks man, i hope i do get through this, all i do is go out these days, I spend ALL of my money, i go to parties, but everything at the mall, but i cant get her out my head Link to post Share on other sites
Ms_Sweetness Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 I agree with Blah, but these things take time. You can't expect to heal overnight. Link to post Share on other sites
Author esco Posted July 23, 2004 Author Share Posted July 23, 2004 you want to know the truth, i used to to do alot of stuff i wasnt supposed too, (read between the lines), the way i would make my money was wrong, i was looked at as a no good thug, a crook, a drug dealer, etc...but then she came into my life and i changed, if she leaves me, what am i supposed to do? Go back to that lifestyle, i cant do that, shes my reason to be, i am trying now, i have an actually job, im trying in school, but only because of her... When you love someone it gives you courage, but being loved by someone gives you strength Link to post Share on other sites
Ms_Sweetness Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 Of course you shouldn't go back to that lifestyle. There is this saying that basically states thate everyone who comes into your life is put there for a reason, some people are meant to stay and others are not. Perhaps this particular girl was put into your life so that you could change for the better. She may have been there just to sort of push you and encourage you and show you that you can live a better and more healthy lifestyle. I know this probably doesn't help much at this point in time, however, I have been where you've been, but I just kept reminding myself that everything happens for a reason and people come and go. The next girl you meet may make you even happier, you just never know what's in store for you. Just don't go back to your old way of life, that won't solve anything. Link to post Share on other sites
Author esco Posted July 23, 2004 Author Share Posted July 23, 2004 i dont know how to do anything else, i'm sixteen, once you have been doing something for a certain amount of time, and thats all you have ever been around, everything else just goes away, if we break up, i'm almost certain that i will completly fall apart, i dont wanna go back to that life, but there is no future bright for me right now, she is all i have...nothing matters Link to post Share on other sites
Ms_Sweetness Posted July 23, 2004 Share Posted July 23, 2004 Why did the two of you break up? Link to post Share on other sites
Author esco Posted July 23, 2004 Author Share Posted July 23, 2004 thats the thing, we didnt break up, we just grew apart, she used to tell me how much she loves me and how perfect things would be, but now, shes calling me saying we might break up and her love has faded for me, I havent seen her in a while and she leaves for japan tomorrow for two weeks Link to post Share on other sites
kgal Posted July 24, 2004 Share Posted July 24, 2004 Hey esco.. Just give it time.....I know it hurts...and it can be scary. Obviously, you've put alot of yourself into her..and made her a part of your life...to the point where she was your life? Well...I can tell you that I felt the same...when I broke up w/my ex. I had known him for 8 yrs...and felt like I lost him....felt miserable. I now realize...that we can still try to be friends...but you shouldn't waste your life living for man....afterall...you can't build a house on an unstable foundation. You said you had a pretty messed up life before her? Well...count her as a blessing....she was sent to help you...and now maybe the Lord is going to take you to bigger and better places...just wait it out. I know it's hard...but hold on. I promise things will work out for you....and you have all the support of the Loveshack peeps. Hey.....have faith....you can do it!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
lostindeed Posted July 24, 2004 Share Posted July 24, 2004 keep the faith brother, I am going through a tough time also. But I believe that you should hang in there because I know how it feels but you will make it through just like I will if you would like to read my story its under break ups (she says we are on hold) its so hard but like the others forum members say tomorrow is a better day Link to post Share on other sites
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