aussiescotsman Posted September 16, 2012 Share Posted September 16, 2012 Hi everyone, I've been chatting to an amazing Aussie girl for about 6-7 months. She's smart, funny, beautiful... Everything that I could ever hope for. We've talked pretty much every day either by Twitter, Skype or on the phone over those 6-7 months and I'm actually due to move out there in three weeks on a year's working visa to see how things go. We're both really excited but we're also both stressing out quite a lot and we've had a couple of fights recently because of the stress of the situation. It's the sort of thing where one or the other has been freaked out because of all of the unknowns... Will it work in real life? Will they find me attractive? What if there's just no spark? Those sorts of questions. We both have stresses with work and family at the moment that we try to communicate as best as we can but I guess that they may contribute to our recent falling out. Even just as much as being able to put my arms around her may have been enough in these situations. We both know that there's a chance that it might not work out but we're both optimistic that it will. For me personally, I've never wanted something so much in my entire life. I think she feels the same. I guess what I'm trying to ask is what's the best way to stop the anxiety and fears from causing arguments. They tend to get smoothed over pretty quickly and we're back to laughing and missing each other heaps but it's obviously stressful, especially as I'm moving to the exact opposite side of the planet! Anyway, thanks for your help. Link to post Share on other sites
bluegreen Posted September 16, 2012 Share Posted September 16, 2012 Every single person here is petrified my self included of those what if's Only thing we can do is "try" and see it for what it really is of course all the while praying please let it work God not trying to make fun of your situation at all but it is funny scary intriguing crazy insane and so much more. Fingers crossed buddy and g luck Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 what's the best way to stop the anxiety and fears from causing arguments. Removing the anxiety factor for starters. You should know what she likes and makes her feel more secure about you. She should know about you too. Let the other be your focus for a while and see if it works. Meet the other's expectations. Exceed them. Link to post Share on other sites
bluegreen Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 Yap we can all help coach advise but at the end its all on you and her ... Link to post Share on other sites
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