Super Akin Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 (edited) It's very possible that I'll be ending it soon, but I don't want to Here's the deal, My Girlfriend had been busy 4-5 months into our relationship due to her nursing and school. However now she is out of school and is just job searching. I thought this would give us some more time to do things but that's not the case. Whenever I ask her to do calls over Tango she always has some excuse(she says its not an excuse) But it goes like this "My connection is messed up" "Tango isn't working" "I have family over" and this weekend she had a sore throat and a bad cough. During this time we constantly talk during text but its like she doesnt want to do anything else with me. The last time I talked with her over the phone was in August. With this in mind I told her I'm thinking about ending the relationship and that I'll make my decision in two weeks. I told her this because I'm unhappy with the amount of attention she's putting into the relationship. She claims she loves me and wants it to work but she cant help being sick and what not, but as soon as she's well she's going to start calling. However even when we did talk earlier in it would only be 1-2 calls a week or 1 call every other week. Is my relationship just doomed or what, we spent a while arguing over it and I told her what I want out of the relationship and in two weeks she said she's going to put more effort in. Honestly I don't know whats going to happen but I feel like it will just come to it's inevitable end and I don't know what to do:lmao: By the way, I've yet to meet her yet I live in the US and she lives in London. She says I'm just being insecure (partially true) but I feel she's just being too distant. Edited September 17, 2012 by Super Akin Link to post Share on other sites
bluegreen Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 Nursing school stressful as hell job searching in USA at the moment is actual hell Your problem is not distance its her actually your love and relationship should be source of comfort caring loving trough the issues you both face and distance not reasons to be miserable alone and lonely. And if she is not doing that then she is not invested enough in it sure she is interested but not "enough" sure she loves you but not enough to commit the time attention and care you need and SURE you should break up with her and maybe that will be wake up call for her or it will end right there. And one last sure you deserve what you give and are willing to offer it just does not seem you will get it with her .... Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 The deal was you had to meet before committing each other in a serious relationship, so you're in some hybrid situation right now. You think she's your girlfriend, she's not seeing you as a real boyfriend. Get your a-- out of the US and fly there. After that it will get real. If it doesn't work, at least you have tried your best. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Super Akin Posted September 17, 2012 Author Share Posted September 17, 2012 The deal was you had to meet before committing each other in a serious relationship, so you're in some hybrid situation right now. You think she's your girlfriend, she's not seeing you as a real boyfriend. Get your a-- out of the US and fly there. After that it will get real. If it doesn't work, at least you have tried your best. Being a college student makes that a bit hard at the time being. I'm confused now so if she neglects me now she wont neglect me later if I meet her is what you're saying? Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 Being a college student makes that a bit hard at the time being. I'm confused now so if she neglects me now she wont neglect me later if I meet her is what you're saying? I'm saying that if you don't take it to the next level (a real relationship, not just virtual), you're not going anywhere with her. I think she's right not investing too much into this kind of relationship, because you have never met one another. You are having the expectations of a real boyfriend. If it's impossible for you to go there, you can't have high expectations. So keep it real. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Super Akin Posted September 17, 2012 Author Share Posted September 17, 2012 I'm saying that if you don't take it to the next level (a real relationship, not just virtual), you're not going anywhere with her. I think she's right not investing too much into this kind of relationship, because you have never met one another. You are having the expectations of a real boyfriend. If it's impossible for you to go there, you can't have high expectations. So keep it real. Let's say I could, wouldn't it be bad to go if her interest level was low? Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 Let's say I could, wouldn't it be bad to go if her interest level was low? No, it's win or lose. Always better than being on tenterhooks. Link to post Share on other sites
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